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8 Things I’ve Learned After Getting Lots Of Emails About Sexual Assault

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Last week, The Frisky published an essay by an anonymous writer about her rape. She wrote about the absurdity of columnist George Will’s allegation that being a victim of sexual assault confers certain privileges. Activists have responded to Will’s inane, offensive piece with the hashtag #SurvivorPrivilege, snarkily writing about all the ways that they’ve “benefitted” from their sexual assault. Our writer’s piece focused on losing her virginity at 16 through rape and the effect it has had on her life.

The writer chose to be anonymous. So, as I often do, I put a note at the end of the piece offering to forward emails along to the author if anyone wanted to be in touch. I didn’t necessarily expect any response. But in the ensuing week, I’ve been blown away by the amount of email that I’ve been forwarding (and will continue to forward as they come in). These emails have been showing me things, both good and bad, about sexual assault in America.

NOTE: I want to make clear that am not referring to any specific letter writing, or sharing details of anyone’s story without permission. These are observations that I’ve made in aggregate from all the emails. My hope is to convey how similar stories of sexual assault and how powerful they are in a way that slogans and statistics can’t contain.  Keep reading »

911 Dispatcher Tells Sexual Assault Victim To “Quit Crying”

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  • A 911 dispatcher in Columbia, Ohio, is being criticized for telling a woman who had been sexually assaulted at gunpoint to “quit crying” during the upsetting call. The 20-year-old was attacked after 4 a.m. on Sunday morning by a strange man who broke into a house and held a gun to her head. Although the dispatcher was trying to get much-needed information out of the caller, she was extremely rude and lacking in basic human empathy. [ABC News]
  • Men’s rights activists are leaving sexist notes like “Women lie about rape” inside copies of the book Everyday Sexism inside bookstores. Clever, gentlemen. [BuzzFeed] Keep reading »

Another Woman Comes Forward Alleging Sexual Assault By Terry Richardson

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  • Another woman has come forward regarding an alleged sexual assault by the fashion photographer Terry Richardson. Following the news yesterday that New York magazine is doing a cover story about Richardson in which he would be portrayed sympathetically, a woman called “Anna” wrote into Jezebel claiming he pulled out his penis and whacked her in the face with it when she posed for pictures at his apartment. Uncomfortable, “Anna” left his place. But she claims she received a phone call from his assistant, Leslie Lessin, asking her to come over and “make out” with Richardson for his birthday. (She said no.) Oooookay. [Jezebel]
  • How The Washington Post misused data on violence against women in that piece urging women they’ll be safer if married. [Five Thirty Eight]
  • Reddit has banned an infamous subreddit forum about beating women. [The Daily Dot] Keep reading »

On #SurvivorPrivilege And Losing My Virginity To Rape

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This weekend, Washington Post columnist George Will wrote an article about sexual assault on college campuses in which he called “victimhood … a coveted status that confers privileges.” In response, survivors of sexual assault having been sharing their stories with on Twitter with the hashtag #SurvivorPrivilege. Here, one survivor shares her story.

#SurvivorPrivilege is feeling anxious and afraid over revealing truths that could possibly impact your family, career, and friendships.

#SurvivorPrivilege is fudging details about your “first time” when chatting with friends, because even 18 years after the fact, you’re too ashamed to talk about what really happened. Keep reading »

Breaking: Old White Man Writes Something Offensive About Rape Victims

An old white man who writes for The New York Post wrote something callous and unfeeling about victims of sexual assault. SURPRISE!

George Will penned an op-ed about those silly college gals who can’t make up their minds about sex and crying rape. The piece was published both in the NY Post (not surprised) and The Washington Post (slightly surprised but not really). “Campus victimhood,” Will writes, is “a coveted status that confers privileges” and “victims proliferate.” Keep reading »

Indian Minister On Rape: “Sometimes It’s Right, Sometimes It’s Wrong”

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  • A minister in India’s ruling party said about rape: “sometimes it’s right, sometimes it’s wrong.” [Guardian UK]
  • Understanding rape in India means first understanding the caste system. [New York Times]
  • Planned Parenthood of the Heartland has closed two clinics in southwest Iowa. [Des Moines Register]
  • On being a victim of street harassment at eight month’s pregnant. [xoJane] Keep reading »
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