Nerd alert! I feel very “Lord of the Rings” whenever I read about the “fall” of men: dramatic, old fashioned, and spoken in Cate Blanchett’s voice. And the conversation (like the trilogy) seems never-ending. From Hanna Rosin’s book The End of Men to Charles Murray’s Coming Apart, everybody must add their two cents about why male incomes as a whole are declining.
So here’s mine. I personally find this male-centric view frustrating. Yes, according to a 2010 USA Today article, women are entering institutions of higher education at record-high rates, surrpassing that of men. Though I may think, Who cares? Men have been dominating for millennia!, economists are worried about employment eligibility and opportunity for men. As reported by The New York Times, a new study by Massachusetts Institute of Technology Professor David H. Autor, takes a stab at explaining this puzzling societal problem. Keep reading »
I’m going to propose something that may seem radical, given the hysteria that single motherhood seems to conjure in American society. The typical single mother? She doesn’t exist.
As a solo-parenting mother (which is different than a single parent — this is a nuanced “issue” my friends!), I’ve searched high and low to find out if a significant portion of single moms are representative of the stereotype that politicians, moralizing religious groups, and census statistics tell me are single (puns!) handedly causing a rise in childhood poverty. All I’ve managed to find is a group of people as diverse as our married counterparts. Keep reading »
Senator Rick Santorum — long known for his insightful analyses of same-sex marriage (a mere gateway, as he alluded, to human-dog couples) and more recently for his repudiation of education — proclaimed in 1994 that before single mothers continued on their heedless quest to destroy the “fabric of the country,” they needed a swift “kick in the butt.”
I was a single mom, living separately from my child’s father or any other adult, until my son was four. I worked full-time in order to support myself and my child and, during that time, there were many things I needed: child care that I could both trust and afford, health insurance (I worked freelance and was responsible for paying for own medical care), and the occasional night off. Topping that list, I now realize, should have been a kick in the butt.
Frankly, I’m flattered that a busy family man of Santorum’s stature would be willing to take time out of his day to spur me on, literally, as a responsible cowboy would his trusty (but, face it, lazy) horse. Keep reading »
Wronged wife Sandra Bullock dropped the bombshell-of-all-bombshells when she announced on the cover of People magazine yesterday that she adopted a baby boy in January. And while I’m happy as a clam for Sandra and little Louis Bardo Bullock, I also find the way the media’s handling the story to be quite odd.
The New York Daily News‘ cover today says “Sweet Revenge!” and teases an article on their website about Sandra’s adoption with the line, “She doesn’t need a big baby like Jesse — she’s got a real one now.” Metro (a free newspaper handed out in big cities) trumpets, “Sandy’s Trump Card? Her Secret Adoption.”
I’m sorry, but why is a newborn baby a “trump card” or “sweet revenge”? Keep reading »