Let us turn now to the most important people in our nation: young men who attend elite universities and want to work in law or medicine someday. As a new school year is about to get underway, Bloomberg checked in with these gentlemen about the perils of having sex with their female classmates. Of particular concern is that they might accidentally rape a woman — which, no, they wouldn’t want to do at all!!! (They want to work in law or medicine, remember.) It would help, though, if women stopped getting in situations where a man might accidentally rape them. One of these young men, a 22-year-old at Stanford University named Chris Herries expounded thusly:
“Do I deserve to have my bike stolen if I leave it unlocked on the quad? We have to encourage people not to take on undue risk.”
The best and the brightest indeed. Chris Herries couldn’t be more correct! Leaving your bike unlocked on the quad is exactly like living under a patriarchy in which one in four women will be sexually assaulted in her lifetime.
In the spirit of Herries’ helpful observation to women, here are some other bike safety tips that I hope my fellow lady bike riders will follow: Keep reading »
Remember when two teenaged boys from Steubenville High School were sentenced for sexual assaulting a 16-year-old girl and all CNN could do was mourn about how these two boys’ lives were “destroyed”? It was a rather disgusting display of where some people’s priorities lie: as the judge rendered a guilty verdict towards two young sexual abusers, CNN’s Poppy Harlow lamented, “These two young men — who had such promising futures, star football players, very good students — literally watched as they believed their life fell apart.”
Well, good news, everyone who felt bad someone screwed up his “promising future” by sexually assaulting a fellow human being: 18-year-old Ma’Lik Richmond is back to playing on his high school football team. Keep reading »
Via Feministing, a British blogger has helped adjust some old PSAs from a National Health Service campaign to encourage safer drinking. The original poster, which shows a woman lying on the ground laughing, says, “One in three reported rapes happens when the victim has been drinking.” With a Photoshop edit from the blogger behind Two Thirds Nerd, the PSA now reads, “Three in three reported rapes happens [sic] when someone decides to commit rape.”
As the blogger wrote regarding responses she’s received from her initial tweet, “[the original ad] reinforces and validates the belief that women are responsible for avoiding rape, and, therefore, responsible for anything that might happen, also. The onus is always placed on the woman to not get raped, rather than the man to not rape.” She’s right, of course. Still, I’m dismayed that when we talk about sexual violence, alcohol use and abuse becomes a verboten subject. I’m reminded of a response I wrote to a Dear Prudence column about young women and drinking: victims shouldn’t be held responsible for the crimes committed against them, but not addressing binge drinking culture (or underage drinking in America) is ignoring the conditions in which a lot of sexual violence occurs. I wish talking about drinking and binge drinking could more peacefully coexist with talking about sexual violence, because it feels very much like you’re on one “side” or the other. [Feministing via Two Thirds Nerd]
This short documentary from Vocativ takes a look at just how widespread and dangerous street harassment is. In the film, hidden cameras show us the nauseating frustration of simply walking down a city street as a woman. Jen Corey, a Miss America finalist, talks in the film about being assaulted on the Washington, D.C., metro, and several women share the smug looks they receive from men who get away with violating them. [Cosmopolitan]
Kenneth Moreno, the NYPD police officer who was accused of raping a woman in her apartment back in 2008 and then acquitted along with his partner in 2011, is now suing his accuser, along with the city, the Manhattan district attorney and others, for $175 million. The night of the alleged assault, Moreno and his partner were called to the 27-year-old accuser’s apartment after a cab driver called the police because the woman was highly intoxicated and having a difficult time climbing the stairs. The officers helped the woman into her apartment and then took her keys, returning multiple times throughout the night.
“I woke up to being penetrated from behind,” the woman said in a 2011 interview. “I woke up because the action of his penetration was so hard that my head was moving toward the window [at the head of her bed] like it was going to go through it.” Keep reading »