Women are everywhere these days and sexuality is one area in which women have globally joined forces to have a voice. But interestingly, in all this activism, one thing that has been slightly quiet and unheard, one thing often missing, is the male voice. A lot of emphasis is being placed on empowering women, whereas a lot of stigmas and myths around sexuality are very much directed towards men. And while I don’t believe this movement is taking away men’s voices, I don’t necessarily think it’s empowering men to understand that they have a role with a voice, too.
Let’s identify some issues in which men are often blamed for perpetuating, but in actuality, men may be just as susceptible to as women. Read all six sexual issues on Your Tango…
When a woman named Christine kicked her son Chad out of the house after finding out he was gay, her dad (Chad’s grandfather) penned this awesome letter, which FCKH8 posted on their Facebook page. “You’re correct we have a ‘shame in the family’, but mistaken about what it is,” he begins. “Dad” goes on to call her choice a “hurtful,” narrow-minded” “abomination” that “goes against nature.” He tells her that he has a “fabulous (as the gays call it) grandson to raise” and doesn’t have time to deal with “a heartless b-word of a daughter.” But should she change her mind, she’s welcome to call.
Fuck yeah, Grandpa! How could Christine not change her mind after a letter like that? More Chads should have grandparents like this. [The Hollywood Gossip]
Miley Cyrus opened a can of worms when she told Rolling Stone that her “Wrecking Ball” video was inspired by the Sinead O’Connor classic, “Nothing Compares 2 U.” Naturally, this inspired the outspoken singer to pen a thousand-word missive to Miley and post it on her website. In true O’Connor fashion, her open letter cuts both ways — poignant and well, a little crazy. Some excerpts after the jump. Keep reading »
Most of you have probably heard of the Kinsey Scale — a measure from zero (100 percent hetero) to six (100 percent gay) that determines a person’s perceived sexual orientation. A recent review of research on the matter, done by Ritch Savin-Williams at Cornell University, focused attention on the 1′s — those they are labeling “mostly heterosexual.”
What does that mean exactly? I’m picturing the guy in my acting class who admitted to getting a reach-around handjob from another dude once, but preferred girls. Oh, actors. I’m also thinking of a friend of mine who I brought with me to a dinner party. She wound up getting really drunk on Pinot and I found her in the backyard making out with a girl. Her boyfriend never found out. This is my loose understanding of being “mostly heterosexual.”
According to researchers, the “mostly heterosexual” group is so distinct that scientists are considering taking a more nuanced approach to their study of sexual orientation. Duh. But still, yay! Below, check out some things to know about those who fall in the “mostly heterosexual” category: Keep reading »
We get lots of sex toys sent to us at The Frisky’s office. Like, lining-the-bookshelves lots. Don’t get us wrong: we’ll never say no to a new vibrator or free condoms. But truth be told, the packaging and aesthetic of so many sex toys give us a seedy vibe. We don’t want our sex toys to make us feel like we’re lurking around at the tawdry XXX Love Emporium on the side of the highway. We want our sex toys to remind us of the classy, sexy, sensual women that we are. [Unless we're using them as decorative conversation starters, that is. -- Amelia]
Right from the get-go, the Unbound box felt different: it’s a nondescript white box that arrives in the mail through a subscription service and is filled with sex toys all geared towards women. The toys hail from quality companies like Babeland, Lelo and Glas Toys and are meant for use with partners of any gender or sexual orientation. My Unbound box came in the mail with a clitoral vibrator, a glass dildo, lubricant, condoms, a lingerie bag, and a spare contact lens case to carry in my purse for “sleepovers” — score! When I found out that Unbound is a women-owned startup and that the three founders — Greer, Sarah Jayne and Katie — select all the sex toys themselves, I knew I had to talk to them.
Here’s what a couple of the Unbound cofounders Greer Goldenberg and Sarah Jayne Kinney have to say about their great idea:
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The Palme d’Or is the highest prize awarded at the Cannes Film Festival each year, presented to the director of the best feature film. Past honorees have included such notable favorites as “Amour,” “Fahrenheit 9/11,” “The Pianist,” “Pulp Fiction,” and “Taxi Driver” — so it goes without saying that walking away with the Palme d’Or is no small feat. In fact, it pretty much guarantees an excellent and critically well-received film. But for once, you’ve probably never heard of this year’s winner, nor its stars (Léa Seydoux and Adèle Exarchopoulos), nor its director (Abdellatif Kechiche), nor the French graphic novel it’s based upon (“Blue Angel” by Julie Maroh). “Blue Is the Warmest Color” was much buzzed about during the festival, thanks in part to its reportedly “astonishing” 10-minute, likely unsimulated sex scene (helloooo, NC-17) between the two female lead characters. The film, which opens in American theaters on October 25, tells the rapturous story of Adèle, a 15-year-old aspiring teacher, who finds her world spun on its axis when she falls for Emma, an older, blue-haired art student. The trailer alone is absolutely stunning, set perfectly to a Beach House track. Prepare yourself for the chills.
The “burneshas” live in the mountain villages in the hinterland of Albania — they’re women who’ve lived their entire lives as men, forgoing sex in the process.
They’re also the subject of photographer Jill Peters’ collection, The Sworn Virgins of Albania. The women choose to live as men for a number of reasons, many having to do with the strict societal restrictions put on women in traditional Albanian culture. As Peters explains it: Keep reading »
Amber Heard is notoriously private about her personal life — especially when it comes to dating Johnny Depp. Nevertheless, she in no way regrets her decision to come out publicly as bisexual back in 2010.
“I didn’t want to look like I was hiding anything,” Heard tells the September issue of Elle, alluding to her then-relationship with photographer Tasya van Ree. “I’m not, and wasn’t ever, ashamed.” Read more at Celebuzz…
“No, no, no. I was just into my magazines and the drawings. I had a very strict upbringing, almost puritanical. I lived there all the way through college. I was in my grandmother’s house, and I respected that! [I] had very gay experiences, yes, I swear on my grandmother’s grave that I never slept with a single designer in my life. Never, ever desired, never was asked, never was approached, never, ever bought, in my entire career. Never. Not one. Skinny or fat. Never.”
– Vogue editor and muumuu-wearer extraordinaire Andre Leon Talley, who rejects the label “gay,” says that he’s fallen in love twice, both times with women (and neither of them Anna Wintour). As for his relationship with Wintour, Talley says “I wouldn’t have stayed at Vogue as long as I did without Anna being there. She was my biggest ally. There could not have been another way.” And also: “Ms. Wintour has had her bob since she was in her 20s. I have never seen her hair pulled back. Never. Not even at tennis.” [Vanity Fair]
As told to Lauren Gitlin.
It was always kind of under the surface, this idea that I wasn’t quite comfortable with my body. I remember looking at this book my parents gave me when I was 8 years old and I saw drawings of what men’s bodies were like and what women’s bodies were like, and how bodies changed through puberty. And I remember identifying more with male bodies, like that was the kind of body I wanted. Keep reading »