“Often people are curious about the fact that I am married to a man but call myself queer. It’s because I have had sex with more than one person, and I had unmarried sex quite a few times, and roughly half the people have been men and the other half have been women, and then there were a few people in between those genders who identified in differing ways, so it’s up to me to define myself, too, and so that would be queer. It’s the most fitting description, short and concise … I would like to call myself bisexual more frequently because there is much invisibility for the ‘B’s in the LGBT community. Gays and lesbians might assume that we are not homosexual enough, and straight people might assume that we are in porn. These are both true and false for me. I am both too homosexual and not homosexual enough, and I have appeared in porn films but not having any kind of sex. I am considering this as a possibility for later in my career. How fantastic to start making hardcore porn at the age of 80.”
—Margaret Cho writes on the Huffington Post all about her sexual identity and attraction to androgyny. I can already hear a call being made to Margaret’s agent, booking her for her first porno in the year 2049. [Huffington Post]
Everyone knows that Italians love wine, but one particular Italian thinks wine can tell you who your really love…sexually at least. Franco Dâ€™Eusanio has invented three wines which he says can help people determine their true sexuality — a masculine red wine, a feminine white wine, and a ambiguous rose. Um, I like all three — and a fourth! Boxed wine! — what does that mean? The test also comes with a psychological evaluation and a questionnaire about sexual behavior. Maybe he’s just trying to get you drunk so you’ll answer completely honestly? [Truemors] Keep reading »
Speaking of babies, here’s a story far more amazing than J.Lo finally giving birth to twins. As Elle mentioned in The Frisky Forums, The Advocate has a first person essay by the first transgender man to carry a child. Thomas Beatie was born a woman and is married to Nancy. Though he went through sexual reassignment surgery, Thomas didn’t opt to be sterilized and kept his reproductive rights. Together for ten years, the couple had always wanted to have children, but Nancy is unable to conceive after a hysterectomy 20 years ago, so Thomas decided to carry the child himself. He hadn’t had a menstrual cycle in nearly eight years, however (due to testosterone therapy), so getting pregnant required fertility treatments — his first pregnancy resulted in an ectopic pregnancy with triplets, a life-threatening condition that required surgery and all three embryos were lost. Thomas successfully got pregnant again, and this time everything seems healthy — he and Nancy are expecting their baby girl this summer.
The story is an interesting one for many reasons, particularly because it describes the experience of a man experiencing pregnancy. While Thomas’ ability to get pregnant is possible because he was born a woman, he identifies as a male and therefore, “Wanting to have a biological child is neither a male nor female desire, but a human desire.” It’s a great essay — check it out and then chime in about the story in the forums. [The Advocate] Keep reading »