There’s a new Twitter hashtag #IAskedPolitely chronicling all the times that women have spoken up about sexual harassment/sexual situations in the workplace and not a single thing changed. It’s come about following “Donglegate,” the incident I wrote about earlier this week in which former SendGrid developer evangelist Adria Richards tweeted a picture of a guy who was cracking sexualized jokes at a recent tech conference. The incident has spurred a huge debate about sexism in tech, privacy, and professionalism — both sides convinced the other is just being butthurt. I won’t wade too deeply into the critiques, although I linked to some in Today’s Lady News on Friday. But I did want to point out the #IAskedPolitely hashtag, which is turning into a list of all the awful things that have been said to women who’ve spoken up about sexism in the workplace. You have no sense of humor! It must be your period! You’re overreacting! Of course that’s the reason. No, no, no, it couldn’t be that sexist culture is f**ked up. [Twitter.com #IAskedPolitely]
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It wouldn’t be a day at The Frisky if I didn’t get to write about a sleazy politician! Today’s subject: New York Assemblyman Vito J. Lopez, a Democrat from Brooklyn.
According to The New York Daily News, the 71-year-old complained to a fellow staff members about statutory rape laws in New York, because he thought his 14-year-old intern was “sexy.” The intern in question had only been working there six days and is the daughter of a Brooklyn judge he helped elect. There is currently a police probe into whether any criminal actions were committed.
Alas, this is not the first accusation of sexual harassment against Vito Lopez. (Sadly, it usually isn’t.) Keep reading »
Last week Connecticut State Rep. Ernest Hewett (D) creeped out America with his lewd and inappropriate comment to a 17-year-old girl about the “snake” under his desk. (He meant his dick.) Now Hewett has explained to the Hartford Courant that this was not his typical behavior. How has he kept his record clean? Keep reading »
Karma’s a bitch.
Last night outside my apartment in New York City, the street was flooded with lights, sirens and a cherry-picker? Yes. A cherry-picker, along with a host of emergency personnel, surrounded a gaping hole familiar (and clearly marked, for the record) to this stretch of sidewalk. Firefighters kept gawkers at bay and I asked other bystanders, “What the hell happened?” It was explained that somebody had fallen into the aforementioned sidewalk orifice. Come to find out, the man who took the tumble was fleeing after having groped a woman on the street. Keep reading »
Rep. Ernest Hewett of Connecticut, a Democrat, was caught on audiotape making a lewd sexual comment regarding a 17-year-old girl who testified to the state legislature about her internship. The unnamed girl. who interned at the Connecticut Science Center, said the experience helped her overcome her fear of snakes:
“I am usually a very shy person, and now I am more outgoing. I was able to teach those children about certain things like snakes that we have and the turtles that we have… I want to do something toward that, working with children when I get older.”
Rep. Hewitt was heard on audiotape replying:
“If you’re bashful I got a snake sitting under my desk here.”
I will never so much as smile at my boss Amelia again. Why? Because the Iowa Supreme Court ruled today that an employer can fire an employee that he or see finds sexually “irresistable.” The case in question was dentist James Knight who fired his attractive assistant Melissa Nelson because both he and his wife thought this woman could come between them. Also, she wore “distracting” tight clothing! An all-male panel of seven judges agreed this slutty slut had to go: they said it’s not discrimination for bosses to fire someone with whom they have an “irresistible attraction,” even if the person in question has not flirted with them. Keep reading »
Long Island woman Christina Ianntielli is suing her former employer for harassing her with his “flabby” moobs and torso. The 24-year-old former Comptroller says the that 33-year-old President of Empire Digital, Scott Brodsky, would sniff her hair, strip off his shirt, jiggle his “flabby” bits and say, “Who would want to date this?” As if that weren’t repulsive enough (my boss once ate a hard-boiled egg in front of me and I felt harassed … I can’t imagine the chub scenario), Brodsky allegedly gave Ianntielli “gifts and raises” and demanded sex in exchange.
“If he’s trying to get me to have sex with him, he’s saying the most ridiculous things … How does he even think that would work?” Iannitelli said. (I’ve often asked myself the very same question, just, thankfully, not at work.) Keep reading »
“[A director] had an actor in to read opposite me. We hadn’t even been introduced. And the director told this guy to start seducing me and kissing my neck while we read. It was so weird. Eventually I just said: ‘I can’t do this.’ And, of course, I was told I was difficult and all that. But I felt really violated by letting it go on for 10 minutes to try to get a job. And, of course, I didn’t get the job. But it felt so old-fashioned, so inappropriate.”
– Sienna Miller opens up about her modern day “casting couch” experience when some creepy director watched an actor kiss her for 10 minutes during an “audition.” Miller played Tippi Hedren (above) in HBO’s movie “The Girl,” a disturbing flick about how director Alfred Hitchcock sexually harassed Hedren throughout the filming of “The Birds.” As gross as Miller’s experience was, it was nothing compared to the awful exploitation older Hollywood actresses have had to go through just to get work. “Nowadays we are far more able to achieve things without feeling indebted to some man who essentially wants to control and possess free-spirited women,” Miller said. I’m dying to know the identify of the offending director. [Guardian UK]
Jen Kirkman is a comedian on “Chelsea Lately” and “After Lately.” This post was reprinted with permission from her Tumblr.
I’m on a Twitter strike. I am so sick of the way men on Twitter treat lady comics. And my male friends always DM me or text me or email me or talk to me about how they hate it too but they never speak up.
I am constantly tweeting about gay rights (I’m straight) and racism (I’m white). It takes two seconds and it’s part of who I am. My male comedy friends show support by suggesting that I just let it slide, “these people are idiots/trolls.” But I don’t see it as “trolls” — these are actual men who are showing me that their opinion is that a woman is acting “hysterical” when she reacts to being treated unfairly. Suddenly I am not funny or fun. My male comedy friends sometimes lament that they want to support and that they hate how they see their women friends being treated on line but “but don’t know what to say.” Keep reading »
I’m never really sure how I feel about concealed weapons, but in this case, I have to just laugh: A woman in Longview, Washington, was walking at Lake Sacajawea on Wednesday evening when a man “aggressively”came up to her while masturbating and “suggested she should watch him,” the Seattle Times reports. That’s when this woman whipped out her gun. Dudebro tucked his dick back in his pants and ran away. He wasn’t suspecting that, now was he?
Of course the sad part is that a woman shouldn’t have to produce a firearm to be safe from street harassment or sexual assault. But in this instance, it didn’t hurt. [Seattle Times]