Rapists will pretty much use any excuse to avoid taking responsibility for their rapes, usually by blaming it on their victim. She was wearing a short skirt. She was passed out drunk. She had flirted with him. A-n-y-thing to avoid responsibility for his own actions. So I should not be surprised that an accused rapist in New York City is blaming his alleged sexual assault and physical attack on a 21-year-old woman on mind-erasing Four Loko drinks. Keep reading »
Angie Epifano is a former student of the class of 2014 at Amherst College. This piece is cross-posted with permission from The Amherst Student.
When you’re being raped time does not stop. Time does not speed up and jump ahead like it does when you are with friends. Instead, time becomes your nemesis; it slows to such an excruciating pace that every second becomes an hour, every minute a year, and the rape becomes a lifetime.
On May 25, 2011, I was raped by an acquaintance in Crossett Dormitory on Amherst College campus.
Some nights I can still hear the sounds of his roommates on the other side of the door, unknowingly talking and joking as I was held down; it is far from a pleasant wakeup call.
I had always fancied myself a strong, no-nonsense woman, whose intense independence was cultivated by 17 harrowing years of emotional abuse in my backwoods home. May 25th temporarily shattered that self-image and left me feeling like the broken victim that I had never wanted to be.
Everything I had believed myself to be was gone in 30 minutes. Keep reading »
Victim Blaming 101: Of course she wasn’t raped — she’s just lying! Or drunk! Or both!
Sadly, victim blaming is in full swing with the “pizza boy rapist,” a 16-year-old boy who allegedly raped a 35-year-old woman in her New York City apartment. Cesar Lucas was delivering a pizza on Saturday night on the Upper West Side and was let into the building by a doorman; after he delivered his pizza, he told police that he started turning the knobs of doors in other apartments. When he found one that was open, he entered and climbed on top of a sleeping woman while her seven-year-old child slept nearby. The victim told the Post he covered her mouth and told her to be quiet. Before he left, he apologized and stole the woman’s iPhone and $20 from a wallet.
The young man confessed to police that he raped her and sickeningly explained that he was “horny.” But now his mother is blabbing to The New York Post and suggesting the alleged victim was “drunk.” Because you know how us ladies get when we’ve been drinking: we invite random teenage pizza delivery boys into our apartments, have consensual sex while our child is sleeping on the same bed, and then give them our iPhones as a farewell gift! Keep reading »
“The Vagina Monologues” playwright and global anti-sexual violence activist Eve Ensler debuted a new campaign today called One Billion Rising. This short film — powerfully done, but with some NSFW violent imagery — shows just some of the acts of violence that women worldwide endure on a daily basis. On February 14, activists worldwide will hold events for One Billion Rising and remember the one in three women worldwide who will be subject to rape or abuse in her lifetime. Ensler, who is also behind the V-Day celebration every Feb. 14th, where “Monologues” is staged around the country to raise money for anti-sexual violence resources, is embarking on a worldwide trip. She’ll hit up Peru, Mexico, India, China, Philippines, Britain, France, and the Democratic Republic of Congo before coming to New York City for V-Day. You can learn more about the campaign and find events in your country here. Rise up! [One Billion Rising]
Idea: anytime a religious conservative Republican wants to use the word “rape” in public, he or she should run it through a publicist first. The wife of Rep. Todd Akin, the politician who last month questioned whether rape is “legitimate rape” and claimed women’s bodies reject sperm during a sexual assault to keep them from getting pregnant, has added her voice to the WTF-Are-You-Thinking chorus. Keep reading »