We’ve all been there: casually strolling through the self help section of Barnes & Noble trying not to make eye contact with anybody. But maybe you can save yourself the awkwardness: a Canadian study has found that if a person’s self-esteem is already in the toilet, reciting positive self-help mantras are useless. In fact, they could actually make you feel worse!
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Next time you are falling asleep and your man is crawling all over you trying get some action, tell him to eat something. After all, he’ll get more pleasure out of it. Sounds crazy, right? Well, an Australian study gave dudes a “pleasure quotient test” to figure out how much they liked certain activities. And surprise! Eating came in first, as the best and most amazing activity of all. (Us gals already knew that. Think: PMS + hot fudge sundaes.) Eating was followed by personal accomplishments and relaxing. Physical arousal came in FOURTH. That’s right. Just a fun fact you can drop when it seems appropriate. [Asylum] Keep reading »
Not long ago, I met a guy that reminded me of that sexy NPR storyteller Ira Glass. Instantly, I fell in nerd-love with this doppelganger. After dating for a while, though, we realized we had only one thing in common: sex. So we decided to be friends with benefits. According to a Michigan State University study, sixty-percent of college co-eds have been involved in an FWB relationship, and plenty of my thirty-something girlfriends were doing it to stay satisfied, so I figured I’d give the laid back, no-romantic-attachments approach to getting laid a whirl. A year later, faux-Ira and I still hang out and hump. After our most recent rendezvous last weekend, I began to wonder what I’m doing. What are the real benefits to friends with benefits? Sure, now I have an in-case-of-sexual-emergency-hit-Glass-lookalike. At the same time, I’ve started to realize my situation is causing me to question the meaning of friendship, challenging my chances at romances, and wobbling my emotional stability. Keep reading »
According to a new study, HPV is moving on up…to mouths! That’s right, just when you thought Gardasil and Cervarix solved all your problems, now you have to worry about what else you’ve been opening wide. Since the ’70s. throat cancer cases have doubled, and the research shows HPV is to blame, with 39% of all occurrences caused by the human papilloma virus. Before you go cutting your man off from his favorite foreplay, listen to this: men are 35% more likely than women to develop oral cancer from HPV. Sheesh, making a new man go downtown may be riskier than you both think! Still, there’s more bad news — as of yet, there is no way to test male genitalia for HPV or anyone’s throat to see if they’re a carrier. So, it’s a roll of the dice and doctors fear you may even be able to contract the virus from kissing. There goes all the fun! Since this throat cancer link is a new revelation, the cervical cancer vaccines haven’t been tested or proven to prevent it. So, deep throat, you might want to use a condom for oral sex or just give that random stranger a handy and call it a night! [ABC News] Keep reading »
Who gets on your nerves? If you said your spouse, you agree with most married people. (If you are single, like myself, letâ€™s take this moment to laugh at the little things that annoy us since we arenâ€™t contractually obligated to them for life.) According to a study conducted by the Institute for Social Research at the University of Michigan, the longer a couple is married, the more things they find annoying about each other. Aw, isnâ€™t love grand? While couples in their 20â€™s and 30â€™s may be vocal and try to work things out, 40-plus people just seem to give up and get along. This behavior begs the question: does keeping quiet make things better or worse? Either way, youâ€™re bound to be bothered by your ball and chain. [Afroromance] Keep reading »
According to a recent national study of sex lives, one in five French dudes, from ages 18-24, â€œhas no interest in sexâ€ and the abstinence rate in men under 35 is double that of the ladiesâ€™. To counteract the shocking switch, French women have become more aggressive and have even doubled their number of partners since the 1970s. In France, females are screwing around with as much abandon as the males have traditionally been attributed and are getting even friskier after fifty. As the 600-page report proves, French women have risen to the challenge. Their icon: First Lady/model Carla Bruni. The Italian beauty, who wed President Nicholas Sarkozy last month, has boasted about her sexploits, from Mick Jagger to Eric Clapton, and was recently quoted bashing monogamy. Three cheers for: LibertÃ©! EgalitÃ©! VajayjÃ©! [Telegraph] Keep reading »
Condom brand Durex did a study on the sexual partners of people around the world and found out the following: New Zealand’s women are the most promiscuous, averaging 20.4 sexual partners. This makes New Zealand the only country where women out-whore men. Austrian men, however, are the most promiscuous of the dudes, averaging 29.3 sexual partners (is the .3 a hand job?), more than twice the world average of 16.8 sexual partners. This is in an entire lifetime people. Um, yeah. We are soooo dangerously close to that world average for dudes, and given the fact that we are just a few years shy of 30 and we totally plan on living till at least 90, the Kiwi’s lady number is looking quite doable. Which got us wondering… Keep reading »