Last week, a woman named Hillary Bowman-Smart, of Melbourne, Australia, began the hashtag #SafetyTipsForWomen on Twitter in response to an article about victim-blaming on Australian website The Punch called “Advocating Risk Management Is Not Victim Blaming.” Since then the #hashtag has gone viral and continues to stir up some hilarious “tips” for women days after the original tweet. Her Tumblr blog explains:
How about we recognise that being drunk, being ‘sexy’, being out having fun, being loud, being trans, being queer, being sexually active – none of it causes rape, because rapists cause rape? How about we stop pretending that if women follow some stupid, byzantine set of ‘rules’ we’ll be safe?
The hashtag has spread beyond Down Under and to elsewhere around the world. After the jump are some of the best tweets… Keep reading »
How the best laid plans do folly: A Florida sheriff’s office accidentally distributed a phone sex line number to victims of sexual assault. I’ll repeat that. A Florida sheriff’s office accidentally distributed a phone sex line number to victims of sexual assault. The number was printed on a flyer created by the Lake County, Florida, Sheriff’s office as a means of offering sexual violence victims support via telephone. But when they called it? Yup, phone sex from “America’s hottest talk line” where callers are instructed “To talk to interesting and exciting guys free, press 1 now. Guys, hot ladies are waiting to talk to you.” Keep reading »
The New York City Police Department is infamous for the controversial “stop and frisk” program, critiqued for how it is used for racial profiling. This story, however, is more like stop and grope.
According to NYMag.com, a Brooklyn woman, Latonya Ratcliff, 39, is suing the city after Officer Joseph Jette entered an apartment, where Ratcliff works as a live-in caregiver, to search for guns and ended up sexually assaulting her. During a not-so-routine patdown, Latonya claims officer Jette “cupped her breast and butt,” according to the Post. Then, when questioning Ratcliff alone in the apartment’s bedroom, Officer Jette allegedly picked up a porn DVD. The Post reports that Ratcliff said, “He asked me if I liked these positions and if I wanted to do them with him and I told him no.” Keep reading »
Hey, bro, want to know what we should do this drunk girl passed out of the couch? Here are some crazy ideas. [UpWorthy]
ABC News aired new video of teen partygoers in Steubenville, Ohio, being questioned by police regarding the sexual assault of “Jane Doe,” the then 15-year-old girl whose story has entranced the nation. On the night of her assault, Jane Doe was raped and carried unconscious to multiple parties all while pictures were taken; last week, Ma’lik Richmond and Trent Mays received one year and two years, respectively, in juvenile detention facilities for participating in her abuse. ABC’s video shows teens (their faces not obscured, for some reason) describing how Jane Doe got increasingly drunk throughout the evening — meaning she was less and less able to consent to any sexual behavior. “She was a mess,” says one boy interviewed by cops. “She wasn’t responding. She was passed out.” Keep reading »
“Love potions do not equal consent. Coercion through magic is illegal. Combined with the use of love potions it is rape.”
Oh, if only those Steubenville rapists could have gotten reported to the Ministry Of Magic. Or should I say those Lord Voldemorts. [The Mary Sue]
Two 18-year-old football players at Torrington High School in Torrington, Connecticut, allegedly raped a 13-year-old girl. The two young athletes have each been charged with the felony of second-degree sexual assault, along with two other charges.
It’s disturbing enough that Edgar Gonzales and Joan Toribio (who are being held in a correction facility and are out on a $50K bond, respectively) may have sexually assaulted a 13-year-old. What’s also disturbing are the vile, slut-shaming tweets about the young girl calling her a “ho” and a “snitch.” Keep reading »
I don’t have to tell you that Steubenville is all over the news.
I don’t have to tell you that the fact that Trent Mays and Ma’lik Richmond, the two teenagers convicted of raping a sixteen year old girl, were only sentenced to a combined three years in juvenile prison, is a fucking joke. Each will serve a year for the rape itself; Mays will serve an additional year for “illegal use of a minor in nudity-oriented material.”
I probably don’t even have to tell you that the media treatment of this trial has been a perfect, if utterly sickening, example of rape culture, with its focus on how difficult and painful this event has been for the rapists who raped a 16-year-old girl then bragged about it on social media.
And I almost certainly don’t have to tell you that the world is full of seemingly nice, normal people who want to go to bat for the convicted rapists. I’m quite sure that you already know about the victim-blaming that’s been happening since this case first came to light. You know about the fact that people have actually come out and said that the real lesson to be learned here is that we need to be more careful with social media (i.e. go ahead and rape but make sure you don’t get caught). You already know that people seem to think that being a sports star and having a good academic record should somehow make up for the fact that you are a rapist.
I don’t have to tell you any of that because it’s all par for the course.
What I do want to tell you is that you need to stop using the “wives, sisters, daughters” argument when you are talking to people defending the Steubenville rapists. Or any rapists. Or anyone who commits any kind of crime, violent or otherwise, against a woman. Keep reading »
Walter Madison, the lawyer for Ma’lik Richmond, one of the teens convicted of raping a 16-year-old girl in Steubenville, Ohio, says he plans to appeal Judge Tom Lipps decision, based on scientific evidence that his client’s brain wasn’t fully developed at the time of the crime. Fully developed enough to what? Know that digitally raping an unconscious girl is wrong?
Madison said on “Piers Morgan Live” that he takes particular issue with Lipps sentencing Richmond to at least one year in a rehabilitation center and the requirement to register as a sex offender, saying, “I don’t believe that a person at 75 years old should have to explain for something they did at 16 when scientific evidence would support your brain isn’t fully developed … when evidence in the case would suggest that you were under the influence.” Keep in mind, Lipps’ sentence also leaves room for Richmond to be removed from the sex offender registration list if he exhibits good behavior in detention. Keep reading »
Feministing blogger Zerlina Maxwell is a survivor of rape. Last week, Maxwell appeared with Sean Hannity on Fox News and what she said on the show generated some racist, misogynist comments and both rape threats and death threats. Her “controversial” comment? She said, “I think we should be telling men not to rape women and start the conversation there with prevention.”
That’s not OK to say, apparently: it poked the hornet’s nest of our society’s long held, deeply flawed ideas about rape as well as squeamish attitudes when it comes to discussing it.
Zerlina Maxwell, we at The Frisky stand with you. Men should be taught not to rape. Here are three misconceptions about rape that she schooled Sean Hannity and his viewers on in the exchange: Keep reading »