Lez-be-honest, you know it’s true: over half of all women are attracted to other gals, according to a study at Boise State University of Idaho.
In a poll given to 484 students of varying sexual orientations, 60 percent of the female participants claimed “some level of attraction to other women,” 45 percent had kissed another woman, and 50 percent had fantasized about another woman. This study provides another example of the fluidity of sexuality, rightfully showing its complexity extends beyond a “do you like penis or vagina?” duality. Yet kissing other women, especially in a college/party environment, has been famously glorified by Katy Perry and others, and in some (some!) cases is done to incite attention or pleasure from male onlookers. Likewise, what does attraction mean? Possibilities include everything from the enjoyment of pornography to the appreciation of another woman’s physique or style. (I don’t make these points to contest the study’s results, only to highlight the subjectivity of the findings.) Keep reading »
Both men and women like the pleasure that orgasms bring–but only male orgasms are actually “necessary.” At least that’s what science says–because only male orgasms are needed to make a baby. And now they’re trying to figure out why we should bother caring about women’s orgasms at all.
Ah, science. Science has clearly never had sex or it would know why female orgasms are necessary. In the meantime, Indiana University professor Elizabeth Lloyd, who has whittled down the purpose of the female orgasm into three main possibilities:
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“If people didn’t think there was a small chance I was gay, then I wouldn’t be doing my job very well. I wouldn’t be the front man of a band if that question hadn’t come up at some point … I’m extremely comfortable in my sexuality, so I can think, ‘Oh, that’s a good-looking dude.’ Acknowledging that someone’s attractive and wanting to [sleep with them] are two different things … My brother is gay, and we all knew when he was 2. We really wanted to provide some cushion for him and constantly let him know that it’s okay. A lot of people don’t want their kid to be gay and will fight it all costs. You’ve got to embrace it from the beginning.”
—Adam Levine of Maroon 5 and “The Voice,” talks to Out magazine about having a gay brother and how he thinks it’s part of a frontman’s job to be sexually provocative. I’ve never been an Adam fan, but wow, this quote actually makes me like him. [People] Keep reading »
“The way I need to look, it’s a very personal thing. When I started experimenting, it was to make myself feel happy, to look in the mirror and be satisfied. I never did drag or anything like that. It was always that I wanted to be pretty, to look beautiful, as a girl would want to … In this society, if a man is called a woman, that’s the biggest insult he could get. Is that because women are considered something less?”
–Gender-bending model Andrej Pejic on his androgynous looks. I find it fascinating that Pejic says that he needs to look the way that he does — it highlights that, for transgender people, the desire to dress or perform as one gender identity or another isn’t simply a matter of dress up, but one of necessity. Pejic also says that he doesn’t ever mind being mistaken for a woman, despite the idea that men typically balk at being called female, and brings up an interesting hypothesis as to why. [NYMag] Keep reading »
“I just like ladies who have class. Period. And if it’s ‘T and A’ you’re sellin’, that’s fine, as long as that’s what you’re selling. But you don’t have to show everything, you know? You can hold some back and just be yourself and let your personality shine and let your individuality show. To me, that’s sexier. A confident woman is a sexy woman, in my opinion.”
—Queen Latifah tells Sister 2 Sister magazine what kind of ladies she likes. This is significant because (A) Queen Latifah is amazing, and ladies should have some info on what reels her in and (B) because she’s never discussed her sexuality before. After years of dodging questions, especially since the speculation about the split between her and longtime girlfriend Jeanette Jenkins, props to Queen Latifah for opening up about her love for ladies. It’s not that I think a celebrities’ sexuality is any of our business. It’s just that the choice to be open about it — as a human being — is a powerful one. Queen Latifah is a role model for many women. I believe her decision to come out will only continue to inspire them. [Tabloid Prodigy] Keep reading »
A professor at Northwestern in Chicago is defending his performing a sex toy demonstration at an optional event for his Human Sexuality class. Professor John Michael Bailey had a guest demonstrate something called a “f**ksaw” on a naked woman before a gathering of 120 students. According to The A.V. Club Chicago, via The Huffington Post, it’s “basically a dildo attached to a reciprocating saw which, when cranked up to full blast, can drive a person to orgasm.” Keep reading »
In a classic episode of “Sex and the City,” Miranda has an epiphany: A guy may “just not be that into” her.
Miranda was thrilled with this revelation. She can now stop being anxiety-ridden over a man’s mixed messages. She can now shrug and say, “Well, he’s just not that into me,” and move on. Women everywhere sighed with relief … or did we? Keep reading »
I was at a party a few years ago, where Mikey, one of my gay best friends, and I were having one of our heart-to-hearts. “Devon and I broke up,” he announced.
“What, why!? You seemed so perfect together,” I gasped.
“Eh, we were both tops,” he sighed. Keep reading »
What’s a healthy sex life? Is it true that what’s good for some might not work for others? According to sex therapist Ian Kerner, couples should be having sex once a week, minimum. Kerner’s seeing what he calls an “epidemic” of sexless relationships and believes that things like social and economic stresses, health problems and the rise of internet porn are to blame. Reconnecting with your partner on a physical level helps reaffirm intimacy and rebuild connections. But! He says, sex isn’t just about connecting with your partner in an intimate way. It’s also great for reducing stress, boosting immunity and releasing pleasure chemicals called endorphins. Some other added benefits: steady sex helps boost confidence and has been shown to make people more successful at work.
So, does sex once a week sound like a good number to you? Too much? Too little? [CNN] Keep reading »