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LinkedIn Accused Of Slut-Shaming After Removing Ad Of Sexy Engineer

Working Women Ugly
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... according to Rush Limbaugh's wildly inaccurate twisting of study. Read More »
"Seduce" the Boys' Club
Merrill Lynch Advises Female Employees To "Seduce" The Boys' Club
Merrill Lynch advises female employees to "seduce" the men. Read More »
Unattractive Workers
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Study: unattractive workers are more likely to be bullied at work. Read More »
Frisky Sexism
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TopTal Florencia Antara

LinkedIn is the world’s largest professional networking website, so it makes sense that many companies would want to advertise their business there. One suggestion: maybe try to not make your engineering ad look a little too much like an ad for an “adult friend.”

The company in question is called TopTal. Their advertisement read “We Recruit Top Engineers And Bring Them To You Fast! $1800-$2800/wk. Try For 2 Weeks, Risk-Free.” The wording is pretty ambiguous to begin with, but the photo next to it was what attracted the most attention. As the UK’s Daily Mail reported, the woman pictured, Florencia Antara, is in fact an engineer, but she was photographed in a way that made her not exaaactly look like a woman working in an office. Instead of photographing her in professional clothing Florencia wore an off-the-shoulder shirt with tousled hair. She looks kind of like an ’80s teen idol. Keep reading »

Lawsuit: 15-Year-Old Girl Kicked Out Of Summer Camp For Kissing Boy

Zut Alors, French Kissing!
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The French have finally invented a word for "French kissing." Read More »
On Slutshaming
It's about controlling women through guilt and shame. Read More »
No Slutty Friends
college women dont' want friends who are promiscuous
College-aged women don't want to be friends with "sluts," study says. Read More »

A family filed a lawsuit yesterday against Camp Emerson, in Hinsdale, Massachusetts, because their 15-year-old daughter was kicked out of summer camp for kissing a boy. The suit, which refers to the Westport, Connecticut, teenager as “Jane Doe,” said she met the boy on something called “court time” when girls and boys play basketball together and that male counselors “kindly and nurturingly encouraged and/or enticed” the boy to kiss Jane Doe. He did and then the pair “went behind the arts and crafts shed and kissed” some more.  She was also accused of taking off her bra and “acting inappropriately,” aka being a teenager with hormones making out with a boy.  While the boy got a high five afterwards from counselors, Jane Doe was allegedly called a “a slut and/or loose and/or fast and/or a tramp” by the camp director. Camp Emerson kicked both kids out and had her escorted off of camp property by a cop. Keep reading »

The Soapbox: Feminism Deserves Better Than “Sex-Negative Vs. Sex-Positive”

Anti Sex-Positive Feminism
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On Jillian Horowitz's interview with Thought Catalog about kink. Read More »
Be Sex Positive!
Eight ways to be positive you're sex positive. Read More »
Tales Of A Kinky Feminist
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You can be a kinky feminist and flawed human being. Read More »
The Soapbox: Feminism Deserves Better than “Sex-Negative vs. Sex-Positive”

As a feminist, kinky person and sex commentator, I am the target audience for Jillian Horowitz’s xoJane essay “I’m a Sex-Negative Feminist” — and that’s exactly the point. Part of the site’s “Unpopular Opinion” series, I can only surmise that the essay, like others before it, was written largely with the intention of riling up its supposed targets rather than fostering a nuanced debate.

I’d also quibble with her quickie history lesson—yes, sex-positive feminism in part emerged as a response to anti-porn feminist activism, but it also sprang from the anti-BDSM and anti-lesbian bent of much of mainstream 1970’s and ’80’s feminism. My understanding is that sex-positive feminism was about embracing feminist ideals and furthering sexual freedom—for everyone, not just women. Keep reading »

Study: College-Aged Women Don’t Want To Be Friends With Sluts

Numbers Don't Matter
How many partners she's had is irrelevant. Read More »
Are You A Slut?
You could ask Rush Limbaugh or you could consult this handy chart. Read More »
On Slutshaming
It's about controlling women through guilt and shame. Read More »
college women dont' want friends who are promiscuous

Oh good, another depressing study about women and sex! Bring it on.

College-aged women would prefer not to be friends with promiscuous women (defined as having 20 or more sexual partners by their early 20s), even when they themselves have had numerous sexual partners or claim to have liberal views about sex. This according to a study of 751 college students by Cornell University. Can you say “hypocrisy”? Keep reading »

Beyoncé On The Cover Of Ms. Causes Controversy

Beyonce's A Feminist
Beyonce says she's a "modern-day feminist." Read More »
On Beyonce
And the luxury of playing "Mrs. Carter." Read More »
Beyonce Lightened
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Whoa, this doesn't look like Beyonce at all. Read More »
Baby Number 2?
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Ms. magazine is one of the oldest, if not the oldest, feminist magazines in America. The mag has occasionally featured celebrities on the cover; Wonder Woman was its very first cover girl, while other cover stars include Meryl Streep, Cher, Cecily Tyson, Ani DiFranco and Pam Grier.

