Women get a bad rap when it comes to initiating sex, and while it’s true that being assertive about asking for what we want can be tough for some of us, there are about a million different situations that might inspire us to throw a man on the bed and tell him what’s up. We don’t always need a scented candle burning and a deep talk about our feelings to get us in the mood. Sometimes we just need to be cheered up after watching a documentary about peak oil. Or maybe we’re avoiding doing a formidable pile of laundry. Or maybe we were weirdly turned on by an offhanded sexual comment made by a guy we weren’t even attracted to 5 minutes ago. The point? There are tons of times when we have no problem going after a penis we want. Here are a few of them… Keep reading »
When it comes to giving oral sex, or as one of my friends calls it, sucky sucky, women seem to fall into two camps: LOVE IT or HATE IT. When gossiping about sex, I feel this overwhelming pressure to declare that I go hog wild for head or loathe it so much that I’ve taken it off the sexual menu with the exception of special occasions, like birthdays. (I’ve never understood that, by the way. Why would you give the gift of something you supposedly hate?) On the subject of blowjobs, there is a subtle urging to take sides. “Too much work!” or “Yummy! Cock!” As I sit there, feeling terribly neutral about the act, I can’t help but suspect that women have been conditioned to have strong, polarized feelings about giving head — or at least to play up their feelings for effect. Keep reading »
Nostalgia for the ’90s is at an all-time high. Fashion designers and pop stars are constantly throwing back to this ridiculous decade, while it seems that every other post on our Facebook feed is of the “10 Reasons The 90′s Rocked” variety. Everyone’s wearing overalls and Doc Martens again. Boy bands are enjoying another resurgence. Thick brows are in. But somehow, these trends never seem to make it to the bedroom. We’re here to change that. Put on your favorite pair of full-coverage, faux velvet panties from Victoria’s Secret and whip out Madonna’s Sex book, because you’re about to experience a wave of ’90s nostalgia where it really matters: your sex life. From dirty Furby talk to S&M with slap bracelets, we’ve got some naughty ideas for how to revive your favorite decade… Keep reading »
We’ve all been awkwardly interrupted during sex at some point. It’s just unavoidable. Sometimes the circumstances are more extreme (hoodlums peeing on the windshield while we’re giving head in the back seat of a car), but more often, the culprits of coitus interruptus are our modern day gadgets and gizmos. Technology is supposed to be making our lives better, but on more than one occasion it’s made our sex lives far worse. Oh, to never get another text message from mom and dad while you’re delving into anal play. This is the world we live in. Below, a few common scenarios of how technology can spoil your chance of achieving orgasm. Keep reading »
If our collective dating experience has taught us anything, it’s that sexual compatibility is key to a long-lasting relationship. And sexual compatibility requires both mental and physical attraction. (Yes, that sometimes includes but is not limited to penis size.) If at any point in a relationship one of these is missing, it is a disastrous dealbreaker…
Improving your sex life used to be all about eating a glazed doughnut off a penis and locking naked bodies together with saran wrap. Sure, sometimes Cosmo gets a little ridiculous with their sex tips, but at least they involve actual sex acts. Recently, sex advice has become terribly…unsexy.
Click through for some sex tips that seem to have very little to do with sex.
- Quit sucking on that clitoris so hard.
- Vaginas are like snowflakes. Ask your bitch what she wants, then do what she says.
- Make the alphabet with your tongue …
- … and when she grabs your hair like she’s going to pull it off, stick with that letter.
- Vaginas deserve respect.
- Every bitch’s flap is different. Learn your bitch’s particular flap.
- Plan your breathing like your swimming: stroke, stroke, breathe, stroke, stroke, breathe.
Yeah, what Key and Peele said. Fuck all the other sex ed in America. [YouTube]
A depressing new study conducted at the University of Toronto explored couples’ real motivations to have sex. Researches found that they were able to group peoples’ reasons for doing the deed into two categories: approach (“I want to increase intimacy” or “I want to feel better about myself”) or avoidance (“I don’t want to feel guilty” or “I don’t want to get into a fight about it”). As you might have suspected, the couples who approached sex rather than avoided it tended to feel more satisfied in their relationships. But still, this made us sad. Whatever happened to having sex just because it’s fun and exciting? Last time we checked it was one of the few purely enjoyable activities for grown-ups (cue the existential ennui of adulthood.) We happen to think sex should be like a carnival in your bed, which is why we’ve come up with these strange and wonderful ways to make it feel more like one, and convince even the most sex-avoidant couples that sex can and should be FUN! [WSJ via NYMag.com] Keep reading »
Guys,it’s time for some real talk. Sometimes when we’re getting down, you do things that you seem to think are totally getting us off, but in reality? Some things you think we love are leaving us lukewarm at best. Sorry to break it to you, but motorboating, while it may drive you wild, only leaves us with a pool of spittle in our cleavage. Why do all guys think we’re into that?! Oh, because we haven’t told you how lame it is. Well, we’re telling you now. We’ve compiled a master list of men’s favorite “lady-pleasing” sex moves that most women wouldn’t mind if you retired forever. Read on for your long overdue sexual reality check… Keep reading »
In a new survey, researchers from International Communications Research and the makers of We-Vibe sexual brand products find that 60 percent of Americans would simply like a more playful, fun sex life.
And seeing as that’s the basic definition of adult sex toys, we figured we’d give you a hand — figuratively speaking. Read more at Your Tango…