My pregnancy with my first daughter was blessedly uneventful; this one, however, was indeed an event. It took two families, three states, four doctors, and five attorneys to get this little girl here. And while our gestational carrier has no genetic tie to our little one, she is now our family. She gave our daughter love, safety, and nourishment for nine months. On Valentine’s Day, she gave her life and placed her in our arms. Her immediate and extended families have supported all of us along the way. They crowded the hospital room this weekend and shared in our joy. We are all bonded for life and our daughter has a bevy of grandparents, aunties, and siblings tied to her by blood and love. … Now begin the sleepless nights, anxious moments and inexpressible joy of new parenting. We strive to be worthy of the miracle we have received.
This weekend, I saw MSNBC host Melissa Harris-Perry tweet the above picture of herself and her newborn daughter and thought, Wait, did I just totally MISS that she was pregnant?!?! Then I incorrectly assumed she had adopted. But in a piece this morning on the MSNBC website, Melissa explained how she and her husband have in fact welcomed their baby girl via a gestational surrogate. Although Melissa was able to give birth to one daughter, who is now a tween, she has been suffering from uterine fibroids so severe that she had her uterus removed in 2008. Shortly after the hysterectomy, however, Melissa met the man she would later go on to marry, James Perry, and they wanted to have children together. They’ve been fortunate enough to have a gestational surrogate who was able to conceive their child through IVF. On Valentine’s Day, all the families welcomed a beautiful baby girl. I’m bummed MHP won’t be on Nerdland during her maternity leave, but who could want to take her away from that sweet little face? Congratulations, Melissa and James! [MSNBC]
Elton John is father to a new baby boy! The “Rocket Man” singer became father of his own little “Tiny Dancer” on December 25, with his husband David Furnish. Zachary Jackson Levon Furnish-John was born via anonymous surrogate in California. “We are overwhelmed with happiness and joy at this very special moment,” the couple told UsWeekly.com in a joint statement. “Zachary is healthy and doing really well, and we are very proud and happy parents.” Sir Elton and Furnish have been married since 2005. Damn, Zachary is going to inherit some kick-ass costumes. Congratulations to both the fathers! [US Weekly] Keep reading »
Sarah Jessica Parker and Matthew Broderick have released their first family pic with newborn twin girls, Marion and Tabitha (who a surrogate popped out last Monday), alongside big brother James Wilkie. Looks like this family won’t be going the gender-neutral route—notice how the girls are in pink and the boys are in blue. [People]
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In last weekend’s edition of the New York Times Magazine, Alex Kuczynski, the author of Beauty Junkies, writes about having a baby by surrogate in “Her Body, My Baby.” In her late 30s, Kuczynski couldn’t get pregnant. Over the course of several years, she tried in vitro fertilization and miscarried multiple times. Finally, she found a surrogate mother who would carry, as she puts it, “the product of my egg and my husband’s sperm.” It’s a story about the lengths a woman will go to have a baby — but it’s also a story only a wealthy woman could tell, as Kuczynksi and her financier husband spent over $100,000 to make her baby dreams come true. (The surrogate was paid $25,000 for the use of her womb.) In the article’s comments, readers are tearing Kuczynski apart, deeming her a “disgusting… spoiled brat” and a “rich, self-obsessed snob,” while far fewer others are commending her for telling her story at all. So, what do you think? Has the high-tech business of baby-making gone too far? Or is having a baby by any means necessary a 21st century fertility reality? Keep reading »