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True Story: I Was Stalked By A Random Dude And My Friends Laughed About It

True Story: I Was Stalked By A Random Dude And My Friends Laughed About It

Last week, I had a stalker experience that left me feeling very uneasy. I frequent a Starbucks about a mile away from my house and sometimes just spend the entire day there writing. On one particular afternoon, a young man came into the cafe. I just happened to look up at that same exact moment and we made eye contact. I politely smiled, then returned to my work.

The following day, I was walking my dog on my street, when a very familiar guy approached me.

“Hey, what’s your dog’s name?” he questioned.

“Um, it’s Sam,” I responded casually then noticed his face look very familiar.

“Hey, didn’t I see you yesterday at Starbucks?” I asked the stranger. He haphazardly nodded, responded, “Yeah, I think so.” Then we both said goodbye and parted ways.

I didn’t think too much of it at first. I figured the guy just happened to live on my street. A coincidence, right? That was until I got home and checked my Facebook inbox and noticed one unread message in my “other” folder. Keep reading »

7 Takeaways From The New York Post‘s Uncritical Profile Of A Chronic Subway Harasser

I guess the New York Post is voting pro-harassment this election season, because they’ve gone a step beyond Doree Lewak’s now-sort-of-infamous “Deal With It!” pro-catcall manifesto by asking a nigh-professional New York subway harasser how he works his magic (and by magic, I mean misogyny). Here are the main takeaways from their profile of Brian Robinson, Middle-Aged Man Who Obviously Isn’t Self-Aware: Keep reading »

The Soapbox: Fear Me If You Do Not Respect My Right To Walk Down The Street In Peace

The Soapbox: Fear Me If You Do Not Respect My Right To Walk Down The Street In Peace

Before the movement to end street harassment really gained steam, I penned an essay about my childhood experiences as a poor, Black girl. In the piece, I detailed an interaction I had, at 11 years old with a group of men more than two times my age, where they publicly sexually harassed me while on my neighborhood street. The piece expressed the hurt, anger and rage that is buried so deep within me after decades of feeling unsafe in this world just because I am woman. This was the story of how I learned that my entire being was defined, in this society, by my sexuality. Not my intelligence, not my humor, not my wit, but access to my body.

I looked back on that piece and felt all the fears and anxiety that I have so long tried to cast aside and dismiss. Fears that resurfaced because of stories that two women were brutally attacked within the past couple of days (one of whom lost her life and the other who thankfully is expected to survive), by men who sought to gain access to their sexuality but were denied. Men who invaded the personal physical and emotional space of those women, without any permission or invitation, and murdered them simply because they were made aware of the fact that their advances were not welcomed. Keep reading »

Acceptable Catcalls
A Relatively Complete List Of Acceptable Catcalls
A relatively complete list of acceptable catcalls. Read More »
25 Responses To Catcallers
20 Totally Acceptable Ways To Respond To Catcallers
Next time a strange man comments on your tits, try one of these. Read More »
Mansplaining Catcalls
7 Responses To Mansplanations About Street Harassment
Seven responses to mansplanations about street harassment. Read More »

Clayton “Relax And Enjoy It” Williams Is A Key Funder In GOP Campaign Against Wendy Davis In TX

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Frisky Rant: What’s So Funny About Forcing A Woman To Kiss You?

This Is Not Funny

A bunch of obviously misogynistic “pranks” have been circling my Facebook newsfeed for a few days now and it is just pissing me off. In one particular video, that really can’t be labelled as a prank because there is absolutely nothing funny about it, a young man walks up to a random woman, asks a few questions and then shoves his tongue down her throat. Keep reading »

Texas Throws Out Law Banning Creepshots

The Texas Supreme Court threw out a ban on “creepshots” this week, saying that it’s “paternalistic” for the government to “regulate the defendant’s mind” in a case in which someone takes illicit photos of another person, in public, without the subject’s consent.

Jenny Kutner at Slate points out the very real fact of the matter, which is that thinking lascivious thoughts about someone and making them the unwitting subject of a pornographic photograph are two clearly distinct things. However — and I don’t know if this is an unpopular opinion or not — I personally agree with the ruling for reasons other than what the court put forth. The language of the proposed law stated that it would ban “improper photography or visual recording.” Considering we live in a culture in which some people clutch their pearls over spaghetti-strap tank tops and others believe that nothing is “improper,” it’d be hard to set a standard for what exactly “improper” would mean in this context that wouldn’t be too broad. Vague language kills laws with good intentions all the time. I’d love to see a law banning creepshots that would be specific enough not to put street photographers (ahem — *raises hand*) at risk of fines or incarceration. [Slate]

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