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“Sleep Sex” Is Not A Real Thing, But Raping Someone While They Sleep Is

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Advice columns bring out the worst in journalism outlets, I have found, and Nerve.com is no exception. Today, the website asked readers to play “advice columnist” and dish out advice to a woman who had written asking what to do about her boyfriend who raped her while she was sleeping. She had taken a sleeping pill while drunk, after coming home alone, and was so deeply asleep she didn’t even hear her boyfriend come home that night. But when she woke up in the morning, she realized he had raped her during the night. “Did we have sex last night?” she asked him. “Well, one of us did,” the boyfriend said, laughing. The woman then wrote in to Nerve.com saying she no longer trusts him and asks for advice on what to do.

And Nerve, for some reason, chose to title this post, “Please Advice: My Boyfriend Had Sex With Me While I Was Asleep.” Uh, come again? “Had sex” wit hher? FACT: a person who is asleep — not to mention drunk and on a sleeping pill — cannot consent to sex. Her boyfriend didn’t “have sex” with her. Her boyfriend raped her. Keep reading »

Doin’ It With Dr. V: “He Doesn’t Remember Having Sex With Me!”

This week I got a letter from a lady whose man has been stickin’ it to her, even if he doesn’t know how hard he’s been working:

My boyfriend and I just moved in together and we’ve been doing it all the time, including a couple nights ago when he woke me up in the middle of the night to have sex. He started going for it, not me. But the next morning, he didn’t seem to know we had sex. He swears he doesn’t remember it AT ALL. Come on! Is he joking? At first I was like, What does it matter? But really, I’m kinda freaked out. How could he have sex with me and not remember? We did go out drinking with some friends that night, but we didn’t get wasted. I’ve seen him a lot drunker than that! Is he playing a joke on me? I don’t get it. I can’t stop trying to figure out why he’d lie to me. Is it really possible we had sex and he had no idea?

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