How do you out-creep a total creepster? It’s a question for the ages, and one that writer Chris Brecheen had often pondered. For years, Brecheen listened to his female friends complain about getting unwanted attention by men on public transportation. No matter what they did — wear headphones, keep their heads down, ignore them –– men would continue to harass them on the subway. In a post on his blog last week, Brecheen addressed the all-too familiar story:
It is the narrative of how men hit on women in public places. A tired old story if ever there were one. A story where consent is not a character we actually ever meet, and where the real antagonist is not a person, but rather the way she has been socialized to be polite, to be civil, to not be “such a bitch”. … no matter how much of a Douchasauras Rex HE is being about not picking up the subtle clues.
On a recent subway ride, Brecheen, who lives in San Francisco, witnessed yet another creepster bothering a woman on the train. Despite an empty train car, the headphones she wore and the book she was reading, the man began pestering her with questions: Keep reading »
The University of North Carolina-Chapel Hill is currently facing three investigations by the U.S. Department of Education’s Office for Civil Rights over the school’s handling of sexual assault reports.
The issues at UNC first became apparent when rape victim Landen Gambill (pictured here) was found in violation of the school’s honor code and faced the threat of expulsion. (Charges have since been dismissed.) After reporting UNC to the federal government for mishandling sexual assault cases, Gambill was accused of an honor court violation for exhibiting “disruptive or intimidating behavior” towards her alleged rapist, even though she never released his name. UNC eventually dropped the charges, but only after the case received national attention. The school is now under investigation for retaliating against a sexual assault whistleblower, underreporting sexual assault cases, and failing to adjudicate rape at the school. Keep reading »
A standard traffic stop over a broken headlight turned into sexual abuse in Florida when a Lakeland police officer asked Zoe Brugger to lift up her shirt, pull her bra away from her chest, and shake it. He then decided that the first time had not been sufficient, so she was made to do it again. The best part?
He had literally no reason to have her do this. Keep reading »
I hear a lot of weird shit on the street. Many people, apparently, feel that they have license to say whatever they so please to me. Generally, it doesn’t bother me, but “sweetie”’ is where I draw the line.
The other day I walked to grab a coffee and held the door for a respectable-looking gentleman who was also leaving the building. “Thank you, sweetie!” He replied. I know he was just trying to be nice, but I am an adult leaving my place of work for a coffee break. In what way did it strike this man as appropriate to call me his “sweetie”? Keep reading »
Ladies, ever get a creepy, unwanted dick pic or jerk off shot from a dude online? There you were, talking about your favorite Jay-Z song and then all the sudden — blam! — there’s a dick all up in your inbox. That’s what happened to Sarah, who had posted a profile on the dating website Let’s Date, hoping to find someone nice. The 20-year-old Long Island, New York, woman was was minding her own business, talking about the weather — literally, talking about the weather — with a guy named Trevor, when he surprise dick-pic-ed her.
Sarah was understandably upset. “I don’t need to be disrespected by someone I don’t know,” she texted back to him. Sarah told Trevor to leave her alone, but he didn’t listen, and instead responded with a barrage of insults. Time and again she asked that he stop messaging her, but he wouldn’t.
But rather than just getting mad, she got even. Keep reading »
College is a great place to explore new subject areas: Critical thinking, philosophy, dick sucking. What’s that? You college didn’t specialize in dick sucking? You must not have gone to Slippery Rock University, in Slippery Rock, Pennsylvania. Because a professor there, Robert Ammon Jr., seemingly offered that as an option to one of his students. The dick-sucking incident goes back to a 2010 trip to Spain the sports management professor took with a bunch of students. Ammon was supposed to act as something of a chaperone to the 19 kids, but ended up drinking with them at a bar. First, he bragged that he’d had more than 100 partners. Then, when another student asked who his favorite student was, he pointed to one girl in the group and said that she’d be his favorite “if she sucked his dick.” Keep reading »
The story is always the same: officials find it too hard to tell men to control themselves and not sexually harass women, so they place the responsibility and blame on women instead.
In this instance, Chinese police have asked women to refrain from wearing revealing clothing on buses or subways. According to China Daily ,“Women should not wear minimal clothing, such as miniskirts or hot pants when taking public transportation and should call police promptly if they are sexually harassed.” In case women just can’t resist wearing hot pants on the subway, police suggest that women use shopping bags, newspapers, or magazines to cover themselves up. Keep reading »
Dear Gentlemen Of The World:
Hello. My name is Sara Benincasa. Pleased to meet you. I’m an author and a comedian and a human with a vagina, otherwise known as a “lady-person.” I’m about to school you in exactly how to tell a stranger lady that she is great. I’m also going to teach you how not to talk to girls you don’t know.
But first, I’d like to tell you a story. I know, women be talking, am I right? But seriously guys, listen up, for I have knowledge to share. Useful knowledge. Think of my words as tools, and your brain as a box in which to place said tools, and a mutually satisfying encounter as the project you are building with these tools.
Okay then. On to the story. Keep reading »