Tag Archives: sexless marriage

Is Your Spouse A … Stranger?

YourTango.comJanuary 8, 2011 //

It can be difficult to stay connected to our loved ones in today’s hectic world. We struggle to keep friendships strong with coffee dates and quick emails, and we diligently pencil in phone calls to our grandparents even when we’re swamped. But our romantic relationships rarely receive the same type of attention that our friends and families do, and the results can be devastating. Imagine looking across the kitchen table at the familiar contours of your husband’s face … and realizing that the man you married now feels like a total stranger. Keep reading »

8 Reasons You’re Not Having Enough Sex

SimchaAugust 3, 2009 //

British sexpert, Bettina Arndt, asked 100 couples to keep diaries about their sex lives for a year. In her experience, spicing things up can really solve any problems in the bedroom and that’s what she was hoping to prove. While she expected to read some salacious tales of romantic rendezvous, what she got really put the love in love life. People bared their souls and divulged their deepest, darkest feelings — wait, men have feelings?! Just kidding! Arndt has just published her findings in The Sex Diaries: Why Women Go Soft And Other Bedroom Battles based on what the couples wrote in their journals. It sounds like the perfect summer read, but if you’re like us circa high school, you’d rather skim the Cliff’s Notes. Here are eight reasons why couples stop having sex. [Daily Mail] Keep reading »

He’s Just Not That Into (Having Sex With) You

Catherine StrawnJanuary 17, 2008 //

Two books out this month assert that women aren’t the ones to blame when a marriage is sexless—sometimes it’s the man’s fault. According to one survey mentioned in He’s Just Not Up For It Anymore, 40 million Americans live in a no- or low-sex marriage (a sexless marriage is defined as having sex 10 times a year or less, SYK). The reasons guys aren’t into doing it with their wives vary—68 percent indicated that it was because his wife wasn’t sexually adventurous enough for him, while less than 1 percent said it was because he’s gay. He’s Just Not Up For It Anymore seems to address the “why” of it (or at least that’s what it seems after reading the first chapter on ABC.com). Michele Weiner Davis’ book The Sex-Starved Wife seems to address the “how to fix it” angle. Her solution is to have sex. Davis told Chicago, “Sometimes you’re not in the mood or the right frame of mind, but if you can be receptive to being stimulated, once you get going, it really feels good.” We feel the same way about going to the gym. [ABC News and Chicago] Keep reading »