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Republican Politician Cites Bible, Writes That Wives Should Submit To Husbands

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  • Last month, Republican Representative Steve Pearce of New Mexico published a memoir in which he wrote about his Biblical belief that a wife should “submit” to her husband as part of her “obedience to the Lord.” [Huffington Post]
  • In remembrance of today being the 41st anniversary of the Supreme Court’s Roe vs. Wade decision effectively legalizing abortion, Cosmopolitan spoke with four couples about how having an abortion changed their relationship. [Cosmopolitan]
  • Meanwhile, the Washington Post interviewed two young women who are anti-abortion activists. And they put it in the Style section! [Washington Post] Keep reading »

Candace Cameron Bure — That’s DJ Tanner From “Full House” — Is Submissive To Her Husband

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We know that Hollywood’s Cameron family, Candace Cameron Bure, who was on “Full House,” and Kirk Cameron, who was on “Growing Pains,” are both evangelical Christians. So it doesn’t surprise me at all that Candace informed HuffPost Live that she takes a submissive role in her marriage to Valeri Bure, a retired National Hockey League player.

Candance was speaking about her new book, Balancing It All, particularly a passage about her husband’s “desire to have the final decision on just about everything”:

“My husband is a natural-born leader. I quickly learned that I had to find a way of honoring his take-charge personality and not get frustrated about his desire to have the final decision on just about everything. I am not a passive person, but I chose to fall into a more submissive role in our relationship because I wanted to do everything in my power to make my marriage and family work.” Keep reading »

Armie Hammer Was Into “Dominant” Sex Until He Got Married, Dismisses 50 Shades As “Mommy Porn”

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Well, if you’re married to a feminist [journalist, restaurateur and actress Elizabeth Chambers] as I am, then it’s…. I don’t know how much we can put here without my parents being embarrassed, but I used to like to be a dominant lover. I liked the grabbing of the neck and the hair and all that. But then you get married and your sexual appetites change. And I mean that for the better—it’s not like I’m suffering in any way. But you can’t really pull your wife’s hair. It gets to a point where you say, “I respect you too much to do these things that I kind of want to do.” … The two us will literally break out laughing in the middle of it, finish up and be like, “Well, that was oddly fun!” So it becomes a new kind of thing that’s less about “I want to dominate you” and more about both of us having a really good time. It’s just a different style.

Hey, Armie Hammer in Playboy, whaddya saying? Feminists can’t like dominant sex?! Not true! You can totally pull your wife’s hair anytime you want! I am curious as to why his sexual appetite changed for the better, in his opinion, after marriage. Perhaps having dominant/submissive sex was less intimate to him than whatever kind of sex he has with his wife.

After the jump, why we won’t be seeing Armie Hammer’s gorgeous mug onscreen in “50 Shades Of Grey,” ever: Keep reading »

Gabrielle Reece Is A Submissive Wife To Husband Laird Hamilton

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Gabrielle Reece On Submitting To Her Husband

Professional volleyball player Gabrielle Reese is promoting a new memoir, My Foot Is Too Big For The Glass Slipper, which hops on the bandwagon of a somewhat popular theme for memoirs-by-strong-ladies these days: she says her life and marriage have improved by being “submissive” to her husband, pro surfer Laird Hamilton.  Keep reading »

The Soapbox: On Abuse Within Kink (Or This One Time Some Really Bad Stuff Happened To Me)

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Recently I went home with a kinky man after our first date. The experience phased in and out of being consensual throughout the night. I distinctly left his apartment feeling violated and I continued to feel violated for several days after.

We found each other online because both of us were interested in dominant/submissive (D/s) sex, particularly in spanking. I thought this man would be dominant in bed, as per his online dating profile and a conversation we’d had about it on our date. But instead of just dominant, he was controlling. Before we started playing, I told him the “safe word” I wanted to use. A safe word is a word or phrase used by kinky people during sexual play that they want the play to stop immediately; I never play with a partner without one. To my surprise, this guy told me that safe word I chose was “terrible” and to use something else. That raised a red flag right off the bat.

Another red flag came at one point during play when he called me a “bitch.” I’m not against being called names in bed. In fact, with a partner whom I know and trust, being called a “bad girl” or a “slut” can be really hot! But we never had a conversation about using words like that, and if we had, I would have told him that the word “bitch” was not OK with me.   Keep reading »

On Alisa Valdes’s Conflict With Feminism, Her Cowboy & Domestic Abuse

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If you’ve been reading the blogosphere lately, you’ve likely heard about Alisa Valdes and her memoir, The Feminist And The Cowboy: An Unlikely Love Story. Valdes is the author several romance novels and the debut novel The Dirty Girls Social Club (as Valdes-Rodriguez), which landed her all kinds of accolades. She was even named one of the top feminist writers under 30 by Ms. magazine. Then, somewhere along the way, her feminist principles started to chafe: she felt like men were emasculated (“icky ‘liberal’ men,” she calls them in the book) and she resented feeling like women wore the pants. Soon Valdes fell for a Fox News-watching, macho cowboy who exuded an alpha male sexiness and she started to submit to him in their relationship. As the Amazon.com description of The Feminist And The Cowboy says, Valdes discovered ” “when men … act like men rather than like emasculated boys, you as a woman will find not only great pleasure in submitting to them but also great growth as a person.”

