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Love & Sex

Recently, I’ve been talking to people in the BDSM community about the sexual assault allegations made against porn star James Deen by a dozen women late last year, and noticed that a number of the men I spoke with had a look of nervousness flash across their face when the subject came up. So, I started… READ MORE »


Love & Sex

He likes to be topped and she’s down to make him her bitch, but, like, HOW? James Deen has advice for dominating your man. READ MORE »


Love & Sex

Queue my domme spirit quest. READ MORE »


Love & Sex

Pornhub has proven definitively that consumption of “Fifty Shades of Grey” translates to real-life curiosity about BDSM, with a new sets of infographics on search terms immediately following the movie’s release last week. Shocker: A lot more people are searching for BDSM and BDSM-related terms than usual.

It’s women, in particular, who are… READ MORE »


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“Kink,” a documentary about the porn web site Kink.com, debuted in January at the Sundance Film Festival. Yesterday, the film, which explores the largest BDSM online porn empire, released a new trailer in anticipation of a limited release. I’ve heard complaints about the film — it’s “boring” (which is unfortunately always something that some kinky… READ MORE »


Love & Sex

Today In Things That Maybe Should Have Been Ironed Out Before He Got Married:

TMZ claims that Sherri Shepherd’s estranged husband Lamar Sally asked to add an amendment to the couple’s prenup with these alleged heady requests:

“It is my joy to submit to my husband as a way to honor… READ MORE »


Love & Sex

Last month, Republican Representative Steve Pearce of New Mexico published a memoir in which he wrote about his Biblical belief that a wife should “submit” to her husband as part of her “obedience to the Lord.” [Huffington Post]
In remembrance of today being the 41st anniversary of the Supreme Court’s Roe vs. WadeREAD MORE »


Celebs

We know that Hollywood’s Cameron family, Candace Cameron Bure, who was on “Full House,” and Kirk Cameron, who was on “Growing Pains,” are both evangelical Christians. So it doesn’t surprise me at all that Candace informed HuffPost Live that she takes a submissive role in her marriage to Valeri Bure, a retired National Hockey League… READ MORE »


Celebs

Well, if you’re married to a feminist [journalist, restaurateur and actress Elizabeth Chambers] as I am, then it’s…. I don’t know how much we can put here without my parents being embarrassed, but I used to like to be a dominant lover. I liked the grabbing of the neck and the hair and all that. READ MORE »


Celebs

Professional volleyball player Gabrielle Reese is promoting a new memoir, My Foot Is Too Big For The Glass Slipper, which hops on the bandwagon of a somewhat popular theme for memoirs-by-strong-ladies these days: she says her life and marriage have improved by being “submissive” to her husband, pro surfer Laird Hamilton.  … READ MORE »


Love & Sex

Recently I went home with a kinky man after our first date. The experience phased in and out of being consensual throughout the night. I distinctly left his apartment feeling violated and I continued to feel violated for several days after.

We found each other online because both of us were interested in… READ MORE »


Love & Sex

If you’ve been reading the blogosphere lately, you’ve likely heard about Alisa Valdes and her memoir, The Feminist And The Cowboy: An Unlikely Love Story. Valdes is the author several romance novels and the debut novel The Dirty Girls Social Club (as Valdes-Rodriguez), which landed her all kinds of accolades. She was even named one… READ MORE »


Love & Sex

A few years ago ….

Today, in 2012, I avoid him as much as I can. But my friend (?) Richard used to joke (?) that I only called him when I broke up with my boyfriends. Kinda true, kinda false. Regardless — a few years ago — I don’t even call him… READ MORE »


Celebs

“You know what’s so funny is, I actually think there’s a new feminism that is completely different and I don’t think either is better or worse. Any kind of feminist has valid views for herself about what it means to be a feminist, but, as a new-age feminist, I would say I quite like the… READ MORE »


Highlights

“Call me in one hour and tell me your boyfriend dumped you,” I told my girl friend as we stood outside the movie theater where we had just seen “Magic Mike.” “If the party’s weird and I want to leave, I’ll say ‘Oh my God, are you okay? I’ll come meet you!’ Got it?”
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News

The GOP held a debate last night for wannabe presidential nominees and Rep. Michele Bachmann was asked about statements she has made in the past that a husband should be the head of the household and a wife should be “submissve” to him. As the moderator asked, “As president, would you submissive to… READ MORE »


News

(Cue Stefan voice) Southeast Asia’s hottest club is the Obedient Wives Club, where Muslim women cure problems like domestic violence and prostitution by being “submissive” to their husbands and giving them whatever they want in the bedroom. Good luck with that, ladies. Let me know how it goes. [Guardian UK]
The 14 men and boys… READ MORE »


Love & Sex

I flogged a man last night.

Despite my Bettie Page-lite haircut and a propensity for sexual experimentation, this is not something I have done before. I did have a very brief flirtation with the field of professional dominatrix-ing, but I never got beyond the training phase due to both a poor collegiate work… READ MORE »


Love & Sex

I texted him as soon as I woke up.

“What do you want me to wear today?”

I brushed my teeth and washed my face while I waited for him to text me back.

“White button-down shirt. Tuck it in. Your jeans. Flats. Put your hair in a ponytail. READ MORE »


Love & Sex

I’ve never been afraid to ask for what I want in bed. I guess because during my teenage years I figured out I was/am a perv and I just owned it. But in my decade-plus of hooking up with dudes, I’ve come to see being clear about what I want is a bit rare: Guys… READ MORE »


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