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How “Normal” Is Your Sex Life? This Book Tries To Explain

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Oral Sex Fails
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Fetishes 101
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What's a fetish? What's a paraphilia? This post explains it all! Read More »
Boob Smothering
This woman smothered her boyfriend to death with her breasts. Read More »
Sexventions For Women

Everybody wants to know how their sex life stacks up and now there’s a whole book dedicated to just that! The Normal Bar, out February 5, reports findings from a survey of what nearly 100,000 people worldwide said about their sexual behavior and relationships. But the book is not just looking at what average Joes do, it focuses on more specific findings: happy couples.

Via USA Today, here’s just a few of the book’s findings: Keep reading »

Fetishes 101: All The Basics About Having A Sexual Fetish Or Paraphilia

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Spanking Fetish
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"Modern Love" tackles one woman's spanking fetish. Read More »
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“I have a shopping fetish!”

“I have a total fetish for caramel-covered popcorn — it’s my favorite snack!”

“She watches the Kardashians’ shows because she has a weird Kim fetish. She’s wants to dress like her so badly.”

You’ve probably heard a comment like this at least once a week your entire life. These sorts of comments drive me bonkers, because those people are not really referring to fetishes.

Instead, they’re misusing the word “fetish” to describe anything they really like, instead of something that sexually turns them on. I imagine it might be the same way gay folks would feel when a straight-person says to their same-sex friend “I’m gay for you,” when really they just mean their friend is a good buddy.

This is a subject we could all stand to know more about.  Obviously I am not a psychologist or a medical expert of any kind; I’m just a woman with a spanking fetish who is researching official information on the subject on Google and including my own experiences and tips. I highly recommend visiting a sex-positive therapist, specifically a sex therapist, for a professional consult and to sort this stuff out if you or a loved one have a fetish or paraphilia.

But for a basic 101 on fetishes and paraphilia, here are some commonly asked questions and answers:

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Gina The Chimp Only Wants To Watch Porn (And Us Humans Are Rather Fond Of It As Well)

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Amelia's new favorite male porn star is Manuel Ferrara. Read More »
Women & Porn
10 reasons they watch. Read More »
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Sometimes I feel bad about wild animals enclosed in zoos. But I feel slightly less bad for Gina, a chimpanzee at the Seville Zoo in Spain, who spends her days watching porn on TV.

Gina’s TV has lots of different channels, but the only ones that this frisky primate watches are the ones rated “adult entertainment.”

Chimps are, of course, one of the closest cousins to humans; we share 90 percent of our DNA with them.

That information should, I hope, make Salon.com writer Issac Abel, 23, feel slightly better: Abel published an essay this weekend about how he came of age masturbating to internet porn and now he’s having difficulties getting sexy with real, live women who don’t fulfill his fantasies quite like those on set. Keep reading »

What’s The Point In Suing Someone Over An STD?

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HPV Vaccine Myth
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Getting the HPV vaccine doesn't make teen girls slutty. Read More »
My STD
One woman talks about getting an STD. Read More »
"Are You Itchy?"
How to tell someone they need to get tested for STDs. Read More »

A New York City woman is suing a “major Republican fundraiser” after he gave her herpes. What a catch! Not only did he give big bucks to Mitt Romney, but  he refused to wear a condom or inform her he had an STD. The New York Daily News reports they dated for two years until she found out that he was allegedly cheating on her and knew that he had contracted the STD. Now this poor woman has herpes for the rest of her life. Keep reading »

Shocker: Study Finds Sex More Pleasing Than Facebook

Don't Post This!
7 things you should never post on his Facebook page. Read More »
Relationship Post On FB
On those annoying relationship Facebook posts. Read More »
Unfriend Him Already!
6 lame excuses for not unfriending your ex on Facebook. Read More »
Addicted to Facebook?
Answer these 6 questions to find out! Read More »
temptation

A recent study has concluded that, believe or not, people enjoy having sex more than using Facebook! Crazy, I know.

