Posts tagged "submissive"

On Making The Case For Kink As A Sexual Orientation

Today on is an excellent piece about why “kinky” should be considered a sexual orientation. Writer Jillian Keenan posits how we define a person’s sexual orientation should include what kind of energies turn a person on — dominant or submissive, for example — because for people like Keenan and myself, our sexuality is more…

Jessica Wakeman / August 18, 2014

Everything Joe & Melissa Gorga Might Want To Know About Actual Dominant/Submissive Relationships, But Are Too Afraid To Ask

It’s difficult to walk away from an episode of “Real Housewives of New Jersey” without thinking to oneself, “Every single one of these women needs massive amounts of therapy” … yet we do it in a way that keeps us TiVoing their table-flipping drama week after week. But a new book published by Melissa Gorga, called Love

Jessica Wakeman / September 25, 2013

True Story: I Can Be A Kinky Feminist & A Messy Human Being

A few years ago ….

Today, in 2012, I avoid him as much as I can. But my friend (?) Richard used to joke (?) that I only called him when I broke up with my boyfriends. Kinda true, kinda false. Regardless — a few years ago — I don’t even call him…

Clarisse Thorn / November 2, 2012

Today’s Lady News: Obedient Wives Club Spreads Through Southeast Asia

(Cue Stefan voice) Southeast Asia’s hottest club is the Obedient Wives Club, where Muslim women cure problems like domestic violence and prostitution by being “submissive” to their husbands and giving them whatever they want in the bedroom. Good luck with that, ladies. Let me know how it goes. [Guardian UK]
The 14 men and boy…

Jessica Wakeman / July 6, 2011

Today’s Lady News: “In The Bedroom, Inequality Beats Equality”

“Men are aroused by being dominant and by submissive women, women are aroused by being submissive and by dominant men,” writes Ogi Ogas, Ph.D. in Psychology Today. “In the bedroom, inequality beats equality.” Those broad sweeping statements are fighting words, PT! Speaking strictly for myself, I agree with Ogi. But I wonder if other folk…

Jessica Wakeman / April 11, 2011

Rihanna Loves A Good Spanking

“Being submissive in the bedroom is really fun. You get to be a little lady, to have somebody be macho and in charge of your s**t. That’s fun to me … I like to be spanked. Being tied up is fun. I like to keep it spontaneous. Sometimes whips and chains can be overly planned…

Jessica Wakeman / March 30, 2011

Girl Talk: I’m A Feminist, But I Think I Want To Date A More Traditional Dude

One of the defining tensions in my life has always been reconciling my feminist political beliefs, my desire for a respectful and egalitarian relationship, and my attraction to more traditional alpha males. I passionately believe in women’s equality, in reproductive rights, and in equal pay for equal work. And I want to be in a…

Jessica Wakeman / January 28, 2011

Why Do Strong Women Like To Be Dominated?

Imagine a woman: She has a college degree and a job, she pays for her own house and car, and she’s not intimidated by any man for any reason. She’s smart, independent and strong.

Isn’t it a puzzle, then, that she has sexual fantasies of being dominated?

Actually, researchers say, it makes perfect

Jessica Wakeman / May 29, 2009