Have you ever wondered why you remember your first kiss so vividly, but maybe not the fourth or fifth or twentieth? Or why, perhaps even years after breaking up, you still compare potential mates to your first love and find yourself falling for people who remind you of him or her? Maybe you even repeat the behaviors you engaged in in that relationship. Have you ever considered why your first sexual experience remains among the most prominent in your mind though you’ve had much better trysts since? Or why, years and big-life experiences later, your college experience sticks out as one of your major life-defining times? An interesting article in Psychology Today explores the notion of first experiences. “Part of why firsts affect us so powerfully,” the article explains, “is that they’re seared into our psyches with a vividness and clarity that doesn’t fade as other memories do.” This is known as the “primary effect,” and is something people experience the most in their late teens and early 20s, when they’re beginning to identify themselves through the stories of their lives. Keep reading »
One of the reasons I love OKCupid — not that I’m online dating anymore — is that they do all these studies on their users’ tastes and habits and release the results, which are often fascinating. The service recently studied profile photos — the different types of photos users post and how possible paramours react to them based on the rate at which these users were contacted. Some interesting findings, after the jump … Keep reading »
Hey, handbag, lookin’ good. You lose some weight?
If your purse has been looking thinner lately, it’s probably a sign of a growing trend: Glamour reports that a new study finds that women have been downsizing their handbags. According to these findings, bags are now the “lightest they’ve been in seven years, down from their heaviest average (7.3 pounds) of two and a half years ago. Now the average woman is schlepping just three extra pounds on her arm.” The reason? Electronic gadgets like the iPhone, which combine several things you might have previously toted. If this is true, then there’s hope for defeating female stereotypes yet—perhaps someday soon women will finally be able to shed that “I carry the entire world in my handbag” preconception. (Now if someone could just create an app for storing your gym clothes and makeup … )
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Lately, we’ve been a little obsessed with the notches on bedposts. Maybe it’s because a bunch of celeb man whores made us feel like prudes, or a few female celebs made us feel like really Frisky gals (well, except for Joan Crawford). Anyway, what we found so shocking was that, while Warren Beatty supposedly has slept with over 12,775 women since he became a star, by our count, Madonna’s only had 31. It begs the question, how are these men sleeping with this many women, yet the women aren’t sleeping with that many men? Keep reading »
A new study focusing on men’s feelings towards makeup just made some amazing new discoveries that’ll blow your mind. Like, men don’t like layers of caked-on foundation! Or gloopy mascara left on overnight! Or lipstick on teeth! Or clown blush! And according to the study, one in 10 men wish their partners wouldn’t wear any makeup at all, which, you know, makes total sense if these men are equating all makeup with the sins mentioned above. My guess is a lot of men don’t even know makeup when they see it and don’t realize that the “natural look” they say they like so much is often enhanced with a swipe of mascara, a touch of gloss, a brush of blush on the apples of the cheeks. In their minds “makeup” is something noticeable, often in a distasteful way. But we women know better, don’t we? Which is why I’m much more interested in the way women feel about makeup. Keep reading »
We’re sure lots of guys jumped to attention when they learned the University of Montreal was going to conduct a “pornography study.” Unfortunately, no one got to help out Professor Simon Louis Lajeunesse with his research! You see, the professor had hoped to research how relationships between men and women are affected after a man who has never seen porn gets hooked on the stuff. One small problem. “We started our research seeking men in their twenties who had never consumed pornography but we couldn’t find any,” Lajeunesse said. He didn’t flush out what “consumed” means—they had seen it? they jerk off to it?—but I guess it shouldn’t be surprising either way. Everyone, after all, receives emails daily promising “HOT WET FRESHMAN SLUTS” one click away.
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A wacky new study called “What’s Love Got To Do With It?” followed 2,500 couples who are married or have lived together for at least six years and discovered there are, gasp, lots of factors that lead to the success (or failure) of a relationship besides just falling in or out of love. For example — this is going to shock you — women who want babies much more than their husbands are more likely to divorce than women who marry men who want kids just as much as they do! People whose parents divorced are more than 50 percent more likely to divorce or separate than those whose parents stayed married. And people who are on their second or third marriage are 90 percent more likely to divorce than spouses who are both on their first marriages. One in five couples who have children before marriage, either from a previous relationship or their current one, will separate, compared to just one in ten couples who do not have children before getting married. Just one in ten? That figure seems to contradict the finding that a quarter of all relationships will end within six years and half within 25, but maybe I’m splitting hairs here. Age is another factor that determines the success of marriage — men who marry before 25 are twice as likely to get divorced as those who marry after turning 25, as are men who are more than nine years older than their wives. Stuff that doesn’t matter so much? A woman’s employment status, country of birth, religious background and education levels. [via Daily Mail]
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Science reveals common sense to be fact! A study conducted by Dr. Bahman Guyuron and published in The Plastic and Reconstructive Surgery Journal researched the appearance of aging twins to determine why one half of the pair would be protected by time while the other would become wrinkled. While the side-by-side slide shows can be shocking, the reasons behind the wrinkles are exactly what your mama warned you about. Keep reading to find out how some of the twins stayed young-looking: Keep reading »
Cue a sarcastic “We’ve come along way, baby!” joke: A recent study by the children’s magazine Highlights found girls are assigned more chores at home than boys. The survey polled 845 kids between the ages of 5 and 12 and found 73 percent of girls do chores, while 65 percent of boys do. Eight percent may not sound like much; however, these findings are consistent with a 2006 study by the University of Michigan. Researchers polled 3,000 10- to 17-year-olds and discovered girls spend seven hours a week doing housework, while boys only spend five hours a week. Possibly explains why some grown-up dudes aren’t so proactive with the Clorox, doesn’t it? Was this your experience growing up? Did you do more chores than your brothers did? [NY Times] Keep reading »
“Date-rape drugs are largely an urban myth used as an excuse by women who booze themselves into a stupor, it has been claimed.”
That’s the first line from an article in today’s Daily Mail, about a new study out of the University of Kent that suggests many women mistake being drunk for being drugged. Of course, there’s more to this story than the “journalists” at the Daily Mail would have you believe. For starters, it’s not that women are using “I was drugged!” as a way of excusing bad drunken behavior, but rather than they may be confusing the side effects of being intoxicated — nausea, dizziness, etc. — with those associated with being roofied. Additionally, a far more comprehensive article in the Telegraph quotes Adam Burgess, of Kent’s School of Social Policy, Sociology and Social Research, as saying, “Young women appear to be displacing their anxieties about the consequences of consuming what is in the bottle on to rumors of what could be put there by someone else.” Keep reading »