Tag Archives: sexual harassment

Jian Ghomeshi Has Sent Me Into Creep Ennui

I have creep ennui. Right now it’s Jian Ghomeshi. Over the last few weeks it’s been Stephen Collins, Ray Rice (and the whole NFL), and the Alt Lit crowd — Tao Lin, Janey Smith, Stephen Tully Dierks, Ed Champion. Matt Taibbi apparently harassed a staffer at First Look Media. Dr. Luke abused Ke$ha. Would-be feminist icon Charles Clymer just keeps sticking his foot in his mouth whenever people press him about his questionable behavior and opinions. People are coming around to the Bill-Cosby-Is-A-Rapist revelation that I had years ago, after which I stopped watching anything Cosby-related. A bunch of guys I know probably know what Jennifer Lawrence’s boobs look like, now, and that’s creepy, too. Woody Allen’s a creep. Bill O’Reilly’s a creep. Sean Penn’s a creep. Mel Gibson’s a creep. Chris Brown’s a creep. Bill Clinton. Anthony Weiner. John Edwards. Creeps. Keep reading »

Woman Gets Groper Arrested By Posting His Picture On Twitter

Sexual Harassment

When Julia Marquand walked into a Seattle store, a man started following her a little too closely, making her suspicious. He then proceeded to reach out and touch her butt. She told him to leave her alone, and he apologized, but that didn’t make up for what he’d just done. Twenty minutes later, she spotted him nearby outside store, confronted him, and took his picture. She told Komo 4 News:

“I was yelling a little bit and there was some people walking by and a couple asked me if I was OK. It seemed like he was trying to do some damage control once he realized I took his photo and (he) was apologizing more and telling me not to take his picture.”

Marquand reported the harassment to police, but they weren’t interested in her photo. Despite having evidence, it seemed pretty clear that nobody was interested in taking action, so Marquand took it upon herself. She posted about the incident on Facebook and posted the guy’s picture on Twitter. Keep reading »

Fed Up Artist Turns Catcalls Into Needlepoints

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It continues to blow my mind that men remain dismissive of women’s complaints about street harassment, insistent that they’re “only” giving compliments and flirting, as if it’s completely irrelevant how such “compliments” actually make women feel. Brooklyn-based artist Elana Adler — like many, many, many, many women – was also sick of being catcalled and decided to turn some of the remarks she heard from strange men on the street into a bad ass collection of needlepoints. As she writes on her blog, the contrast between the sweet femininity of the cross-stitch and the ickiness of the words themselves is purposeful:

“You read one sampler. Perhaps you are amused, but as you continue reading and consider the body as an entire collection, the response changes. The inherent filth emerges. It is a beautification of an assault. Perhaps in the moment these statements are meant to compliment, but most don’t find vulgar, highly sexualized statements whispered or screamed at them by random strangers complimentary. Rather, they are an invasion of personal space.”

Click through to see a few more samples of her work and check out the rest on her blog. [Elana Adler via Cosmopolitan]

The Soapbox: Fear Me If You Do Not Respect My Right To Walk Down The Street In Peace

The Soapbox: Fear Me If You Do Not Respect My Right To Walk Down The Street In Peace

Before the movement to end street harassment really gained steam, I penned an essay about my childhood experiences as a poor, Black girl. In the piece, I detailed an interaction I had, at 11 years old with a group of men more than two times my age, where they publicly sexually harassed me while on my neighborhood street. The piece expressed the hurt, anger and rage that is buried so deep within me after decades of feeling unsafe in this world just because I am woman. This was the story of how I learned that my entire being was defined, in this society, by my sexuality. Not my intelligence, not my humor, not my wit, but access to my body.

I looked back on that piece and felt all the fears and anxiety that I have so long tried to cast aside and dismiss. Fears that resurfaced because of stories that two women were brutally attacked within the past couple of days (one of whom lost her life and the other who thankfully is expected to survive), by men who sought to gain access to their sexuality but were denied. Men who invaded the personal physical and emotional space of those women, without any permission or invitation, and murdered them simply because they were made aware of the fact that their advances were not welcomed. Keep reading »

Acceptable Catcalls
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Mansplaining Catcalls
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Man Murders Mother Of Three For Rejecting His Advances

Mary Unique Spears

Mary “Unique” Spears, a 27-year-old mother of three, had just left the funeral of a relative on Saturday when a man she’d never met began harassing her under the guise of wanting to ask her out. She was on her way to the Joe Louis Post rental hall in Detroit to continue memorial services with her family. The man, 38, asked Spears for her name and her number, but she wasn’t interested. The man continued to pester Spears throughout the evening until the bar’s security staff escorted him out. Around that time is when he grabbed and hit Spears. When Spears’ fiance intervened, the harasser pulled out a gun. He shot her once, and when she tried to run, he shot her two more times in the head. Then, the man turned his gun on the crowd and injured Spears’ fiance and four other members of the family. The five other victims are expected to heal, but Spears was killed. Thankfully, the man is currently in custody and expected to be arraigned on murder charges. Her family has set up a fundraising page to help pay for her funeral.

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My Facebook Post About An Ass-Grabbing Customer Went Viral

Customer Who Put His Hand On His Bartender's Ass Messed With The Wrong Pissed Off Woman

Two weeks ago I quit my bartending job. A man came into my restaurant, had a drink, and made a lewd comment to me, while he also happened to have his hand on my ass. It’s now a somewhat internet famous event, as I posted about it on my Facebook page and the note took off.  That one little pic now has almost 19,000 likes, and near 10,000 shares. My anecdote got some press attention as well, with stories published on Jezebel, Huffington Post, NYMag.com, and even as a full-page spread in the New York Post. That article in the Post likely contributed to the attention the whole thing received as the Customer in question apparently called me a “fucking cunt” on the phone to their reporter, claiming that he had “grabbed a lot of asses” but never mine.  To be clear, I never said he “grabbed” me (just touched me), but I can’t imagine that the reporter made the distinction over the phone. Nor would it be emphasized by various Facebookers who were tagging and attacking him in response. You see, I made the saucy, dangerous, and arguably underhanded choice to include the name of this customer when I posted about it on Facebook. I will never know whether that was a good idea, because I will never witness the full repercussions of my actions. Keep reading »

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