My son turns six next week, and among all the other wishes I have for him, I have a silent hope that won’t be shared at his birthday party. It’s one that swims in the depths of my mind, surfacing occasionally when awful things happen that force me to think about it: I wish and hope and pray that my son won’t grow up to be a rapist.
I know that sounds horrible and not a wish a mother of a six year old should even have in the back of her mind, let alone flashing loud and red and painful throughout it. But I can’t help it. We live in a society that is steeped in rape culture, no matter how many people refuse to acknowledge that reality. My worry was driven home more forcefully after watching a video that Anonymous posted online of Steubenville High School students talking about the rape of a 16-year-old fellow student. This case is heartbreaking enough — the victim was sexually assaulted while drunk and unconscious, only to have the photographic proof of her rape spread all over various social media outlets. Her attackers, Trent Mays and Ma’lik Richmond, two football players for the high school’s team The Big Red, were let off relatively lightly, subjected to being under house arrest. However, the victim was also punished, forbidden by the judge in the case from sharing any details of the case, essentially re-victimizing her. Keep reading »
Last week was a heavy one for the people of India. One Wednesday, a 17-year-old girl who had been gang raped committed suicide because police were dragging their feet in bringing her justice. Then, on Friday, a 23-year-old woman who had been gang raped and brutally beaten died from her injuries, which included head trauma and having her intestines removed.
So today, I am not entirely surprised to read a piece about Indian women applying for gun licenses. Keep reading »
A 17-year-old girl in India committed suicide by drinking poison on Wednesday, following a gang rape by at least three men back in November. The teen named the three alleged rapists, who have since been arrested by police, in her suicide note and blamed them for causing her death.
According to CNN, the girl was allegedly gang raped on November 13, during the Hindu festival of Diwali. According to her family, police did not register a formal complaint until two weeks later and pressured the girl not to press charges. Two officers involved in the case have since been fired, while a third has been suspended, over the mishandling. Keep reading »
Two weeks ago, The New York Times ran an enormous article about a rape case in Steubenville, Ohio, where members of the football team participated in the rape of a drunk girl in August. Images and videos captured the night, when a 15-year-old drunk girl was carried to multiple parties, raped and peed upon. Two 16-year-old boys were arrested and charged with rape and kidnapping. Many other students — including Steubenville football players — were said to have participated and are supposedly being coddled by police and their community. You can read the full, difficult, sordid story from the Times here.
Now, Internet vigilante groups — hactivists — have taken over the football team’s website and are threatening to make many of those involved pay by releasing private info online. Keep reading »
Police in Swaziland are now enforcing an 1889 law against “immoral” dressing and will arrest any woman who incites a complaint by wearing a miniskirt, low-rise jeans, or crop tops in public. Keep reading »