Tag Archives: success

This Successful 22-Year-Old College Graduate Kind Of Wishes She Could Just Be Poor

We Want Money
Today's Lady News photo
Young women want to earn money more than their male counterparts. Read More »
Girl Talk: I Quit My Job
How did it turn out for this author? Read More »
What "Girls" Got Right
13 things from the premiere that seemed universally accurate. Read More »

Here’s a comforting thought: while our planet threatens to transmogrify into an Easy Bake oven, the world economy teeters on the edge of collapse, and Scientology is permitted to exist as a viable religion and way of life, there’s a 22-year-old out there who’s bummed out because she’s never been poor. Taylor Cotter, a 2012 graduate of Northeastern University, grieves the fact that just two months after completing her Journalism degree, she has an editorial job, a car, an apartment, and a 401k, none of which factor into the “10-cents-a-word” life she always dreamed of. It’s not surprising, coming from a girl who begins her lament, titled “A Struggle of Not Struggling,” by stating that “like most female journalists,” her only two inspirations in life were Carrie Bradshaw and Harriet the Spy, and it makes me wonder — has Cotter, who lives outside of Boston, ever actually been to New York City? Keep reading »

Girl Talk: How I Finally Stopped Comparing Myself To My Ex

For years after my ex and I broke up, I used to like to play this game where I’d compare myself to him. This was not a fun game. He had just written a bestselling novel, was living with his girlfriend, and bought a house. I felt like he had really “made it” in every way that mattered – career, relationship, and home. But after all this time I was still struggling and still single. Failing, it felt like. A failure. Keep reading »

What Makes A Relationship Successful?

Sandra Tsing Loh’s essay, “Let’s Call The Whole Thing Off” in this month’s Atlantic, which advises people to avoid marriage lest they “suffer the emotional pain, the humiliation, and the logistical difficulty” of divorce is raising a few eyebrows and some interesting questions. In response to Tsing Loh’s confession that after 20 years her marriage has failed, Meghan O’Rourke at Double X wonders: if a marriage that lasts 20 years, produces “two kids and a lot of domestic support” isn’t a success, what is? Why is a marriage considered successful only if it ends in death and not before? Is a marriage that ends in divorce really less successful than an unhealthy, dysfunctional, perhaps even abusive relationship that remains legally intact? Keep reading »

What Would You Do If You Knew You Couldn’t Fail?

Over at The Huffington Post, Dr. Judith Rich poses an interesting question: what would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail? Often we stop ourselves from pursuing our desire to try something, because of fear that we won’t succeed. But if you took that out of the equation — if failure wasn’t possible — what would you do? Initially when I read this question, I thought, “Fly!” I always was a dreamer. But realistically speaking, there’s so much I would do if I knew my fears were misplaced. I would take up surfing, finally master that headstand in yoga, and, obviously, ask Ryan Gosling out on a date. So what would YOU do? Keep reading »