But the mag’s latest cover girl, Beyoncé, is causing controversy for all kinds of reasons. Keep reading »

Poster Calls For Schools To Stop Shaming Girls For Wearing Shorts And Skirts

On Slutshaming
It's about controlling women through guilt and shame. Read More »
Slutshaming McCain
Don't call Meghan McCain a "slut." Read More »
Jenna Marbles Slut Shames
On Jenna Marbles' "Things I Don't Understand About Sluts" video. Read More »
Frisky Rant: Slut-Shaming
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Frisky Rant: slut shaming doesn't have a silver lining. Read More »

Every spring at my high school, as girls would start showing up to school dressed in shorts and skirts, the school administration would busy itself trying to regulate and police what female students were wearing. Shorts and skirts had to be of a certain length or you’d be sent to the nurse’s office and told to wear a pair of school-issued sweatpants. Boys’ clothing offenses typically had to do with T-shirt ,logans which they were forced to wear inside out. But girls’ clothing — the length, the cut and even the fabric — was regulated under the guise of female bodies being “distracting.” The above poster was put up in a high school recently (we’re trying to figure out which one), featuring a saying that’s been floating around Tumblr lately: Keep reading »

Pink Isn’t Afraid Of The Word “Slut”

Are You A Slut?
You could ask Rush Limbaugh or you could consult this handy chart. Read More »
Frisky Rant: Slut-Shaming
silver linings playbook
Frisky Rant: slut shaming doesn't have a silver lining. Read More »

“I’m a reformed slut. [Using the word] is my very unsophisticated way of taking the power back. I’ve always had an issue with, ‘OK, we’ve both decided to do this. Why am I a slut and you’re the player? You didn’t get anything from me that I didn’t get from you.’”

– Pink tells Glamour magazine why she proudly refers to herself as a slut (well, currently in the 7th year of her relationship with Cary Hart, she now calls herself a “reformed slut”). She goes on to mention one unexpected guy who made an appearance in her romantic past: NSYNC’s Joey Fatone! ”He took me to Friendly’s on a date and he bought me an ice cream. Such a sweetheart. He asked my dad’s permission!” This story is bringing me a ridiculous amount of joy. Rock on, Pink. [Us Weekly]

Dealbreaker: The Slut Shamer

Dealbreaker: Huge Penis
His penis was so big it made her cry. Read More »
Dealbreaker: Wallet
He forgot his wallet...on purpose. Read More »
Dealbreaker: The Mob
He was in The Mob. Read More »

I’ve never been fond of being called “nice.” Nice, to me, is a consolation-prize adjective; it’s a lazy descriptor you use for a person who isn’t interesting enough to rate a few more syllables. Nice is for potholders and admirable recycling habits, for neutral weather patterns and cuts of salmon. Even the slightly more enthusiastic, stoner-drawl version of the word, Niiiiiiice!, and its cousin, Sweeeeet! are usually reserved for cars, surfable waves, or extensions of deadlines. Or, you know, marijuana.

And yet, people generally tend to label me as nice and sweet, and I suppose, in my wussy way, I am.  It pains me to be rude to telemarketers. I always repost Facebook pictures of abandoned puppies. I do recycle responsibly – what of it?

So when, on our first date Joe*, a guy who I’d met at a bar, said I was a “nice girl,” it wasn’t immediately a dealbreaker. Nice is a cross I’ve borne for a long time, and if I ruled out every guy who called me it, I would be restricted to a dating pool comprised only of surly, rage-provoking DMV employees. Keep reading »

Conservative Wackadoo Advises Society “Shame” And “Punish” People For Pre-Marital Sex

Fired For Premarital Sex
A teacher was fired for having premarital sex. Read More »
Sandra Fluke At The DNC
"It could easily have been any one of you." Read More »
Frisky Rant: Slut-Shaming
silver linings playbook
Frisky Rant: slut shaming doesn't have a silver lining. Read More »

If you’re wondering where society went wrong, the uber-conservative, anti-gay Family Research Council has an idea: it was when the Supreme Court overturned a law that banned the sale of birth control to — gasp! — unmarried folks.

This week, FRC senior fellow Pat Fagan appeared on the radio show ”Washington Watch to blast premarital sex. “Society never gave young people that right,” he ranted. ”Functioning societies don’t do that, they stop it, they punish it, they corral people, they shame people, they do whatever.”  The right for single, consenting adults to have sex, that is.

Good thing this guy told us so now we know: we have no right to have sex out of wedlock. Whoopsies. [MediaiteHuffington Post]

Girl Talk: I Lied To My Gynecologist About My Number Of Sexual Partners

Numbers Don't Matter
How many partners she's had is irrelevant. Read More »
What's Your Number?
Here's why I don't care. Read More »
Slut-Shaming Rant
silver linings playbook
It has no "silver lining." Read More »

I didn’t think I was ashamed of the number of sexual partners I’ve had in the 20 years I’ve been getting it on until I found myself filling in a number half the true total at a recent gynecologist appointment. Although I know doctors are trained not to judge, and this doctor in particular had been particularly kind, helpful and professional when I’d seen her previously, in my head, all of a sudden the number (at best an approximation as I haven’t kept an exact count in year) seemed like cause for alarm. Even if I never had to say it out loud and its size was simply one more piece of data for her to use in evaluating me, something about it made me erase what I’d typed in the online form and halve it. As it turned out, she didn’t even ask me a single thing about my number, so that fretting was for naught—except that it taught me a lesson: slut shaming isn’t just something other people do to us, but something we can do to ourselves. Keep reading »

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