A student has filed a lawsuit against the professor of a human sexuality class in Western Nevada College because he required students to keep sex journals for class in which they had to detail their masturbation habits, sexual habits, and past sexual abuse. Karen Royce said professor Tom Kubistant and the department chairman and college president, who are also being sued, dismissed her complaints that the assignments were “sexual harassment.” Keep reading »
The combination of tits and drive can, apparently, cause the internet to crash. In the past six months I’ve watched as publications and writers I admire scrutinize Lana Del Rey for representing a “passive femininity,” gawk at young writer Marie Calloway for sleeping with older, more established male writers and shake their heads at Rihanna for not giving a f**k anymore and Instagramming intimate moments from her party-fueled lifestyle. What is more controversial than a woman using her sexuality in order to get ahead? I guess, not apologizing for it.
The main reason for feminist criticism in these cases is that the image of sexuality projected by these women doesn’t look “transgressive” — it looks too much like the role assigned by mainstream, for the benefit of the male gaze. These images read socially as “hot,” seemingly heterosexual and femme. I mean, I love it when women rock the boat with their sexual expression. I enjoy the “man repeller” fashion trend, I like seeing stars like Amy Poehler not in suggestive poses on the pages of magazines, I like the ugly-funny sex in “Girls.” But I also think there should be room for more. Why can’t a fantasy-driven femme, submissive, seemingly heterosexual display of female sexuality be a genuine one? Why can’t the image of a self-destructive Lana Del Rey in heart-shaped sunglasses be one of her own creation?
With those questions in mind, click through for a celebration of famous women who are using their sexuality and not apologizing for it.
Seriously, I wish someone would have taught me about the six types of attraction way earlier in my life. Like when I was nine. So I would have known the difference between my Squishes and my Crushes. It would have saved me so much trouble. I think I am going to start referring to all my friends Squishes. [Transgender Student Life]
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G-spot, in my open letter to you, I warned that if you decided to pop up, you’d better be staying for good. And here you go showing up again, trying to steal all of the attention as always, without making any real commitment to hang around.
Some dude researcher, Dr. Adam Ostrzenski, claims to have conclusively discovered your whereabouts. He dissected an 83-year-old dead lady and found what is described as a “blue, grape-like structure buried deep in the front wall of the vagina.”
That sounds … appealing. Keep reading »
“Don’s relationship — and [the] women in his life’s relationship[s] — between power and sex is very closely linked. And I think it’s part of the human experience. I think it’s an animal thing. Powerful men in particular seem to want to be controlled sexually. … I think what you’re seeing is that they do have a vibrant sex life, and she is controlling that part of it, and he likes it. And it’s the way they fight. And it’s kind of her saying to him, ‘You want to be this way? Then you can’t have this,’ and on some level wanting him to realize that he won’t get it. And what I love about it, and what I think is fresh, is that this woman is not judged afterward. It’s very rare for a woman to express that kind of sexual confidence and control and not be the prostitute, and be somebody’s wife and be in a relationship afterward. I’m both sexualizing their relationship and explaining her status in the relationship.”
“Mad Men” creator Matt Weiner spoke to NPR about Don Draper’s S&M sex drive, which we’ve gotten little peeks of throughout the series. Remember that time Don got slapped in the face by a prostitute! My head almost exploded. Keep reading »
Thank you, Genderbread Person for explaining the difference between gender identity, gender expression, sex and sexual orientation. Each of us are unique Genderbread Persons, with our own blends and delicate balances of gender and sexuality that make us individually delicious. That came out sounding much creepier than I’d intended … See a larger image here. [World Of Wonder]
I rolled out of bed to pee. I shuffled past the roaring wood stove, into my snow boots and towards our one and only bathroom—the outdoors. After leaving New York City, my fiancé and I moved to Montana and built a traditional yurt from scratch. It was a bitch of a task, but the outcome was a nomadic home surrounded by five mountain ranges. And this was our inaugural night of official yurt slumber. Yanking the door open, I stepped into what felt like a meat locker: pitch dark, minus 20 degrees, tree shadows, the hush of night. Bare-assed, bare everywhere, I squatted in the snow.
Letting my eyes adjust, I dripped dry. Wind blew itself in from somewhere—first small wisps, then full-blown gusts. It whipped around me, moving between my legs and up my back, alerting every pore, shivering my elbows and loosing my hair to a wild mess. As the wind continued, my whole self began to vibrate. Whoa. I clutched myself, trying to not fall backwards.
I felt aroused. Keep reading »
Cheryl Cohen Greene has devoted the last 40 years of her life to helping others overcome sexual discomfort and dysfunction through her work as a sex surrogate. She’s seen nearly a thousand clients in that time — some of whom she merely touches and shares affection with, others with whom she actually has intercourse – and believes that her work has the power to change lives. Her career also had an impact on her own sex life; she met her husband Bob in 1979 when he came to her as a client, struggling with performance anxiety. Keep reading »
For 10 years, I struggled with my sexual orientation and what to call it. I searched for labels that seemed to fit me best — bisexual, lesbian, fluid, queer? I had been with my first girlfriend for over two years, but still didn’t identify as gay because I continued to be attracted to men.
When I started dating men again at the age of 26, I wasn’t really falling for any them. One night, while I was having sex with a new guy for the first time, I burst out into tears because I realized I was a lesbian.
It wasn’t the intercourse itself that made me come to this realization, it was that being with a man emotionally and physically didn’t feel right. I wasn’t emotionally capable of loving a man. I had feelings of lust, even romantic attraction to the guys I dated, but I never felt that magic spark that bring couples together. Keep reading »
Dominique Strauss-Kahn, the former head of the International Monetary Fund, is either the world’s worst liar or the world’s biggest egotist.
He’s the world’s worst liar if he thinks anyone will believe he didn’t know his ladyfriends at French sex parties (aka orgies) were not being paid for their, um, services. And he’s the world’s biggest egotist if he was genuinely unaware that these women were prostitutes (say, if the women had been hired by an employee) and thought they were all just fielding cumshots as they lay in awe of his awesome sexual prowess. Keep reading »