Two years ago, I was lucky enough to find an amazing, loving, and supportive man to share my life with. Our sex life has been GREAT, and we enjoy playing with fantasies. Recently, I admitted that I fantasized about having a threesome with him and another woman, and he told me that he fantasizes about the same thing. (I know, big surprise.)
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I am a 21-year-old young woman, not dating anyone at the moment. I also happen to have a plethora of medical issues, Even though I’ve worked hard my whole life not to let my medical issues get in the way of living my life, there are some situations where it’s unavoidable. Due to a medical misjudgment when I was 5, I am unable to have “conventional sex.”
Oh, Steph, I need your help! I don’t know if you have ever had this question. But what can you do when you produce too much self-lube? My boyfriend and I of almost two years have been having this problem since we got together. To put it in his words “It’s like ASTRO-Glide down there. There is no friction.
I have been with my boyfriend for four years and we’re definitely on the “will be getting married” track. As far as our sex life goes, it’s been amazing. We really click in bed, and we’re both the same kind of pervy. But this summer he brought something up that I never expected. He told me he likes to have his butt played with.
I’ve been with my boyfriend for three and a half years, and we moved in together a year ago (after spending most of our relationship doing long-distance varying from living across the country from each other to living a couple hours apart). For the first couple of months of cohabitation, we had exciting, frequent sex. But then, I started a very stressful job as a teacher.
I stumbled upon your column today from an outside website, and if possible, I’d love to get some advice on a subject that has been plaguing me for too many years. I’m 25 years old, and … I’m still a virgin.
“I met my husband when I was 20 (he was 25). We dated for eight years, and then got married last year. I was totally insecure when we met. I stayed pretty insecure through most of my 20s. We went through some pretty rough times together (family deaths, job losses, etc). He’s a wonderful person and I could not have survived the tough times without him. But, I know I stayed in the relationship because I was afraid to leave. I was also a virgin when we started dating. We finally hit a smooth patch and decided to get married. Now, I’m regretting it.”
I’ll get right to it: I seem to be hymenally/orgasmically challenged, and I’m wondering if you can shed any enlightenment on what goes on for me. I enjoy all the sexy activities and play time, but I rarely am able to achieve orgasm. I don’t receive any stimulation from my clitoris being touched or vibrated against, there’s a little sensation when firm pressure is applied, but that’s about it. So masturbation and oral sex are sort of a dud for me. Intercourse seems to be the only way I receive pleasure, and from what I’ve deduced it’s my G-spot that’s liking the attention. However, the more intense the stimulation tends to be, it also feels oddly painful at the same time internally (sort of like cramps or a tummy ache) so most of the time I can’t climax because of the discomfort. My gynecologist has always assured me she doesn’t see anything wrong “down there” so I’m not worried about that. I’m pretty open about my sex life with my friends. None of them have ever experienced anything like this, and I’ve never read about anything like this before. Is this a common problem for some women? Am I alone here? Would love some feedback if you have it.
Hi Steph! I just started dating a guy like a month ago. One night in bed he mentioned that he would be open to using sex toys. I love my toys as much as the next girl, but I’m afraid my rabbit would be intimidating since it is bigger than he is. I have never been with a guy who was open to using sex toys during sex…so I am in uncharted territory here. Any thoughts or advice? – SexToyClueless
My boyfriend of over a year has lost almost all of his sex drive. I’ve tried the typical methods (lingerie, porn, alcohol, sexy messages/talk, etc.) to get him interested in sex and have had less than a 20 percent success rate (which results in a 35 percent erection, at best). He insists that there’s no unresolved issues or problems and that the interest is there but physical desire is not. In spite of his lack of interest in sex, my libido is through the roof and out of control. The question isn’t whether or not to cheat or leave — it’s how can I get my guy’s battery recharged??? — Female with blue balls