“How do women decide to begin a sexual relationship? Pricing!”
The above video showed up in my Facebook feed the other night. It’s from a purported think tank, the Austin Institute for the Study of Family and Culture, which is actually a Christian think tank/advocacy group. The video claims to be a scientific look at the “Economics of Sex” based on the concept that men want sex for its own sake but women want sex for intimacy, security and, ultimately, marriage. Therefore sex is a “resource,” subject to supply and demand, which women control. “Men know that sex is cheap these days if they know where to look!” we are told. The video then implores women to dole out the supply of their resource to men (the “demand”) in exchange for other stuff. Essentially: ‘All sex is prostitution and women are prostitutes.’ Hello, Christian Right! Thought you were in there somewhere.
There’s so much in this video that makes me mad, I almost don’t know where to start: the fact that it’s a call to female solidarity drawn and directed entirely by men; the fact that they talk about women ‘policing women’s relationship interests’ when they mean slut shaming; the comparison of the birth control pill to chemical pesticides; the blazing heteronormativity. Smart women have already chimed in on this stuff, though, so I’ll focus on the completely bullshit notion that “men want sex more than women do.” I’m not saying this statement is untrue — I’m saying it’s utter nonsense to which no truth value can be assigned.
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Lena Dunham is naked, or partially naked, fairly frequently on “Girls.” (So is Jemima Kirke. Both Allison Williams and Zosia Mamet keep themselves more covered up.) Some of Lena’s nudity is during sex scenes, while a bunch of others are when her character is changing clothes, sitting on the toilet, or in the bath or shower. They are intended to be awkward, uncomfortable, or even humiliating. As is a fair amount of real-life nudity, frankly.
Yesterday, during a Television Critics Association Panel, The Wrap’s TV writer Tim Molloy asked Dunham why her character is naked so much on the show. The manner in which he “asked,” led to a curt response from Dunham, and a bit of a tongue lashing from producer Judd Apatow, who called Molloy “sexist,” “misogynistic” and “offensive.” Molloy then wrote an entire article complaining about the exchange. Keep reading »
Women are everywhere these days and sexuality is one area in which women have globally joined forces to have a voice. But interestingly, in all this activism, one thing that has been slightly quiet and unheard, one thing often missing, is the male voice. A lot of emphasis is being placed on empowering women, whereas a lot of stigmas and myths around sexuality are very much directed towards men. And while I don’t believe this movement is taking away men’s voices, I don’t necessarily think it’s empowering men to understand that they have a role with a voice, too.
Let’s identify some issues in which men are often blamed for perpetuating, but in actuality, men may be just as susceptible to as women. Read all six sexual issues on Your Tango…
When a woman named Christine kicked her son Chad out of the house after finding out he was gay, her dad (Chad’s grandfather) penned this awesome letter, which FCKH8 posted on their Facebook page. “You’re correct we have a ‘shame in the family’, but mistaken about what it is,” he begins. “Dad” goes on to call her choice a “hurtful,” narrow-minded” “abomination” that “goes against nature.” He tells her that he has a “fabulous (as the gays call it) grandson to raise” and doesn’t have time to deal with “a heartless b-word of a daughter.” But should she change her mind, she’s welcome to call.
Fuck yeah, Grandpa! How could Christine not change her mind after a letter like that? More Chads should have grandparents like this. [The Hollywood Gossip]
Miley Cyrus opened a can of worms when she told Rolling Stone that her “Wrecking Ball” video was inspired by the Sinead O’Connor classic, “Nothing Compares 2 U.” Naturally, this inspired the outspoken singer to pen a thousand-word missive to Miley and post it on her website. In true O’Connor fashion, her open letter cuts both ways — poignant and well, a little crazy. Some excerpts after the jump. Keep reading »
Most of you have probably heard of the Kinsey Scale — a measure from zero (100 percent hetero) to six (100 percent gay) that determines a person’s perceived sexual orientation. A recent review of research on the matter, done by Ritch Savin-Williams at Cornell University, focused attention on the 1′s — those they are labeling “mostly heterosexual.”
