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Man Murders Mother Of Three For Rejecting His Advances

Mary Unique Spears

Mary “Unique” Spears, a 27-year-old mother of three, had just left the funeral of a relative on Saturday when a man she’d never met began harassing her under the guise of wanting to ask her out. She was on her way to the Joe Louis Post rental hall in Detroit to continue memorial services with her family. The man, 38, asked Spears for her name and her number, but she wasn’t interested. The man continued to pester Spears throughout the evening until the bar’s security staff escorted him out. Around that time is when he grabbed and hit Spears. When Spears’ fiance intervened, the harasser pulled out a gun. He shot her once, and when she tried to run, he shot her two more times in the head. Then, the man turned his gun on the crowd and injured Spears’ fiance and four other members of the family. The five other victims are expected to heal, but Spears was killed. Thankfully, the man is currently in custody and expected to be arraigned on murder charges. Her family has set up a fundraising page to help pay for her funeral.

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My Facebook Post About An Ass-Grabbing Customer Went Viral

Customer Who Put His Hand On His Bartender's Ass Messed With The Wrong Pissed Off Woman

Two weeks ago I quit my bartending job. A man came into my restaurant, had a drink, and made a lewd comment to me, while he also happened to have his hand on my ass. It’s now a somewhat internet famous event, as I posted about it on my Facebook page and the note took off.  That one little pic now has almost 19,000 likes, and near 10,000 shares. My anecdote got some press attention as well, with stories published on Jezebel, Huffington Post, NYMag.com, and even as a full-page spread in the New York Post. That article in the Post likely contributed to the attention the whole thing received as the Customer in question apparently called me a “fucking cunt” on the phone to their reporter, claiming that he had “grabbed a lot of asses” but never mine.  To be clear, I never said he “grabbed” me (just touched me), but I can’t imagine that the reporter made the distinction over the phone. Nor would it be emphasized by various Facebookers who were tagging and attacking him in response. You see, I made the saucy, dangerous, and arguably underhanded choice to include the name of this customer when I posted about it on Facebook. I will never know whether that was a good idea, because I will never witness the full repercussions of my actions. Keep reading »

15 Of The Worst Messages Women Have Received From Men They Ignored On Online Dating Sites

That I should be thankful a "rich white guy" wanted to talk to an "ugly Hispanic". I'm Asian.

Online dating can be a wonderful thing, and plenty of couples — including our own Jessica and her husband — have met and found love through sites like OK Cupid, Tinder and Match. But it can also be a complete and utter shitshow, especially for women. While there are plenty of cool single dudes to meet online, there are also loads of entitled, misogynistic assholes littering your inbox and refusing to be ignored. Our friends over at Whisper asked their female users to submit the worst messages they’ve received from men they refused to chat with and the results were sadly and unsurprisingly vile. Let’s hope these dudes spend the rest of their lives alone. Keep reading »

PurrVerse: We All Have The Right To A Secret Identity

PurrVerse: We All Have The Right To A Secret Identity

It was two and a half years ago that I presented at South By Southwest  on sex workers and social media, particularly on the dangers of “real name policies.” Sex workers are using social media, not only to talk to fans, but to talk to each other, to create community while still maintaining a level of personal privacy that feels good for them.

I argued that demanding people use their legal names (erroneously called their “real” name) can make social media an incredibly unsafe place, with more abuse rather than less. I talked about some of the cons to social media, like the overzealous censorship of nudity while ignoring violent gore, or how bullying and harassment goes ignored.

It was a generally well-received presentation, and I noticed that times did change. Google Plus, who was the main offender, changed their policies first to allow nicknames, and then finally in July of this year, doing away with “real name” policies altogether. I figured the NymWars were over with that. Keep reading »

Customer Who Put His Hand On His Bartender’s Ass Messed With The Wrong Pissed Off Woman

Customer Who Put His Hand On His Bartender's Ass Messed With The Wrong Pissed Off Woman

An ex-New York City bartender/aspiring actress named Laura Ramadei has penned an open letter to a customer named Brian Lederman, who groped her and said he wanted to order her “to go.” When Ramadei didn’t respond to his sexual harassment, Lederman — a hedge funder who she easily found online through a Google search, after he paid with his credit card — left a shitty tip.

And, well, her open letter to him that she posted on Facebook is so feisty, feminist-y and awesome that I kinda hope she tracks us down and starts writing for The Frisky. (Lederman responded by telling The New York Post she is a “fucking cunt,” because of course he did.)

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Tinder Exec Resigns Following Sexual Harassment Settlement

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  • Tinder CMO Justin Mateen has resigned from the company after the company and its owner IAC settled a sexual harassment lawsuit by a former employee and romantic interest. Whitney Wolfe, an early employee at Tinder, said she was pressured to resign after she complained about sexist and inappropriate messages from Mateen. The amount of the settlement was undisclosed. [USA Today; NBC News]
  • Resident advisors at Barnard College at Columbia University were asked to sign a “training expectations” contact which asked them to dress with “no belly, no butts, no bras.” [Feministing]
  • Poetry by the late Maya Angelou has been made into a hip-hop album. [The Grio] Keep reading »
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