It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Snoop Dog,” that guy who “just happened” to guess the password to his girlfriend’s email and discovered she’d been emailing back and forth with an ex. “The emails aren’t really all that exciting,” he wrote, “just things like ‘how are you doing?’ and updates on people they both know and general stuff like that. I’m not sure what to do here. Should I confront her about it?” After the jump, find out whether he confronted her or not and if they’re still together. Keep reading »
I used to be one of those self-righteous types who declared I’d sooner break up with a man than stoop to snoop. This stance wasn’t because I was noble or had never been tempted—I’m not and I have. I just remember all too well the day my mother read my journal aloud to my entire family. I was 17 and, as you can probably imagine, that book was bursting at the seams with embarrassing, angst-laden, mawkish, teenage drama. To say I was mortified … well, that doesn’t begin to describe the way I felt.
Since that day, I’ve always been very respectful of other people’s privacy, in particular my partners’ and, unfortunately, often to my own detriment. I’d listen to suspicious friends’ tales of hacking into their boyfriends’ emails or reading their texts and waste no time voicing my disapproval.
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According to a new poll, women are way more likely than men to “stalk” an ex online, with 62% of the 1700 people polled admitting to looking up a former love online. I totally believe that women use the Internet more often than men to garner information on a crush, look up the whereabouts of exes, and check out a former flame’s new significant other. In fact, Catherine and I were just discussing the fact that none of our recent dates seemed to have Googled us, which I kind of find…insulting. But I don’t think “looking up” an ex (or a crush or the competition) online is the same as “stalking.” After the jump, I break down the differences between just snoopin’ and totally stalking when it comes to online behavior. Keep reading »
If you’ve been guilty of snooping through your luvah’s internet history, you’re definitely not alone. A recent UK survey found that a whopping 70 percent of Brits regularly check their partners’ online activity. These aren’t isolated incidents — respondents admitted to snooping at least once a month to see if their partners had been surfing porn sites, trading sexy photos or love notes with anyone, or had been up to any other sneaky activities. “There really is nowhere to hide on the web anymore; especially now that people are so active online, with social networking sites and forums. People can post pictures or inappropriate comments that, when taken out of context, can lead to serious problems at home,” said study author, Steffen Ruehl. Keep reading »