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I’m almost 20, and I have been dating my current boyfriend, who’s 21, for almost a year now, and even though it hasn’t been that long, I feel like he is “the one.” Before him, I was never able to stick around in a relationship for more than a month, and any talk of anything even remotely related to the future would send me running off. But imagining a life with him is one of the easiest things, and he’s told me he can see himself marrying me, having kids, and retiring and spending the rest of our lives together. Everything’s perfect except he’s a faithful Christian and wants to wait until marriage for actual penetration, although he’s fine with everything else, including oral sex. And the problem is, I’ve always told myself that I would not wait until then. This isn’t a matter of whether or not I love him enough to stay with him, to wait for him — I simply cannot imagine entering a marriage without knowing if I am compatible in that sense, because I know that I don’t want to get a divorce. I probably would not be able to live with myself if I managed to persuade him, especially if he regretted it afterward, but I also cannot imagine us having a life together if I don’t know that we’re sexually compatible. What should I do? — Lose-Lose Situation

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