Trying to maintain two careers, visual art and music, and to be a mother at the same time, always felt kind of impossible. When you’re feeling that you can and should do everything, then you never feel like you’re going to achieve anything. I think what kept me going was this deep understanding that it wasn’t going to be perfect, and that it didn’t have to be.
God, I love Kim Gordon. The ex-Sonic Youth band member has a piece up at Dame magazine (excerpted from a new book called Mistakes I Made At Work) about the lessons she’s learned as her career and personal life have evolved from artist to bad member to mother to solo artist, sometimes doing all at once. The “having it all” discussion/debate has frustrated me because it all too often sets women up for failure or at least feeling like they’ve failed. But as Kim suggests, if you cut yourself a break and accept that imperfection is a part of life, you have a much better shot at achieving at and having maybe not it all but all that really matters. Check out Gordon’s full essay at the link — and check out the book too, looks cool! [Dame Magazine]
A few months ago, in an interview with ELLE, Sonic Youth’s Kim Gordon discussed, amongst other things, the breakup of her 30-year-long marriage to bandmate Thurston Moore, after she discovered he was carrying on “a double life” with a “starstruck woman.” That woman, Eva Prinz, is still Moore’s girlfriend, and he addressed their relationship in an interview with The Fly earlier this week. “I’m in a really romantic place with Eva; we’ve kinda been a couple for close to six years,” he said, as if having a multi-year-long extramarital affair is, like, a meet-cute. “A lot of those years nobody was very aware of it except us. The cat’s been out of the bag a while now, that’s kinda where I’m at.”
As Tom Hawking at Flavorwire points out, by Moore’s own timeline, he would have been cheated on Kim with Prinz back in 2007, when he and Kim posed for Bust‘s Love issue. Moore and Prinz would have also been carrying on their affair around the time that Prinz gave birth to some Dutch prince’s kid. Talk about a beautiful story to tell the grandkids! Keep reading »
“Women make natural anarchists and revolutionaries, because they’ve always been second-class citizens, kinda having had to claw their way up. I mean, who made up all the rules in the culture? Men—white male corporate society. So why wouldn’t a woman want to rebel against that?”
–Former Sonic Youth member and sometimes-fashion designer Kim Gordon, on why women excel at fighting against oppression. Here, she’s speaking directly about imprisoned Russian feminist activists Pussy Riot, but I think this quote kind of applies to all of us, no? Also, her daughter Coco (with soon-to-be-ex-husband Thurston Moore) is a freshman in college. My, we’re old. [Elle]
Lady Gaga has been prepping us for her album Born This Way since last summer. But honestly, we feel so underwhelmed by the title track and “Judas” that, even though the record dropped yesterday, we’re just kind of over it. So instead, we’d like to direct your record-buying attention to Thurston Moore’s Demolished Thoughts. Thurston is married to Kim Gordon, his Sonic Youth bandmate, and together they’re the kind of power couple we all want to be—rockstars yet completely unassuming, insanely talented yet totally humble. Demolished Thoughts is full of sweet acoustic tunes—with strange twists and turns, and often with harp and violin backing. When a man starts an album with a song like “Benediction,” an ode to his longtime love, it’s hard not to be hooked. Oh, and did we mention it’s produced by Beck?
Before directing “Where the Wild Things Are,” Spike Jonze was just a skater punk who hung out with the effortlessly cool noise band Sonic Youth. This video for SY’s “100 Percent” was Jonze’s directorial debut, and features him and a baby Jason Lee skating and house partying with the band. The song is about the band’s friend, Joe Cole, who was shot and killed in front of his house in 1991. [YouTube
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For those of you youngins out there, let me explain to you the rocking indie impact that the band Sonic Youth had on me my freshman year of high school when I first saw them play. The small room went wild as a bunch of dirty teens half-headbanged, half-moshed to their raw sound. When alternative music was a newborn, Sonic Youth was the band that first introduced me to the hardcore post-punk, pre-emo sound that shaped my musical taste and defined the angsty sound of my generation. That’s why I was so intrigued to hear that Sonic Youth would be performing an acoustic version of “Starpower,” a song they wrote in 1986, on the fifth episode of “Gossip Girl” this season! Under what circumstances will the band appear? “It’s a big event that involves [engaged adults] Rufus and Lily. Just draw your own conclusions,” says Stephanie Savage, “GG”‘s showrunner. Keep reading »