Yesterday at a Richardson High School assembly in Texas, students got some … interesting … relationship advice. Motivational speaker Justin Lookadoo — now appropriately deemed #LookADouche by the students — shared questionable “tips” such as telling students that “dateable girls know how to shut up.”
I’m sure that went over wonderfully with fragile 14-year-olds’ self-esteem. Keep reading »
Sometimes I think about how cool it would be to do a back handspring, but then I get kind of dizzy and I have to sit down and swear to myself I won’t think about it again for a long time. An Atlanta high school cheerleader named Mikayla Clark has a very different approach to thinking about back handsprings: she thinks about them, and then she does them, and then she thinks about breaking the Guinness World Record for most consecutive back handsprings, and she does it. Last week, 16-year-old Clark shattered the world record by doing 44 back handsprings in a row — I repeat, IN A ROW — at Westlake High School’s homecoming football game. You must watch this video of her feat, because it’s insane. Like a much bouncier and more flexible Energizer Bunny, she just keeps going and going and going… [People]
The sad truth is that body snarking may not ever end. The pressure to look a certain way may just continue to get worse. The eating disorders and thinking disorders that accompany poor body image may keep spiraling out of control. The disconnection and hatred women feel for their bodies may only grow stronger. The dehumanization, objectification, and transmogrification of the female body may continue to flourish. The way we see it, the only way to protect ourselves from this sad truth is to steel ourselves against it. We might not have grown up armed with the right tools to fight the wolf in the cereal bowl or the mean boys on the playground or the airbrushed models in magazines, but we can prepare the next generation of young women to brush these messages off and treat their bodies with kindness and respect.
Below are 10 powerful body affirmations to help young women to stay strong and love their bodies in spite of all the insidious messages to the contrary. Because in crazy, complicated times like these, “Love your body” just doesn’t cut it anymore. Share this list with the young women in your life who might need a dose of body positivity, or use it to remind yourself that all of us, and all of our bodies, deserve better.
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A couple weeks ago, we brought you the crazy story of Kiera Wilmot, a 16-year-old student in Florida whose ill-fated science experiment got her arrested and charged with a felony. Wilmot was set to be tried as an adult in Florida’s notoriously tough court system, but thanks to a public backlash and internet campaign, she was able to get a lawyer who represented her for almost no charge and the state of Florida finally dropped the charges against her on Wednesday. But the good news doesn’t stop there… Keep reading »
High school students wear underwear. Middle schoolers, even!
Crazy, I know. That’s who Victoria’s Secret’s new line, Bright Young Things, is targeting: the girls who are a little too young for the Pink line of mostly cotton panties, thongs, sweatpants and tees.
This is making lots of people upset.
Pink’s Bright Young Things line is an extension of those products, but marketed directly towards teens and tweens. Panties from the Bright Young Things lime include lacy panties and thongs with slogans reading “Feeling Lucky?”, “Call Me” and “Wild.” Said Limited Brands’ Chief Financial Officer Stuart Burgdoerfer at a conference in January, “When somebody’s 15 or 16 years old, what do they want to be? They want to be older, and they want to be cool like the girl in college, and that’s part of the magic of what we do at Pink.” Keep reading »
We love Amy Poehler’s website Smart Girls At The Party, which aims to inspire and empower teen girls, so we’re super excited for the launch of Smart Girls’ new series, “Ask Amy.” In the series, Amy answers reader emails while lounging on the bed like the cool aunt we always wished we had. The first question comes from a 14-year-old who wants to know how to feel pretty when her dad won’t let her wear makeup. Watch the video to hear Amy’s thoughtful answer! [YouTube]
My senior year of college I mentored a group of teen girls at an alternative high school outside of Portland, and it was one of the most powerful and moving experiences I’ve ever had. Not only did I meet my best friend in the process (she was my co-mentor), I saw what an amazing impact we can have on the lives of teens if we just give them a safe space to express themselves. The 5 young women in the group didn’t know each other that well, and they didn’t know my friend and me at all, but when we gathered around a table and asked them to tell us about their lives, the results were absolutely magical. I’ve always believed that since I made it out of adolescence relatively unscathed, the least I can do is offer other young women a little guidance and support along the way. Whether you’re an aunt, a big sister, or a family friend of a teenage girl, you can make a huge difference in that young woman’s life, so I encourage you to reach out and try.
Here are a few lessons I’ve learned in my years of mentoring. Every girl’s communication style is unique, and every interaction might not be perfect, but remember: every conversation is valuable, and every effort really does make a difference. Keep reading »
Turns out you can blame more than just your crappy prom night on that d-bag who broke your heart back in high school! A University Of Maine study has confirmed that the quality of a woman’s early romances can be seen as an indicator for depression. If a girl is constantly looking for reassurance in the form of a boyfriend, she’s more likely to become depressed, especially if the guys she’s gotten involved with are jerks. The biggest red flags were nagging your boo to tell you they love you all the time, complaining about the same things over and over again, and the “totally deep,” er, excessive discussion of your personal problems. So, basically, anything you liked to do with your BF when you were a teenager was bad for you. Bummer. (Yeah, those cigarettes you sneaked count too, but they’re not part of this study.) Keep reading »
Confession: I’ve never listened to a Miley Cyrus
song before in my life, save the one time I watched her strut around a stripper pole
while singing “Party In The U.S.A.” at an awards show last year. I always thought she was a cheesy Disney star with crap parents who have bad judgment. But now I am obsessed — no, make that OBSESSED
— with Miley’s new single “Can’t Be Tamed.” (And it’s not just because I want a giant nest and peacock feather wings
like she’s got in the video.)
The reason I love Miley’s new song is because she’s a young, 17-year-old girl singing, “I can’t be tamed, I can’t be saved, I can’t be blamed, I can’t be tamed, I can’t be changed … They try to change me but they realize they can’t.” And that’s a message teenaged girls of America — hell, the women of America — couldn’t hurt to hear. I wish a song like this had been popular when I was a teen. Keep reading »