What does that mean exactly? I’m picturing the guy in my acting class who admitted to getting a reach-around handjob from another dude once, but preferred girls. Oh, actors. I’m also thinking of a friend of mine who I brought with me to a dinner party. She wound up getting really drunk on Pinot and I found her in the backyard making out with a girl. Her boyfriend never found out. This is my loose understanding of being “mostly heterosexual.”
According to researchers, the “mostly heterosexual” group is so distinct that scientists are considering taking a more nuanced approach to their study of sexual orientation. Duh. But still, yay! Below, check out some things to know about those who fall in the “mostly heterosexual” category: Keep reading »
We get lots of sex toys sent to us at The Frisky’s office. Like, lining-the-bookshelves lots. Don’t get us wrong: we’ll never say no to a new vibrator or free condoms. But truth be told, the packaging and aesthetic of so many sex toys give us a seedy vibe. We don’t want our sex toys to make us feel like we’re lurking around at the tawdry XXX Love Emporium on the side of the highway. We want our sex toys to remind us of the classy, sexy, sensual women that we are. [Unless we're using them as decorative conversation starters, that is. -- Amelia]
Right from the get-go, the Unbound box felt different: it’s a nondescript white box that arrives in the mail through a subscription service and is filled with sex toys all geared towards women. The toys hail from quality companies like Babeland, Lelo and Glas Toys and are meant for use with partners of any gender or sexual orientation. My Unbound box came in the mail with a clitoral vibrator, a glass dildo, lubricant, condoms, a lingerie bag, and a spare contact lens case to carry in my purse for “sleepovers” — score! When I found out that Unbound is a women-owned startup and that the three founders — Greer, Sarah Jayne and Katie — select all the sex toys themselves, I knew I had to talk to them.
Here’s what a couple of the Unbound cofounders Greer Goldenberg and Sarah Jayne Kinney have to say about their great idea:
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The Palme d’Or is the highest prize awarded at the Cannes Film Festival each year, presented to the director of the best feature film. Past honorees have included such notable favorites as “Amour,” “Fahrenheit 9/11,” “The Pianist,” “Pulp Fiction,” and “Taxi Driver” — so it goes without saying that walking away with the Palme d’Or is no small feat. In fact, it pretty much guarantees an excellent and critically well-received film. But for once, you’ve probably never heard of this year’s winner, nor its stars (Léa Seydoux and Adèle Exarchopoulos), nor its director (Abdellatif Kechiche), nor the French graphic novel it’s based upon (“Blue Angel” by Julie Maroh). “Blue Is the Warmest Color” was much buzzed about during the festival, thanks in part to its reportedly “astonishing” 10-minute, likely unsimulated sex scene (helloooo, NC-17) between the two female lead characters. The film, which opens in American theaters on October 25, tells the rapturous story of Adèle, a 15-year-old aspiring teacher, who finds her world spun on its axis when she falls for Emma, an older, blue-haired art student. The trailer alone is absolutely stunning, set perfectly to a Beach House track. Prepare yourself for the chills.
The “burneshas” live in the mountain villages in the hinterland of Albania — they’re women who’ve lived their entire lives as men, forgoing sex in the process.
They’re also the subject of photographer Jill Peters’ collection, The Sworn Virgins of Albania. The women choose to live as men for a number of reasons, many having to do with the strict societal restrictions put on women in traditional Albanian culture. As Peters explains it: Keep reading »
Amber Heard is notoriously private about her personal life — especially when it comes to dating Johnny Depp. Nevertheless, she in no way regrets her decision to come out publicly as bisexual back in 2010.
“I didn’t want to look like I was hiding anything,” Heard tells the September issue of Elle, alluding to her then-relationship with photographer Tasya van Ree. “I’m not, and wasn’t ever, ashamed.” Read more at Celebuzz…