Jen Kirkman is a comedian on “Chelsea Lately” and “After Lately.” This post was reprinted with permission from her Tumblr.
I’m on a Twitter strike. I am so sick of the way men on Twitter treat lady comics. And my male friends always DM me or text me or email me or talk to me about how they hate it too but they never speak up.
I am constantly tweeting about gay rights (I’m straight) and racism (I’m white). It takes two seconds and it’s part of who I am. My male comedy friends show support by suggesting that I just let it slide, “these people are idiots/trolls.” But I don’t see it as “trolls” — these are actual men who are showing me that their opinion is that a woman is acting “hysterical” when she reacts to being treated unfairly. Suddenly I am not funny or fun. My male comedy friends sometimes lament that they want to support and that they hate how they see their women friends being treated on line but “but don’t know what to say.” Keep reading »
I’m never really sure how I feel about concealed weapons, but in this case, I have to just laugh: A woman in Longview, Washington, was walking at Lake Sacajawea on Wednesday evening when a man “aggressively”came up to her while masturbating and “suggested she should watch him,” the Seattle Times reports. That’s when this woman whipped out her gun. Dudebro tucked his dick back in his pants and ran away. He wasn’t suspecting that, now was he?
Of course the sad part is that a woman shouldn’t have to produce a firearm to be safe from street harassment or sexual assault. But in this instance, it didn’t hurt. [Seattle Times]
“Totally Biased With W. Kamau Bell” is a show I keep meaning to start watching, especially because of skits like this. Kamau hit the streets to talk to talk about street harassment, asking women how it makes them feel and asking men why they do it. Surprise, surprise, boys: Yelling “Check out that ass!” at a woman just makes you look obnoxious (at best) and mad creepy (at worst). But the some of the men Kamau talked to don’t seem to get it. They think women “really like it.” There’s this one guy who insists that women “really like” being hollered at by strangers. Hmm, maybe he hasn’t considered he’s the one who actually enjoys making women uncomfortable? Oh, obliviousness.
When most people think about street harassment, they think about what women wear or about how women should respond to catcalls. But there are other, more subtle, effects of street harassment and how it affects women’s existence in public space. Recently, The Wall Street Journal noted that only 11 percent of the participants in India’s Delhi Half Marathon were female and one of the reasons they gave for why women in India don’t run is the “stares and calls from drivers, cyclists and pedestrians.” In other words, women don’t go outside to exercise when they live in fear of street harassment. Keep reading »
Living in New York City means getting used to street harassment. In the past few years, my name has been Baby, Sexy, Bitch, and Hey You, Why Don’t You Smile? I’ve learned when to give the finger and when to hide. My friend Jen Dziura, a life coaching columnist, advises women that the best way to counter street harassment is to walk calmly up to the whistler or catcaller in question and politely let him know that he needs to learn how to speak to women in a respectful way.
It’s because of her that I finally said something to the Hasidic men who harass me in my neighborhood. Keep reading »
I will never for the life of me understand why men whip their dick out in front of strange women. Especially when it is flaccid. What woman in the world has ever said, “Oh my god, you know what I need right now?! Your penis! Your flaccid penis! Thank God you are here!” Comedian Sasheer Zamata did a skit for the web series Storytime about this very occurence. She’s just better able to laugh about it than most of us. [Clutch Magazine]
The good news is that YouTube has pulled an account belonging to “John Zippy,” a man who was surreptiously filming women’s legs on the subway through a camera placed inside a Starbucks cup and posting the videos online.
The bad news is the YouTube channel “New York Subway Girls” had 35 videos posted on it before it was yanked, featuring 102 women whose body parts were being filmed without their consent. Gross. And the New York Police Department is unable do anything about the vids — unless a woman filmed specifically complains about sexual harassment — because filming in public is not illegal. Keep reading »
Sexual harassment in the workplace is wrong, and some companies use pictures to illustrate what constitutes inappropriate behavior on the job. Unfortunately, when you search for “sexual harassment” in any stock photo website, some images take it to a new level — one that makes you feel like the photo is sexually harassing YOU. Here are our favorite examples. Read more…
All feminist blogger Anita Sarkeesian wanted to do was create a new project aimed at examining common tropes in video games through a feminist lens. Sarkeesian, who blogs at FeministFrequency.com, was hoping that the new web series “Tropes vs. Women in Video Games,” would offer a new, in-depth view on gender representation in video games and throughout gaming culture. She needed $6,000 to fund the venture, so she launched a Kickstarter campaign (the video for the project is after the jump), and pledged to make the web series available free online upon completion.
No big deal, right? It should have been a simple project to get support for and fund. But then her project caught the attention of anti-feminist, anti-woman trolls. Keep reading »