Over the years, I’ve struggled to get people to take my story seriously. So last month, when reporter Lycia Naff contacted me for an interview for the Daily Mail, I gave her a detailed account. I told her how Cosby won my trust as a 17-year-old aspiring actress in 1985, brainwashed me into viewing him as a father figure, and then assaulted me multiple times. In one case, I blacked out after having dinner and one glass of wine at his New York City brownstone, where he had offered to mentor me and discuss the entertainment industry. When I came to, I was in my panties and a man’s t-shirt, and Cosby was looming over me. I’m certain now that he drugged and raped me. But as a teenager, I tried to convince myself I had imagined it. I even tried to rationalize it: Bill Cosby was going to make me a star and this was part of the deal. The final incident was in Atlantic City, where we had traveled for an industry event. I was staying in a separate bedroom of Cosby’s hotel suite, but he pinned me down in his own bed while I screamed for help. I’ll never forget the clinking of his belt buckle as he struggled to pull his pants off. I furiously tried to wrestle from his grasp until he eventually gave up, angrily called me “a baby” and sent me home to Denver.
Barbara Bowman has maintained that comedian Bill Cosby raped her for nearly 30 years, but it wasn’t until recently, when Hannibal Burress brought renewed attention to Cosby’s history of being accused of sexual assault, that her story began to be taken seriously. Today, in The Washington Post, Bowman, now married with two children, again shares her story, detailing how a much older Cosby manipulated her into trusting him, promising her that he would make her famous, and then sexually assaulted her multiple times when she was just 17 years old. According to Bowman (pictured above, inset, at age 19), Cosby’s circle of handlers and assistants were aware and turned a blind eye. Her story is one of over a dozen other stories shared by women who claim they were raped by the “Cosby Show” star, who has managed to walk away unscathed either because the accusations were not taken seriously by the authorities or because Cosby settled the suits brought against him out of court. Bowman has been speaking out about what Cosby did to her since it happened, as have many of his other alleged victims, causing Bowman to wonder why it took a male comedian making a joke at Cosby’s expense for their to be a public outcry. Keep reading »
Yesterday, Bill Cosby, or Billy Cosby’s PR team, created and posted a Cosby Meme Generator to the star’s website and then tweeted the following request: “Meme me! #CosbyMeme” And oh, did they, but not in the way the “Cosby Show” star and Jell-O spokesman expected. (Here are some examples of what they did expect — YAWN.) But maybe they should have anticipated that people would use the meme generator to draw attention to the more than a dozen women who have accused Cosby of sexual assault or rape over the years. After all, just last week, Queen Latifah canceled an interview with Cosby that was due to air on her talk show because of renewed interest in those allegations. Whoops! Here are just 10 examples of the internet blasting Cosby as a sexual predator using his own meme generator (which has since been taken down off the site, of course). [The Verge] Keep reading »
Sheesh, I don’t know what these silly broads are so mad about. Ramapo College in New Jersey had their coordinator of Substance Abuse and Violence Prevention lead a super-helpful presentation on college sexual assault. It included the completely innocent suggestion that women learn how to not invite rape with their outfits and practice rape-preventative facial expressions in the mirror at home, and both the student body and various journalistic outfits are getting all up on Ramapo’s asses about it. WOMEN, amirite?!?! Ehhh??
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FCKH8 put together this amazing video of little girls summing up the women’s equality movement more succinctly than any grown-up ever could. After all, it’s their future we’re so worried about, right? The video highlights their T-shirt fundraiser, which goes toward supporting anti-sexism organizations and funding FCKH8 to keep pushing activist causes forward. I am head over heels for this one. Can I adopt one of those little girls? [BuzzFeed]
TMZ is reporting that Ke$ha is suing her longtime producer Dr. Luke for sexual assault and battery, which she says began at age 18, when he signed her to his label Kemosabe Records, an offshoot of Sony. The singer says that Luke, born Lukasz Gottwald, 41, made her use drugs and sexually assaulted her for years, including one incident in which he gave her “sober pills” and she woke up the next morning in his bed, sore and with no recollection of what happened the night before. The suit also alleges that Luke was verbally abusive to the now 27-year-old, insulting her physical appearance and contributing to her developing an eating disorder. Dr. Luke is largely considered one of the more influential music producers working today. Keep reading »
This video by psychologist Dr. Nina Burrowes explains the smoke screen that keeps society blind to what sexual abuse really looks like and makes it more likely for abusers to get away with what they’re doing. Obviously, abuse is a horrible thing, and it is never anyone’s fault but the abuser. That said, society as a whole buys into misleading stereotypes that enable abusers to continue what they’re doing and to emotionally manipulate their victims into thinking what happened wasn’t abuse. The cliche image of creepy men in public alleyways committing sex crimes makes it harder for most victims to be taken seriously, because most instances of abuse happen behind closed doors and are carried out by someone the victim trusts. While disturbing to think about, this video is full of insights you may have never heard before, and awareness like this is the key to making life easier for victims and tougher for abusers. [Everyday Feminism]