I almost feel bad for black women. It seems like the majority of the time they’re written about in the mainstream media, it’s about one of two topics: Why aren’t any of them married? as a question or None of them are married! as a statement. How frustrating that their representation in culture is thinned down to their marital status, right? The latest example is a new book by Stanford law professor Ralph Richard Banks called Is Marriage for White People? How the African American Marriage Decline Affects Everyone about the so-called “man shortage” among middle-class blacks. As promotion for his book, Banks also published a piece in The New York Daily News last week entitled, “Why Black Women Are Justifiably Bitter: The Bleak Relationship Picture For African-American Females,” which began with the paragraph:
“Stereotypes of black women as angry or bitter are pervasive. They are also more accurate than many people would like to acknowledge: many black women have perfectly good reasons to be angry or bitter.”
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When I first saw Wendi Deng Murdoch spike that foam-pie-throwing comedian-protestor’s head like a volleyball, I giggled with glee. Then I sighed with relief. Here, finally, was a portrayal of an Asian woman I could embrace. No timid China doll or obedient geisha, no mere trophy wife, Deng was the tiger wife, defending her assets – er, I mean husband – with a single, long-armed swipe.
But now I’m torn. While positive, tiger wife is still a stereotype, “a popular belief about specific social groups or types of individuals,” in this case Asian women of a certain age, and a tidy media invention banking on the popularity of Amy Chua’s tiger mother, and perhaps the Chinese phrase, lao hu, old tiger, said of ferocious older women. A stereotype with international appeal, and yet another one I’ll have to battle sooner or later. Keep reading »
Yesterday, thanks to Summer’s Eve douching products, I learned that my vagina is “the most powerful thing on Earth and that samauri warriors and medieval jousting was all about fighting over a good, clean vagina. It turns out there are more douche-y douche commercials where that came from. Keep reading »
Bristol Palin makes many claims against Levi Johnston in her book Not Afraid of Life: My Journey So Far, which came out on Friday. But one of the saddest came at the moment she told Johnston she was pregnant. “It better be a boy,” he told her, and it’s one part of her book I have no doubt is probably true.
The fact is, many, many men prefer boys. Whether it’s because they’re more comfortable with them or they simply aren’t evolved enough to realize girls can do anything boys can do is unclear. What is clear is that men — and some women — prefer boys.
Most of these reasons hinge on stereotypes. Read more… Keep reading »
Hallmark Mahogany, a line targeted toward blacks, made greeting cards this Father’s Day for black single mothers. Bossip points us to the controversy, which pits the recognition of mamas who do both the mommy and the daddy job against the assumption that its perpetuating a stereotype. Personally, I don’t find the card pictured, which reads “For all the times you’ve been there for others, you deserve a day just for you,” the least bit offensive. Keep reading »
Craziest. School. Project. Ever.
Gaby Rodriguz, a high school girl in Washington, faked a pregnancy for six months of her senior year as part of a school project on stereotypes. For the past six months, students at Toppenish High School in Washington thought Rodriguez, 17, was pregnant. Only her mother, her boyfriend, the principal, her best friend, a sibling, and a few teachers knew Gaby’s pregnancy was a fake. Keep reading »
We know it’s, like, a law that beer and fast food commercials use offensive, usually sexist, stereotypes about chicks and dudes … but online dating sites? This “Femme-o-matic” commercial for Belgian dating site Vind een Lief is confusing, but the basic premise seems to be that online dating is just like ordering up a hot blonde from a gumball machine. Because us ladies all so interchangeable, you know, and men don’t care about anything more than our looks! With all the blonde women lying around in kiddie pools and washing cars in short shorts, you’d think Vind een Lief would want people to believe it’s an escort service. But hey, maybe something got lost in translation. (Imagery NSFW, although naughty language is subtitled.) [Copyranter] Keep reading »
Ugh, you know what’s more annoying for a gal than not
having a gay best friend? Having a gay best friend that’s a total disappointment in the fun, fabulous, and fierce department. Like, what’s the point of having a gay bestie who doesn’t want to drinking flirtinis, dance to Lady Gaga, or get mani/pedis? What’s the point of being a gay man — or having a gay bestie — if you’re not going to be a walking stereotype? (No, seriously, I am actually just disappointed I don’t have a disappointing gay best friend like the handsome Tyler Coates, above, whose Twitter/Tumblr I follow obsessively.) [Queerty
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Don’t let anyone tell you reality TV shows are a scourge on American television. We may have “16 & Pregnant” and “Jersey Shore,” but the UK has “My Big Fat Gypsy Wedding.” Apparently in its second year, “My Big Fat Gypsy Wedding” follows teen brides from Europe’s gypsy clans, the Romany and the Travellers. Generally speaking, gypsies tend to live nomadic lives and travel from place to place. Last night’s episode featured 17-year-old Josie and 19-year-old Swanley, who married in July only five months after they met. Had you pressed the “mute” button, however, it would be difficult to tell Josie and Swanley were having a gypsy wedding: she wore a fluffy white confection of a dress and a garter, her bridesmaids were decked out in Spanish-style fuchsia dresses, and a priest performed the ceremony in a church. (You can see some over-the-top wedding looks from stills from the first season of “My Bit Fat Gypsy Wedding” on the Guardian’s web site.) And despite the stereotypes that gypsies live on the streets, or travel around in caravans, Josie lived inside a house. According to the Daily Mail UK, the most “gypsy” thing about the bride and groom on “My Big Fat Gypsy Wedding” is their unconventional-mixed-with-completely-conventional lifestyle. Keep reading »