The frightening news for our collective sex lives, though, is researchers did not always believe this to be so: a University of Chicago study was released in October suggesting that people are just as enticed to check their Facebook and Twitter accounts as they are to get it on.  Keep reading »

Why Do Men Get Morning Wood? Here’s An Explanation

Penis Size Map
The United States falls "short," ha ha ha. Read More »
Man Cooks Penis
This man cooked and served his genitals to diners. Read More »
Shrinking Penises
Rush Limbaugh blames shrinking penis sizes on feminism, of course. Read More »
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Why Dudes Pitch A Tent When They Wake Up

Ever rolled over in the morning to snuggle your dude and got jabbed in the belly button? Thought so. That’s because all men experience “noctural penile tumescence,” AKA morning wood.  As the folks as ASAP Science explain above, morning wood has to do with REM sleep, a neurotransmitter called norepinephrine, and even the dude’s bladder. I used to think men just awoke horny because I’m so damn sexy! Sadly, the cold, hard truth is less flattering. (Did you see what I did there?) [Towel Road]

Modern Love Tackles One Woman’s Spanking Fetish

First Time: Spanking Party
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This is what happens at a spanking party. Read More »
Tales Of A Kinky Feminist
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You can be a kinky feminist and flawed human being. Read More »
Dominant Sex
I just want to be dominated in bed! Read More »
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The New York Times Style section usually emits more groans from me than cheers. Remember that piece about how bangs are “in”? And how women wear dresses? So I was ecstatic this week to see the Modern Love essay is by Jillian Keenan, a woman with a spanking fetish who is struggling to come out about it to her boyfriend. The essay touched on the struggles female spankos face from a judgmental and/or misunderstanding public, namely that we all must have suffered sexual abuse (not true) or must be gravely damaged in some way (also not true). And I was particularly delighted that 50 Shades Of Grey got only a brief mention. Keep reading »

9 Weird Sexual Phobias

If you thought vagina dentata was the biggest fear to worry about in bed, you are sadly wrong, my friend. There is a whole host of sexual phobias that could be lurking in your psyche. The general term is “erotophobia”: fear of all things related to sex. There are specific subdivisions to address various fears of kissing, shrinkage and even ladyparts. And I’m not talking about ladyparts with teeth in them, either!  But just like those bedbugs you picked up from that hostel in Budapest, they can’t bother you if you don’t get them in the first place.

Cosmo Solves Your Vacuum Cleaner Masturbation Problems

Weird Places I've Wanked
Sometimes you've just got to heed nature's call. Read More »
Masturbation Homework
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A human sexuality professor assigned his students to keep sex journals. Read More »
Stop Jerking Off?
Do couples stop masturbating when they're in a relationship? Read More »
Masturbation Flowchart
Is now a good time to masturbate? Read More »

Let’s get right to the point. This is the lede of an article in Cosmopolitan‘s October 2012 issue: “Julie, 29, has amazing orgasms. The catch? They’re with her vacuum cleaner.”

Julie*, whose name has been changed of course, continues:

One time, I was straddling it and noticed it felt good. The intense vibrations against my clitoris sent me over the edge and it’s become the only way I can get off.

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Totally Appropriate: “50 Shades of Grey” Onesies For Babies

50 Shades Of Grey
This erotica book is sweeping the nation. Read More »
Casting "Fifty Shades"
Who we think should play Christian, Ana, and everyone else. Read More »
"50 Shades" Classes
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Want to try BDSM? Take a class! Read More »

How are babies and BDSM related, you ask? The answer is the new 50 Shades of Grey baby onesies found on Etsy.com. Your baby will be sure to turn heads wearing these white ensembles, sporting phrases like “9 months ago mommy read Fifty Shades of Grey,” or “all mommy wanted was a night with Mr. Grey.” I pity the child who grows up and sees baby pictures dressed up in poorly written erotica-inspired attire! [Gothamist]

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