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British PSA About Male Rape Proves It’s Hard To Please Everybody

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The issues of male rape and sexual abuse get plenty of sensationalistic air time on “Law & Order: SVU,” but not so much substantive awareness in our day-to-day lives. While it is true that reported sexual abuse of girls and women is far more prevalent than male abuse, I also assume acknowledging or discussing male sexual abuse brings up uncomfortable feelings amongst guys about masculinity and what it means to be a “strong man.” There’s even vicious stereotypes that dog gay guys — who are routinely denigrated as being “not manly enough” — that they must have been sexually abused as kids. In a way, that’s kind of all you need to know about what some (perhaps many) people think of male sexual abuse survivors. 

So it makes sense then, from a messaging standpoint, that to reach male victims of sexual abuse, the UK group Survivors UK would address “masculinity” head-on. Their new campaign, which launches this week in time for a rugby tournament in London, features a rugby ball (speared by a nail, I think?) and the slogan: “Real men get raped: and talking about it takes real strength.” Keep reading »

Dear Prudence Advice Columnist Suggested Possibly-Date Raped Woman Is “Trying To Ruin Someone Else’s Life”

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Amelia was date raped in college by a guy she liked. Read More »
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“Trying to ruin someone else’s life is a poor way to address one’s alcohol and self-control problems.”

This is true. But is this really the most intelligent — to say nothing of compassionate — thing for an advice columnist to say to someone whose friend was possibly date raped?

No, Dear Prudence at Slate.com, it was not.

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Today’s Lady News: NYPD Commissioner’s Son Greg Kelly Accused Of Sexual Assault

  • Greg Kelly, the host of “Good Day New York,” a morning news show in New York City, has been accused of sexually assaulting a woman in October. Kelly is the son of New York Police Department Commissioner Ray Kelly. [Huffington Post]
  • After President Obama declared January National Slavery and Human Trafficking Awareness Month, YourTango spoke with a sex trafficking victim who was drugged, beaten and forced to film porn against her will. [YourTango]
  • The brilliant E.J. Graff on Cynthia Nixon’s claim that she chose to be gay after years of heterosexual relationships and the “masculinity patrol.” [American Prospect]
  • Meanwhile, GOP presidential wannabe Sen. Rick Santorum says homosexuality is “not healthy” for society. Being a bigot apparently still is. [Huffington Post] Keep reading »

Today’s Lady News: Rick Santorum Suggests Pregnant Rape Victims “Make The Best Out Of A Bad Situation”

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Rick Santorum talks to Piers Morgan
  • Rick Santorum visited Piers Morgan on Friday night and got to talking about abortion and everything he wants to do with your uterus. His cruel comments about how women who are pregnant as a result of rape — it’s a “gift” from God, y’all — are presented without comment (emphasis mine): “… [Y]ou can make the argument that if she doesn’t have this baby, if she kills her child, that that, too, could ruin her life. And this is not an easy choice. I understand that. As horrible as the way that that son or daughter and son was created, it still is her child. And whether she has that child or doesn’t, it will always be her child. And she will always know that. And so to embrace her and to love her and to support her and get her through this very difficult time, I’ve always, you know, I believe and I think the right approach is to accept this horribly created — in the sense of rape — but nevertheless a gift in a very broken way, the gift of human life, and accept what God has given to you. As you know, we have to, in lots of different aspects of our life. We have horrible things happen. I can’t think of anything more horrible. But, nevertheless, we have to make the best out of a bad situation.” [Think Progress]

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The Soapbox: On The 39th Anniversary Of “Roe Vs. Wade”

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Yesterday, on the anniversary of Roe v. Wade, I stopped to be grateful. I am grateful that my 22-year-old daughter has the right to her reproductive freedom and access to abortion. I am grateful that I was able to get an abortion when I needed one when having a child was not an option — a choice I don’t regret for a minute. I am especially grateful that scores of women are no longer dying as a result of botched illegal abortions, that we do not have to be that desperate anymore. 

But without fail, every year for the last several, I am acutely aware of the repeated attempts – and mounting successes — by the anti-choice movement to dismantle Roe completely.  I grow concerned with the increasing lack of access to abortion by women in poverty and in rural areas where clinics have been protested or legislated out of existence.

