This video by psychologist Dr. Nina Burrowes explains the smoke screen that keeps society blind to what sexual abuse really looks like and makes it more likely for abusers to get away with what they’re doing. Obviously, abuse is a horrible thing, and it is never anyone’s fault but the abuser. That said, society as a whole buys into misleading stereotypes that enable abusers to continue what they’re doing and to emotionally manipulate their victims into thinking what happened wasn’t abuse. The cliche image of creepy men in public alleyways committing sex crimes makes it harder for most victims to be taken seriously, because most instances of abuse happen behind closed doors and are carried out by someone the victim trusts. While disturbing to think about, this video is full of insights you may have never heard before, and awareness like this is the key to making life easier for victims and tougher for abusers. [Everyday Feminism]
Back in 2000, Jessica Biel, then starring as eldest daughter Mary Camden on TV’s “7th Heaven,” made waves by appearing on the cover of men’s magazine Gear in just a pair of panties, with her arm draped across her bare chest, covering her nipples. Given the “family-friendly” tenor of the religious-leaning show, this magazine spread was a big ol’ controversy at the time, including amongst the show’s producers and cast. And among those weighing in on the racy spread was none other than Biel’s TV dad, Stephen Collins, who had this to say:
“The press has gotten Jessica Biel’s age wrong in their recent stories about her. She’s not 18, as has been widely reported. She’s 17, a minor … Jessica’s photo spread was child pornography. I don’t want my kid to get the message that that’s okay.”
In light of Collins’ taped admission that he molested and/or exposed himself to multiple tween and teenage girls, these remarks about Biel’s Gear spread, frankly, take on a whole new and exceedingly creepy meaning. Yuck yuck yuck. [2 Paragraphs]
Actor Stephen Collins, best known for playing Reverend Camden on the TV show “7th Heaven,” admitted on a secret recording (taped during a therapy session with his estranged wife, with whom he is going through a divorce) to molesting and exposing himself to multiple young girls. In the confession, which he did not know was being taped, Collins admits to soon-to-be ex-wife Faye Grant that he molested an 11-year-old relative of his first wife, Marjorie Weinman, in New York, saying, “There was one moment of touching where her hand, I put her hand on my penis.” Asked whether he had an erection, Collins replies, “No, I mean, no. Partial, maybe I think.” He also admits to exposing himself to her multiple times after that, when she was 12 or 13 years old. He goes on to say that there were other incidents with at least two other girls in Los Angeles, where the couple lived, including a neighbor or relative of a neighbor. As for the legality of the taped confession, TMZ says, “We’re told her lawyer advised her it was legal to secretly record the conversation because in California you’re allowed to secretly record conversations to gather evidence the other person committed a violent felony … and molesting a child under the age of 14 qualifies.” According to TMZ, the tape is now in the hands of the NYPD and that officers were flown out to Los Angeles to interview Grant about the, at the current count, three victims.
You can listen to the confession above, but warning: it’s stomach-turning. [TMZ]
Let us turn now to the most important people in our nation: young men who attend elite universities and want to work in law or medicine someday. As a new school year is about to get underway, Bloomberg checked in with these gentlemen about the perils of having sex with their female classmates. Of particular concern is that they might accidentally rape a woman — which, no, they wouldn’t want to do at all!!! (They want to work in law or medicine, remember.) It would help, though, if women stopped getting in situations where a man might accidentally rape them. One of these young men, a 22-year-old at Stanford University named Chris Herries expounded thusly:
“Do I deserve to have my bike stolen if I leave it unlocked on the quad? We have to encourage people not to take on undue risk.”
The best and the brightest indeed. Chris Herries couldn’t be more correct! Leaving your bike unlocked on the quad is exactly like living under a patriarchy in which one in four women will be sexually assaulted in her lifetime.
In the spirit of Herries’ helpful observation to women, here are some other bike safety tips that I hope my fellow lady bike riders will follow: Keep reading »
Remember when two teenaged boys from Steubenville High School were sentenced for sexual assaulting a 16-year-old girl and all CNN could do was mourn about how these two boys’ lives were “destroyed”? It was a rather disgusting display of where some people’s priorities lie: as the judge rendered a guilty verdict towards two young sexual abusers, CNN’s Poppy Harlow lamented, “These two young men — who had such promising futures, star football players, very good students — literally watched as they believed their life fell apart.”
Well, good news, everyone who felt bad someone screwed up his “promising future” by sexually assaulting a fellow human being: 18-year-old Ma’Lik Richmond is back to playing on his high school football team. Keep reading »