Sex columnist Dan Savage has made his career on advising lonely masturbators on the three Gs of not-terrible partner sex: “good, giving, and game.” Be good at what you do, be giving about doing it, and be game to try something new. GGG was always just Savage’s own personal, common sense advice. But now a new study published in a Journal of Sex Research has found that being game in the sack truly makes for more satisfied relationships. Keep reading »
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First date, second date, kiss, have sex, meet the parents, move in, get engaged, get married, have kids.
This is the default for men and women living today in the United States (other countries may vary). Why is this our default?
Mostly because of Disney movies. That’s how we were programmed as a kid and that’s what we assume as adults. We unconsciously mold to this model, even when it’s not what we intended. Sometimes we meet girls and don’t want a relationship. What’s an honest man to do?
The secret is proactive communication. Read more…
As someone who has identified as kinky for over a decade, both professionally and personally, I have to admit I was absolutely appalled when the 50 Shades trilogy first hit the mainstream. I read all three books, and as I read some of the myths and stereotypes, I had to do some deep breathing.
I couldn’t help thinking, “These are the books that have become the cultural reference point for kink?” As I thought this, a bit of my kinky little heart broke. But, my opinion has changed since then.
I still think the books are poorly written and that there is much better erotica out there. Regardless, these are the books that have everyone talking about sex and kink. At this point, the value of that far outweighs some tired writing clichés. Read more…
Sex. The word itself used to make people uncomfortable. But now, more than ever, women are branching out in their sexual behaviors, and discovering what gets them going. From incorporating sex toys in the bedroom to paging through 50 Shades of Grey, women are mixing it up and increasing their pleasure in the process.
It used to be that a woman needed a trench coat, dark sunglasses and a non-descript hat to cover up her curiosity while scanning the shelves at a sex shop. Now, it only takes a walk through the local drug-store to find name-brand vibrators in the aisle next to the condoms. The next time you’re feeling inspired to try something new with your partner, incorporate one of these five bold moves into the bedroom. Read more…
We know that sperm’s primary function to make babies happen. But this miracle juice is more multi-faceted than we suspected. According to some new research done by SUNY-Albany psychologist, Gordon Gallup, semen may simultaneously be the cause and the cure for morning sickness in pregnant women. Because half of the fetus’ DNA comes from the father, the mother’s body may initially treat the organism as foreign tissue or an infection. This response triggers the symptoms of morning sickness. “The best cure for this type of sickness,” says Gallup, “Is, strangely enough, the same thing as its cause. The more exposure a woman has to her partner’s semen—that is to say, the more often she’s inseminated prior to conception and during the early stages of the pregnancy—the more tolerance her body develops to his genetic material.”
You heard it. Miracle of miracles! Sperm may cure your morning sickness. Click onward for more hidden talents of the incredible, edible sperm. [Slate]
Learning how to give head to a guy is often misunderstood. Fortunately it’s very straightforward and easy to give your man an awesome blow job if you do just a few things right. As the creator of the Bad Girl’s Bible I get questions about giving head to guys everyday. Below I’m going to give you 6 blowjob tips to get you started on giving your man great head.
Think About The Tip! The top part of your man’s penis is the most sensitive part by far. More sensitive = more pleasure. Scientifically this is known as the glans or head of his penis. It’s the purple part of his penis that looks distinctively different to the rest of it. Read more …
I was reading a post by La Petite Provocateur at ‘Singles Warehouse’ and then suddenly here I am writing a post. You see, I could relate to her story. It’s a scenario I know well and it goes as follows: girl goes out with friend, girl drinks, girl meets guy whilst tipsy, girl & guy start talking sex, make out session commences, and sparks fly. It’s an amazing feeling, being high on the flirting, and floating on sexual endorphins. Life is good and you are dead sexy!
This is exactly where, for me, that moral part of me chimes in and tells me to slow things down. I will always put the brakes on the sexy time before I’m horizontal on any surface, or vertical-look there’s no sex, okay! I enjoy a nice round of making out and the sexual tension that builds like crazy when you first meet a guy you click with. What I don’t enjoy is drunkenly falling into bed with every guy who makes my lady parts tingle. This is a personal choice and I don’t judge people who follow their bits to the bedroom but I like to be selective and sober-ish when deciding who ends up in my tunnel of love. Read more …
It’s Murphy’s Law of unexpected sex: If you are wearing the most unfortunate/unflattering/complicated article of clothing, you will be getting laid. If you get all dolled up in your favorite “f**k me” outfit with your wrinkle-proof dress, new La Perla lingerie and freshly shaved legs it’s almost a guarantee that no man will so much as glance at you. But put on your pajamas to go get toilet bowl cleaner at the drug store, and the hottest man you’ve ever seen will invite you over to his place. Why? We don’t know. This is just how spontaneous sex happens. It’s not fair. But life isn’t fair. You have to roll with it. Hike up those PJ pants and pray he doesn’t notice the chocolate stains. After all, you never know when you’ll have the opportunity again. The worst things you can be wearing when the penis of your dreams arises … Keep reading »
Think back to when your parents first told you, as you uncomfortably sat across from them on the couch with sweaty palms, about the birds and the bees. Your mom told you a sweet little tale about how a sperm meets an egg, the egg is fertilized, a baby grows in her stomach, and in nine months, it is miraculously born. Did she skip the part about, “By the way, a man can have an orgasm without ejaculating, and he can ejaculate without having an orgasm?” I thought so.
While defining the female orgasm is often met with consternation, most of us see the male orgasm as pretty straight forward. But it isn’t always. Contrary to popular belief, it’s not the same process when men orgasm and when they ejaculate.
Let’s define the big O so we are all on the same page.
An orgasm is the peak in sexual excitement during the sexual response cycle, characterized by a release in sexual tension, often immense pleasure, and muscle contractions in the genital region. Orgasm can also come along with increased heart rate, increased blood pressure, increased respiration, and possible spasms in the extremities. The degree of an orgasm can vary due to state of mind, physical factors, and in all honesty, randomness. Keep reading »
Grease may tell us that “Summer Lovin’” is a blast, but in reality, trying to get it on in the sweltering heat isn’t exactly super-comfortable. When the temperatures reach well into the 90′s, who even wants to have sex anyway? Most people would probably rather lay on the opposite side of the room from their partner and think about sex than actually indulge in it. Ugh, summer can be such a bummer for our sex lives.
But as animals with sex drives, it’s not always easy to keep yourself away from your instinct to mount each other, even if your air conditioner just broke and you’re pretty sure you just lost a pound of weight in sweat. If that’s the case, then do it. Just remember it could get, er, a little unpleasant. Here are some pointers:
Sweat. You will sweat. Fact. If you’re sitting in a pool of sweat, just think about how that sweat factor is going to triple or quadruple the second you start getting it on. If you’re not comfortable dripping in mass amounts of salty sweat in front of your partner, then you may want to wait until that air conditioner is fixed — or Labor Day, to make the “beast with two backs,” as Shakespeare called it. Read more …