Last week I got into a heated exchange with a group of men on Facebook about abortion.  It was regarding the Texas law requiring a woman view an ultrasound prior to getting an abortion.  The man starting the thread praised the Texas Supreme Court for upholding the ultrasound law. Keep reading »

Military Announces New Strategies To Deal With Sexual Assaults

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A new definition of rape has been approved by the FBI. Read More »
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File this one under It’s About Time: Secretary of Defense Leon Panetta has announced that the military is implementing new strategies to prevent sexual assaults and improve their current system for responding to sex crimes. According to official data, there were 3,191 reported sexual assaults in 2011; however, these crimes so often go unreported that Panetta and his team estimate the actual number to be astronomically higher — closer to 19,000. The new plan includes better training for victims’ advocates, increased funding for investigators, and an improved data system to compile sexual assault information across different branches of the military. While these changes aren’t necessarily revolutionary, it is a sign that the armed forces are taking sexual assaults more seriously, and that’s a step in the right direction. [The Raw Story]

Kim Novak’s Publicist Defends Rape Comment

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 “There are all kinds of rape including the rape of one’s soul. All rapes are violent acts and all victims should be supported.”

– This is Kim Novak’s publicist, Sue Cameron, jumping to the defense of her clinent. Recently, Kim Novak joined the ignominious band of celebs who have used “rape” insensitively, like when Johnny Depp said he feels “raped” by photo shoots. Kim Novak took out an ad in the magazine Variety to beef about the movie, “The Artist,” which uses music from one of Kim’s films. “I want to report a rape,” the ad says. “I feel as if my body – or, at least my body of work – has been violated by the movie, ‘The Artist.’” After rape crisis groups pointed out how such a comparison is callous, it put Kim’s team on the defensive. Other celebs, like Depp, have apologized for their stupid comments. However, it doesn’t look like Kim Novak has any intention. [Fox News]

New Definition Of Rape Approved By FBI Director

CDC Sex Assault Data
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Adolescent girls and preteen boys are at the highest risk for sexual assault. Read More »
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Rape victims are never to blame for their assault. Read More »
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“Penetration, no matter how slight, of the vagina or anus with any body part or object, or oral penetration by a sex organ of another person, without the consent of the victim.”

This is the new, expansive definition of rape approved by the FBI last week, which will more accurately reflect how sexual assaults are tabulated by the government in its Uniform Crime Report. The FBI’s working definition of “rape,” created in the 1920s, had been roundly criticized by everyone from police chiefs, sex crime investigators, and victims’ advocate for only defining assault as “the carnal knowledge of a female, forcibly and against her will.” That definition entirely left out male victims and ignored incidents when the victim was penetrated against his or her will orally, anally, with an object, and under the influence of drugs or alcohol (such as being roofied). As a result, the number of sexual assaults released by the FBI’s annual crime report drastically under-reported the crimes perpetrated in the country. Keep reading »

Newt Gingrich Doesn’t Support Legal Abortion In The Case Of Rape Or Incest

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Just because Michele Bachmann dropped out of the 2012 presidential race doesn’t mean we’re in the clear — there are still plenty of candidates who would love nothing more than to restrict women’s reproductive rights. Newt Gingrich was asked by a voter yesterday whether he supports abortion if the woman was impregnated via rape or incest. And what do you think Mr. Compassionate had to say about that?

No, I wouldn’t make exceptions. What I would try to do is create a program that would enable women in those circumstances to have support and help them through whatever process they needed both in terms of counseling and in terms of if they wanted to give up the baby for adoption. Keep reading »

Rick Perry Flip-Flops On Abortion Twice In One Week

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Republican presidential candidate Rick Perry has always been against a woman’s right to choose. As Texas governor, he has supported bills to restrict access to abortion and made public statements like “Every life lost to abortion is a tragedy.” However, Perry had believed abortion should remain legal in cases of rape, incest, or if the woman’s life is at risk.

Not for long: in the past week, Perry’s pro-life stance took a sharp — and deadly — turn to an even further extreme. And then, barely a day later, he backtracked on abortion yet again.   Keep reading »