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Girl Talk: I Was A Dominatrix

The following is an excerpt from Whip Smart: A Memoir, by Melissa Febos, who we recently interviewed about her four years working as a dominatrix at a New York City dungeon. Here, Febos is about to have her very first “domination session” with a male client at the dungeon, for which she is being paid $75.

An hour can be a long time. Hell, a minute can be a long time. The minute before your first kiss with someone is a painstaking collection of seconds, each one more bloated with anticipation than the last. The first minute of a tattoo is a long one as well. Pain has few rivals in its ability to slow time. Fear, excitement, elation — these are kissing cousins, all with the sensorial power to render each second humming with every tick and gasp of our bodies, the whirr of insect wings and distant car engines. Sometimes, I could savor these moments, relish them as opportunities to walk straight into the fact of being alive. In the seconds that crept into the minutes of my very first domination session, I had no idea what I wanted. The $75 certainly, but beyond that? Character- building life experience? I would have confidently named these motives right up until the moment that the door of the Red Room closed behind me. With the clasp of its latch, all bravado and ideology dimmed with the light of the hallway behind. It was only me, a naked old man, and 60 minutes of palpable expectation. An hour alone with a naked man with whom you do not intend to have sex can be a very long time …

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Republican Employee Fired Over L.A. Bondage Club Outing

Far be it for us to criticize an outing to a “risque” bondage nightclub as a getting-to-know-you exercise. But the Republican National Committee is not having it. Today, the RNC canned Allison Meyers, director of the group’s “Young Eagles” program, after news of a scandal broke yesterday that Meyer had approved the reimbursement of receipts for Voyeur, a West Hollywood bondage club where performers do S&M (sadomasochistic) acts onstage. The nearly $2,000 “Young Eagles” outing was apparently reimbursed to Republican donor Erik Browne. But, according to an internal email by the RNC Chief of Staff, obtained by the political news website Politico, the February trip to Voyeur was not an RNC-sanctioned event; supposedly, neither RNC Chairman Michael Steele, nor senior staff, knew about the expenditure. [The Huffington Post]

Yay for accountability! But let’s not ignore the big question here: Before Meyers got fired, do you think she got a hearty S&M spanking first? Keep reading »

Girl Talk: I Wanted To Be Dominated

I texted him as soon as I woke up.

“What do you want me to wear today?”

I brushed my teeth and washed my face while I waited for him to text me back.

“White button-down shirt. Tuck it in. Your jeans. Flats. Put your hair in a ponytail. Send me a photo.”

I dressed as instructed, then stood before the wall-length mirror in my apartment’s hallway. Smiling into the mirror, I snapped a photo on my iPhone and sent it to Ben*.

Thirty seconds later, a text message: “Very nice.” Then I knew I could leave for work.

Ben was not abusive. I was not being hurt, nor was I unhappy. We were in a dominant/submissive relationship — or playing at one, anyway — and following his orders got me unbelievably, unbelievably turned on. Keep reading »

5 Moves Women Love In Bed, But Can Be Too Afraid To Ask For

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I’ve never been afraid to ask for what I want in bed. I guess because during my teenage years I figured out I was/am a perv and I just owned it. But in my decade-plus of hooking up with dudes, I’ve come to see being clear about what I want is a bit rare: Guys have told me other women become self-conscious when asking for something risqué or kinky.

So, I’m going to help you out, boys. Here are some things your lady might want, but she’s too self-conscious to ask for. Don’t pressure anything, of course — but if you offer, you may be pleasantly surprised at how enthusiastically she accepts … Keep reading »

23 Bad Sex Moves
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Sarah Silverman Tells Mom: “I’m Sleeping With A Man That Spanks Me”

Sarah Silverman visited David Letterman last night and charmed the old guy with a heartwarming tale of mother-daughter bonding: One day Mrs. Silverman was in the bathroom while her daughter was undressing for a shower, checked out Sarah’s rear, and gasped in horror. Keep reading »

Turns Out, Kids Who Got Spanked Do Better In Life

I was spanked as a child, mostly for running away and for disobeying my parents. My brother got spanked for kneeing a classmate in the balls and trying to off me every couple months. I’m pretty well-adjusted, always did well in school despite my efforts to appear “punk rock,” and I certainly never thought ill of my parents for introducing me to the long arm of the law. I still meet people who I think could’ve benefited from a good (not sexy) spanking once in a while. And turns out, I’m right. A new study shows that children who are smacked by their parents might grow up to be happier and more successful than those who’ve never been hit. Children who are physically punished until the age of 6 perform better in school as teenagers and are more likely to do volunteer work and go to college. That said, those who got whipped into adolescence developed behavioral problems. [Times Online] Keep reading »

Mobile Domination For The Submissive On The Go

I can’t speak with great expertise as to exactly what’s going on here because I don’t speak Deutsch, but what we appear to have is a “mobile dominatrix” who will come abuse interested submissives wherever they are. Basically, this German dominatrix rides around in a van that contains a portable dungeon. She shows up where you are — at work, at home, I don’t know — and you climb inside her dungeon on wheels for the spanking of your life. Or flogging. Or whatever it is that you are into. I like how the Domina-Mobil has no shame; in America, I don’t think you could get away with driving a van with a dominatrix painted on the side and a fully equipped dungeon inside. Check out a shot of the interior of Dominatrix My Mobile after the jump. Keep reading »

8 Sex “Mistakes” We Don’t Regret From College

We snorted Frappucino out our noses reading Maxim‘s “9 Sexual Mistakes You Made In College,” because we totally boned that guy with un-ironic Power Rangers bed sheets who wore his socks while doing that deed.

Yeah, that guy was a mistake—but, by and large, we look back on our college years with zero regrets. That night with the handcuffs? The trip up our back door? The romp with our Women’s Studies TA? They’re all juicy bits to keep things entertaining when our life flashes before our eyes. Ladies of gentler stock might reflect on their higher education years with shame. But those bitches don’t remember what really happened anyway, because they needed at least three Jaeger bombs just to loosen up. After the jump, sex “mistakes” we don’t regret making in college. Keep reading »

13 Things Men Don’t Understand About Women’s Bodies

A few weeks ago I turned to my guy and asked, “When you have to pee, can you feel it in your penis?” He raised his eyebrows at me and said, “No, Jess, I feel it in my bladder, like every other human being.” Well, excuse me for not knowing much about male anatomy. Am I right, ladies? Guy’s bodies are a little confusing sometimes—and we can sure as hell think of some things men don’t know about women’s bodies: Keep reading »

Internet Porn Is The Best Sex Ed A Teen Could Have

Woe betide the sexual being who has a kinky fetish but doesn’t have internet access. You could waste years of your life—decades, even!—fretting that you’re the only sick f*** who likes her wrists handcuffed to the bedposts during sex. But with a few clicks of the mouse, anyone can get the lowdown via internet porn: Other chicks like to be restrained during sex, too! Lots and lots of chicks, actually. You’re pretty normal, girlie. In fact, you’re almost boring. All this is thanks to the 21st-century technology revolution, which isn’t only great for curious adults, but curious teens, as well. Make that really curious teens. Keep reading »

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