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Today’s Lady News: GOP Debate Asks Michele Bachmann About “Submission” To Husband

Jessica WakemanAugust 12, 2011 //

  • The GOP held a debate last night for wannabe presidential nominees and Rep. Michele Bachmann was asked about statements she has made in the past that a husband should be the head of the household and a wife should be “submissve” to him. As the moderator asked, “As president, would you submissive to your husband?” the audience booed like mad. In response, Bachmann praised her husband and said to them, “submission” means “respect.” I’m sorry, but I don’t buy that pile of BS from her. They very well may respect each other deeply, but this looks to me like she’s flip-flopping on her belief of male headship of the household in front of the cameras. What do you think? [Think Progress]
  • Sarah Palin says something sensible about the notion that if she and Michele Bachmann both ran for president there would a catfight. “It’s kind of even a sexist notion to consider that two women would be kind of duking it out,” Palin said. “If I’m gonna duke it out I’m gonna duke it out with the guys.” [Politico]
  • Feminist icon Gloria Steinem visited “The Colbert Report” last night — you should watch! [Feministing]

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Today’s Lady News: Obedient Wives Club Spreads Through Southeast Asia

Jessica WakemanJuly 6, 2011 //
  • (Cue Stefan voice) Southeast Asia’s hottest club is the Obedient Wives Club, where Muslim women cure problems like domestic violence and prostitution by being “submissive” to their husbands and giving them whatever they want in the bedroom. Good luck with that, ladies. Let me know how it goes. [Guardian UK]
  • The 14 men and boys in Texas who are accused of gang-raping an 11-year-old girl in November appeared in court today. [Yahoo]
  • A bill requiring California’s public schools to include the contributions of gays, lesbians and transgender people in their history lessons is headed to Governor Jerry Brown’s desk. [Los Angeles Times]
  • If Casey Anthony were black. [Feministing]

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Girl Talk: I Was A Dominatrix For A Day

Emily McCombsNovember 4, 2010 //

I flogged a man last night.

Despite my Bettie Page-lite haircut and a propensity for sexual experimentation, this is not something I have done before. I did have a very brief flirtation with the field of professional dominatrix-ing, but I never got beyond the training phase due to both a poor collegiate work ethic and feeling massively silly. And in my personal life I tend to swing firmly toward the “S” in the “D/S” yin-yang.

But in all my genital adventuring, I have never gone for the type of melodramatic, overwrought boning that I think of as “sex nerdery.” Spank me, call me names, hold me down, but don’t make me wear some kind of pleather costume or call you “master” while you do it. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: I Wanted To Be Dominated

Jessica WakemanMarch 2, 2010 //

I texted him as soon as I woke up.

“What do you want me to wear today?”

I brushed my teeth and washed my face while I waited for him to text me back.

“White button-down shirt. Tuck it in. Your jeans. Flats. Put your hair in a ponytail. Send me a photo.”

I dressed as instructed, then stood before the wall-length mirror in my apartment’s hallway. Smiling into the mirror, I snapped a photo on my iPhone and sent it to Ben*.

Thirty seconds later, a text message: “Very nice.” Then I knew I could leave for work.

Ben was not abusive. I was not being hurt, nor was I unhappy. We were in a dominant/submissive relationship — or playing at one, anyway — and following his orders got me unbelievably, unbelievably turned on. Keep reading »

5 Moves Women Love In Bed, But Can Be Too Afraid To Ask For

Jessica WakemanMarch 1, 2010 //
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I’ve never been afraid to ask for what I want in bed. I guess because during my teenage years I figured out I was/am a perv and I just owned it. But in my decade-plus of hooking up with dudes, I’ve come to see being clear about what I want is a bit rare: Guys have told me other women become self-conscious when asking for something risqué or kinky.

So, I’m going to help you out, boys. Here are some things your lady might want, but she’s too self-conscious to ask for. Don’t pressure anything, of course — but if you offer, you may be pleasantly surprised at how enthusiastically she accepts … Keep reading »

Why Do Strong Women Like To Be Dominated?

Jessica WakemanMay 29, 2009 //

Imagine a woman: She has a college degree and a job, she pays for her own house and car, and she’s not intimidated by any man for any reason. She’s smart, independent and strong.

Isn’t it a puzzle, then, that she has sexual fantasies of being dominated?

Actually, researchers say, it makes perfect sense. Keep reading »

Thoughts From Guys On Our IM: Do You Like To Be Dominated?

Amelia McDonell-ParryFebruary 25, 2009 //

I haven’t met many men that like to be dominated on a regular basis, but most gals I know like to take charge in the bedroom, at least from time to time. Aside from obvious dominate/submissive relationships, how do regular ol’ Joes feel about women taking charge between the sheets, both is subtle ways — directing the positions and the pace — and with more obvious methods — spanking, restraints, etc.? I went to the guys on my IM to find out how they feel about being dominated. Keep reading »

Thoughts From Guys On Our IM: Are You A Dom Or A Sub?

Amelia McDonell-ParryJuly 15, 2008 //

So, one of the gossip items making the rounds today is that Jake Gyllenhaal has to live by all sorts of CUH-RAZY rules now that he is living with Reese Witherspoon and her kids. Stuff like not putting his feet on the coffee table and being openly communicative all the time. The jist of the story is that Reese is, like, a mega-dominant partner and Jake’s got to be submissive — and that he likes it that way. But it got me thinking about the dudes on my IM and whether they play the role of dominant or submissive in their relationships — in and out of the bedroom. Their responses and a tangent about gender roles, after the jump… Keep reading »