“The guy I’m seeing just told me he has herpes – what should I know to keep myself infection free should we decide to have sex?” — Don’t Want This Gift Thanks, via email
Kudos to your guy for telling you early on. I can only imagine how awkward that conversation must be. “Hey, can you pass the salt? Also, I have herpes.” But he’s not alone. Apparently 1 in 4 adults in the US have herpes, and some never show any signs that they have it. How scary is that? Now that you know exactly what you’re dealing with, you have to decide how into this guy you are, and if you’re willing to risk getting the disease yourself. There’s no 100% guarantee that if you have sex him that you won’t get it. But there are ways to lower your risk significantly. Keep reading »
“I’ve heard about the various birth control pills that you can take to go without your period for a few months and longer. Are they really safe and recommended?” — Banning Aunt Flo, via email
Have you seen that SNL skit (clip after the jump!), where the women are going ape sh*t because they haven’t had their period in months? I have, and I have to say it scared that crap out of me. Keep reading »
“What is the technical definition of a sex addict?” — Potential Nympho, via email
The National Council on Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity has defined sexual addiction as “engaging in persistent and escalating patterns of sexual behavior acted out despite increasing negative consequences to self and others.” Translated, that means that a sex addict is not like Samantha on Sex and the City. It’s way more serious than that.
Sex addicts tend to have the same compulsive personality that alcohol, drug, and gambling addicts have. But while booze, drugs, and card playing aren’t required for human survival, sex is. Sure, some people can choose to be celibate…but having a sex drive is a normal, healthy thing. Because of this, sexual addiction is one of the hardest addictions to treat.
A few signs sexual addicts might exhibit (in case you were curious), after the jump…
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“I hate giving blow jobs, but my boyfriend loves them. How can we compromise?” — Not Into Head, via email
Sssssshhh!!! Are there any boys around you right now?? Did anybody hear you?? I hope for your sake there aren’t, because if that sentiment got around, you might as well have a scarlet letter on your shirt.
Lemme clue you in to something: EVERY MAN LOVES BLOW JOBS. Your boyfriend is not lying. So you know what that means? You+blowjobs=new best friends.
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“I have seriously huge labia and I am way concerned that guys will think my vagina is ugly. Am I being ridiculous?” — Labia Majorly Majora, San Francisco, CA
Yes you are!
Labia majora (the technical name) vary greatly from woman to woman. No two vaginas are alike…which means there are tons of women out there with big labia, small labia, and somewhere in between. Whatever kind you have, rest assured that you are not abnormal. Keep reading »
“What percentage of women have an orgasm during intercourse? The stats I’ve read really seem to vary, with some studies making it seem kind of rare. Is that true?” – Curious About Climaxes, Cleveland, OH
General statistics (which vary as much as your orgasms do) show a whopping 75% of women failing to reach orgasm during intercourse. 12% percent NEVER EVER achieve one, even through self-stimulation.
A lot of this has to do with knowing your body well enough to determine what turns you on and what doesn’t. I didn’t achieve my first orgasm until my mid-20’s, and didn’t find a partner I could have regular orgasms with until I was almost 30 (I’m 29 now, so you do the math).
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