Alas, it didn’t quite work out the way. In fact, following the publication of The Feminist And The Cowboy, Valdes has now come forward to say the cowboy raped and physically and emotionally abused her.   Keep reading »

True Story: I Can Be A Kinky Feminist & A Messy Human Being

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A few years ago ….

Today, in 2012, I avoid him as much as I can. But my friend (?) Richard used to joke (?) that I only called him when I broke up with my boyfriends. Kinda true, kinda false. Regardless — a few years ago — I don’t even call him this time, I just end up at his apartment for some small party.

He scents the pain in me, and suddenly we’re in a back room, alone. One of the reasons he’s so good at this is that he smells vulnerability like a shark smells blood. I don’t remember whether I ask him to hurt me, or he just grabs me. “Something’s close to the surface,” I tell him, while he leaves bite-shaped bruises on my upper arm. He knows me; he doesn’t leave bruises in places I can’t cover with a t-shirt.

“What is it?” he asks, and I choke on it. I’m already starting to cry. We’ve only been doing this for a moment.

“Red,” I say. The safeword. I’m sobbing. “Red.” Richard stops immediately. “Tears,” I say. “Tears were close to the surface.” Keep reading »

Lady Gaga Talks Feminism, Makeup & Submission

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“You know what’s so funny is, I actually think there’s a new feminism that is completely different and I don’t think either is better or worse. Any kind of feminist has valid views for herself about what it means to be a feminist, but, as a new-age feminist, I would say I quite like the transference of strength I feel by submitting to a man – being under him. I actually wrote a song about it on my album, it’s called “GUY” and it stands for “Go Under You.” So wearing makeup, smelling delicious and having suckable, kissable, edible things between your limbs is something I find strengthening because I know that when I pick the right guy, I can let him have it. Some women feel oppressed by make-up and clothing, and here’s to them, they have every right to feel that way as well.”

– Lady Gaga actually says the resonant thing about feminism — to me — that that I’ve heard a pop star say. Yes, it’s possible to be a savvy businesswoman and multi-million-record-selling pop star but also submit to a man in the bedroom for sexual fantasy! And yes, it’s possible to be a feminist and choose to wear makeup! And yes, it’s possible to be a feminist and choose not to wear makeup! I don’t know quite what Gaga is rambling about with the “suckable, kissable, edible things between your limbs” part, though. Guess she likes to play with her food? (Ironically, however, this photo was taken while she was visiting accused rapist/Wikileaks founder Julian Assange in London, proving there is no “perfect feminist.”) [Stylist UK] [Photo: Bauer-Griffin]

First Time For Everything: A Spanking Party

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“Call me in one hour and tell me your boyfriend dumped you,” I told my girl friend as we stood outside the movie theater where we had just seen “Magic Mike.” “If the party’s weird and I want to leave, I’ll say ‘Oh my God, are you okay? I’ll come meet you!’ Got it?”

“Sure thing,” my friend promised.

“I’m texting you the address I’m going to right now,” I told her, tapping on my iPhone. “Just in case these people turn out to be rapist-murderers.”

“I’m sure they’ll be fine,” she soothed me. We hugged goodbye and parted at a street corner. “Have fun!” is what she called as I walked away.

Have fun at your spanking party is what she meant. Keep reading »

Today’s Lady News: GOP Debate Asks Michele Bachmann About “Submission” To Husband

  • The GOP held a debate last night for wannabe presidential nominees and Rep. Michele Bachmann was asked about statements she has made in the past that a husband should be the head of the household and a wife should be “submissve” to him. As the moderator asked, “As president, would you submissive to your husband?” the audience booed like mad. In response, Bachmann praised her husband and said to them, “submission” means “respect.” I’m sorry, but I don’t buy that pile of BS from her. They very well may respect each other deeply, but this looks to me like she’s flip-flopping on her belief of male headship of the household in front of the cameras. What do you think? [Think Progress]
  • Sarah Palin says something sensible about the notion that if she and Michele Bachmann both ran for president there would a catfight. “It’s kind of even a sexist notion to consider that two women would be kind of duking it out,” Palin said. “If I’m gonna duke it out I’m gonna duke it out with the guys.” [Politico]
  • Feminist icon Gloria Steinem visited “The Colbert Report” last night — you should watch! [Feministing]

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