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PurrVerse: We All Have The Right To A Secret Identity

PurrVerse: We All Have The Right To A Secret Identity

It was two and a half years ago that I presented at South By Southwest  on sex workers and social media, particularly on the dangers of “real name policies.” Sex workers are using social media, not only to talk to fans, but to talk to each other, to create community while still maintaining a level of personal privacy that feels good for them.

I argued that demanding people use their legal names (erroneously called their “real” name) can make social media an incredibly unsafe place, with more abuse rather than less. I talked about some of the cons to social media, like the overzealous censorship of nudity while ignoring violent gore, or how bullying and harassment goes ignored.

It was a generally well-received presentation, and I noticed that times did change. Google Plus, who was the main offender, changed their policies first to allow nicknames, and then finally in July of this year, doing away with “real name” policies altogether. I figured the NymWars were over with that. Keep reading »

Customer Who Put His Hand On His Bartender’s Ass Messed With The Wrong Pissed Off Woman

Customer Who Put His Hand On His Bartender's Ass Messed With The Wrong Pissed Off Woman

An ex-New York City bartender/aspiring actress named Laura Ramadei has penned an open letter to a customer named Brian Lederman, who groped her and said he wanted to order her “to go.” When Ramadei didn’t respond to his sexual harassment, Lederman — a hedge funder who she easily found online through a Google search, after he paid with his credit card — left a shitty tip.

And, well, her open letter to him that she posted on Facebook is so feisty, feminist-y and awesome that I kinda hope she tracks us down and starts writing for The Frisky. (Lederman responded by telling The New York Post she is a “fucking cunt,” because of course he did.)

Read her letter after the jump: Keep reading »

Tinder Exec Resigns Following Sexual Harassment Settlement

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  • Tinder CMO Justin Mateen has resigned from the company after the company and its owner IAC settled a sexual harassment lawsuit by a former employee and romantic interest. Whitney Wolfe, an early employee at Tinder, said she was pressured to resign after she complained about sexist and inappropriate messages from Mateen. The amount of the settlement was undisclosed. [USA Today; NBC News]
  • Resident advisors at Barnard College at Columbia University were asked to sign a “training expectations” contact which asked them to dress with “no belly, no butts, no bras.” [Feministing]
  • Poetry by the late Maya Angelou has been made into a hip-hop album. [The Grio] Keep reading »

How To Flirt Without Being Predatory

How To Flirt Without Being Predatory

Dudes the world over (I feel like until people stop saying “but I’m not like that!” I have to keep amending statements like this by saying OK GUYS #NOTALLMEN, WE GET IT, MOVING ON) claim that no, they’re not harassing women, they’re just flirting! Can’t they flirt? Is flirting illegal now? Why can’t we flirt anymore? FEMINAZIS, AMIRITE?

Yes, guys, you can flirt. But you might want to consider the fact that some women feel actively threatened by what you call “flirting” constructive feedback and improve your technique so that when you’re expressing romantic or possibly sexual interest in someone, you don’t end up making them feel hounded, harassed and/or worried for their safety.

Here’s some tips for not being predatory while you’re flirting. Keep reading »

On “The Fappening” & 4chan’s Violent Attitude Towards Women

Here’s what I’ve learned about men on the internet who are annoying at best and abusive at worst: They think they know the women they harass. They have access to our ideas and our creative output (i.e. writing, videos, etc.), to our faces, to basic information about us, to a few scant personal details, and from that they concoct for us fictional life stories, fictional personalities, and fictional motivations. It can be terrifying on this end of that interaction, because we don’t know who these men are at all, but they believe they know us and interact with us, talk with us, as if they do.

It’s worse for celebrities, because it’s not just compulsive internet commenters who do this — it’s everyone. We want to be able to relate to celebrities. So we take their movies, videos, music, writing, interviews, press releases, and Instagram and Twitter accounts, and we create a fiction about who they are, or who they would be if we knew them personally. To some extent, that fictional personality is something that they curate and cultivate in order both to create demand and to create distance. Keep reading »

Woman Sues Facebook For $123 Million For Not Removing Her Likeness In “Revenge Porn”

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  • Meryem Ali, 28, of Houston, Texas, is suing Facebook for $123 million for failing to remove her likeness in “revenge porn” photos posted to their site. As she tells Cosmopolitan.com, a man she had hung out with three times created a fake profile with photos of Ali’s head photoshopped onto pornographic images.  Ali’s original contact with Facebook with pretty much ignored (as well as contact made by family and friends). Four-and-a-half months later, Facebook finally took down the offending content only after they were contacted by police. Ali is now suing the site for 10 cents for every one of Facebook’s 1.23 billion users. [Cosmopolitan.com] Keep reading »
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