When I was just a little bitty budding activist just starting to get involved in organizing and protesting more heavily than I had in high school, I remember this conversation I had with my mom. I excitedly told her that I had found “my people” — people who cared about the same sort of idealistic things I did — like ending the Iraq War, redistributing the wealth, ending sweatshops, freeing Mumia, feminism, fighting racism, supporting unions. It felt like a big deal at the time, because up until then I’d been sort of marching all alone.
Always a bit of a downer, I remember her warning me that activist men fighting the good fight could be just as bad, sexism-wise — if not worse — than non-activist men. Because they think being counter-cultural and progressive gives them “a pass” that other men don’t have. “Don’t forget — Angela Davis.” she said. Keep reading »
Trigger warning: rape
By now we’re all familiar with the infamous celebrity photo leak of 2014, aka “The Fappening,” as it’s been dubbed by the Internet. But what most people are less familiar with is the supposed “Ground Zero” site for the leak, AnonIB. And not only is AnonIB the Internet’s worst kept secret when it comes to vengeful nude picture leaks, but it appears to have a serious date rape problem as well. And no one is doing anything about it. Keep reading »
Fresh off the heels of a fraternity at the University of Wisconsin Milwaukee fielding accusations that they drugged female guests with roofies, someone at Forbes.com actually decided to publish a blog post arguing “Drunk Female Guests Are The Gravest Threat To Fraternities” (cached here). It’s the kind of journalism moment that the Seth and Amy “REALLY?!” GIF was made for.
The author is Bill Frezza, a Forbes contributor and the president of The Beta Foundation, the house corporation for the Chi Phi fraternity at MIT. With no exaggeration, Frezza more concerned with frats over people. The whole thing reads like a game of Sexist Victim Blaming No Accountability Bingo: his focus on “irresponsible women,” frets about “false accusations of rape,” and repeated jabs at feminists show he doesn’t care a whit about mens’ role in sexual violence against women — a subject he glosses over entirely except to accuse women of lying about it, even though we all understand that’s really what this whole thing is about. Keep reading »
A bunch of obviously misogynistic “pranks” have been circling my Facebook newsfeed for a few days now and it is just pissing me off. In one particular video, that really can’t be labelled as a prank because there is absolutely nothing funny about it, a young man walks up to a random woman, asks a few questions and then shoves his tongue down her throat. Keep reading »
I’m on the advice panel for I Believe You, It’s Not Your Fault, a blog where adult victims of sexual assault share their stories in the hope of helping younger girls. I do believe people, automatically, when they tell me they’ve been raped. Why wouldn’t I? When I give advice, I try to focus on what the victims can do to validate themselves, to get some stability back in their lives, to show their bodies respect, to get some perspective on the psychological effects of trauma — just like everyone else on the panel does. We don’t jump to “BURN YOUR RAPIST TO THE GROUND! DESTROY HIM!” The fate of the accused is not the point of the blog; it’s the fate of the victim that matters to us. Keep reading »