Lauren Book-Lim is a survivor.
From age 10 to 16, the young Florida girl was sexually abused by her family’s live-in nanny. After telling her parents about the abuse and putting the former nanny behind bars, in 2002 Book-Lim started Lauren’s Kids. The organization educates children and adults about sexual abuse and also runs a 24-hour hotline.
Since April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month I hoped to do an interview for The Frisky and learn more about this remarkably strong young woman. Lauren Book-Lim was gracious enough to answer my questions over email before embarking today on “Walk In My Shoes,” a 500-mile walk across Florida to raise awareness about sexual abuse.
Our interview, after the jump: Keep reading »
I am not trying to make light of this news at all, but I see the word “fortune teller” in a headline and I have to write about it: Cesar Duran of Torrance, California, who claims to be a fortuneteller, has been accused of sexual assaulting two girls, ages 14 and 16, after “reading” their fortunes. The first victim, the 16-year-old, testified she met Duran on a street where her told her to pick up a leaf and crumple it so he could tell her fortune. The fortune Duran “read” turned out to be bleak—she would be lonely and bad things would happen to her family—and he allegedly told the girl, “I can help you, but I have to be in you. … My spirit has to be in you.” Keep reading »
Middle school totally blows for everyone. It’s a rule. It’s, like, written in the Bible or something. But I’d bet it blows a hell of a lot more when you’re a 6th grader who gets groped by her classmate and both your school administrators and the media act like it’s just a “schoolboy prank.”
That’s what has happened to an 11-year-old girl at Castaic Middle School, in Castaic, California: The girl said she was leaning over her locker when a boy came up behind her and grabbed her breasts. The kids at her middle school call that behavior “scooping.” After it took two days for the school to inform him about the incident and administrators failed to explain the boy’s punishment, the 6th grade girl’s father, Chris Dawson, went to TV station KTLA with the story. KTLA reported the incident and came up with this genius headline: “Scooping: Sexual Assault or Schoolboy Prank?”
Because there is such a thin line between inappropriately touching someone and a funny “prank,” right? Keep reading »
Pittsburgh Steelers quarterback Ben Roethlisberger has been accused of sexual assault — again. According to the gossip blog TMZ.com, “Big Ben” and pals were out on the town drinking in Milledgeville, Georgia, on Friday night when a 20-year-old woman alleged Roethlisberger sexually assaulted her in the bathroom of the club, Capital City. A source at the Milledgeville Police Department says she was allegedly “hysterical” when she arrived with three friends to file a report. She was allegedly treated at a local hospital and released.
However, Roethlisberger hasn’t yet been charged with a crime and his agent, Ryan Tollner, told ProFootballTalk.com that they are “skeptical of motive.” Keep reading »
Statistics have shown that most men who commit rape or date rape are known to the victim: friends, friends-with-benefits, boyfriends, husbands, even family members, etc. But even as someone who is attuned to news stories about sexual assault, I was unaware that researchers have gathered more info in the past decade about who these men are, on the college campus, specifically.
For the past two weeks, National Public Radio and the Center for Public Integrity have aired four stories on NPR about how sexual assaults are handled on college campuses in a series called “Seeking Justice For Campus Rapes.” Their most recent story, entitled “Myths That Make It Hard To Stop Campus Rape,” absolutely blew my mind. I had no idea about a 2002 study of men on college campuses in which one in 16 admitted to behavior that meets the definition of rape or date rape and the overwhelming majority of these men were repeat offenders. Keep reading »
Here’s a statistic that shouldn’t sit right with anyone: Over 73 percent of people in a study by the Havens, a sexual assault referral center in the U.K., believe the victim should “take responsibility” for getting raped if they’ve already performed another sexual act on the rapist. Raped? Well, you’d already given him a hand job so, really, you should have expected that to happen! Keep reading »
“You can’t blame the locals; they have never seen such women. Foreign tourists must maintain a certain degree of modesty in their clothing. Walking on the beaches half-naked is bound to titillate the senses.”
— Pamela Mascarhenas, deputy director of tourism of Goa in India, after the alleged sexual assault of a 9-year-old Russian girl there [Global Post] Keep reading »
Well, sort of. The director was at the center of an argument between my brother and I that started almost as soon as we sat down for Thanksgiving dinner.
[For reference: Polanski was apprehended by Swiss authorities, after he fled the United States in 1977 before he could be sentenced for having "unlawful sex with a minor," a lesser charge than the original six, which Polanski pled guilty to. (He was originally charged with "rape by use of drugs, perversion, sodomy, lewd and lascivious act upon a child under 14, and furnishing a controlled substance to a minor.") Polanski fled the country before sentencing upon learning that the judge was planning on giving him jail time, despite the recommendations of a probation report and psychiatric evaluation, which both indicated that Polanski should be released on time served. For the record, Polanski served only 42 days out of the initial 90 before being released and making a break for his native France.]
I just assumed my brother shared my opinion that Polanski should be locked in jail and the key thrown away. When he didn’t — and said that Polanski should be released because he wasn’t a serial predator, that the judge in the case was on a witch hunt, and that the 13-year-old girl whom Polanski had sex with had “consented” and “maybe even took the drugs on her own” — I basically lost my shizz. Was my own flesh and blood not only being a rape apologist but victim-blaming as well? Keep reading »