A depressing new study conducted at the University of Toronto explored couples’ real motivations to have sex. Researches found that they were able to group peoples’ reasons for doing the deed into two categories: approach (“I want to increase intimacy” or “I want to feel better about myself”) or avoidance (“I don’t want to feel guilty” or “I don’t want to get into a fight about it”). As you might have suspected, the couples who approached sex rather than avoided it tended to feel more satisfied in their relationships. But still, this made us sad. Whatever happened to having sex just because it’s fun and exciting? Last time we checked it was one of the few purely enjoyable activities for grown-ups (cue the existential ennui of adulthood.) We happen to think sex should be like a carnival in your bed, which is why we’ve come up with these strange and wonderful ways to make it feel more like one, and convince even the most sex-avoidant couples that sex can and should be FUN! [WSJ via NYMag.com] Keep reading »
Most of you have probably heard of the Kinsey Scale — a measure from zero (100 percent hetero) to six (100 percent gay) that determines a person’s perceived sexual orientation. A recent review of research on the matter, done by Ritch Savin-Williams at Cornell University, focused attention on the 1′s — those they are labeling “mostly heterosexual.”
What does that mean exactly? I’m picturing the guy in my acting class who admitted to getting a reach-around handjob from another dude once, but preferred girls. Oh, actors. I’m also thinking of a friend of mine who I brought with me to a dinner party. She wound up getting really drunk on Pinot and I found her in the backyard making out with a girl. Her boyfriend never found out. This is my loose understanding of being “mostly heterosexual.”
According to researchers, the “mostly heterosexual” group is so distinct that scientists are considering taking a more nuanced approach to their study of sexual orientation. Duh. But still, yay! Below, check out some things to know about those who fall in the “mostly heterosexual” category: Keep reading »
A a new study conducted by anthropologists at Emory University set out to determine why some fathers take to the job more than others. Naturally, they decided to study their balls. The study looked at 70 biological fathers who had a child between the ages of one and two, and who were living with the child and its biological mother. Researchers looked at the fathers’ parenting habits, their testosterone levels, their brains functions when shown pictures of their children and the size of their testes and found that the men with lower testosterone levels and smaller balls were better dads. Keep reading »
A recent study done at Bangor University and the University of Witwatersrand in Johannesburg studied 41 male and female erogenous zones on 800 subjects in two different continents and ranked them in terms of their level of sexual arousal. Behold, the creepy erogenous zone chart (above) illustrating the findings. Most popular for both men and women were the genitals (duh), followed by lips, ears, inner thighs, and the shoulder blades. Coming in at the bottom of the list were feet. Try telling that to a foot fetishist. Knee caps were also found to be unpopular in the sexual arousal department. Because, when was the last time someone got excited by having their kneecaps stroked and licked? Never. Keep reading »
When it comes to keeping your brain lean and mean well into old age, you’re better off using your vibrator than spending time solving crossword or Sudoku puzzles, claims neuroscientist Professor Barry Komisaruk of Rutgers University. In a new study, Komisaruk, who has been researching female arousal since the ’60s, measured blood flow to women’s brains at the height of orgasm. He discovered a tremendous increase in blood flow to many regions of the brain, resulting in a boost in nutrients and oxygenation. “Mental exercises increase brain activity but only in relatively localized regions. Orgasm activates the whole [thing],” Komisaruk explained. It’s not like you’re going to give up your Sunday crossword puzzle or your ongoing game of virtual Scrabble, just make sure you’re supplementing your brain workouts it with some orgasms. Done and done. [Daily Mail UK] [Photo from Shutterstock]
Biologists set out to discover the point, evolutionarily not orgasmically, of a man performing oral sex on a woman. Because to an evolutionary scientist, I guess everything must be connected to propagation of the species? I mean, as we all know, some of the best things in life have no purpose, like tanning on the beach. Aside from a tiny serotonin bump and a good dose of vitamin D, all it does is make you more susceptible to skin cancer. But that still doesn’t stop most people. And yes, I’m fantasizing heavily about being at the beach right now. Keep reading »
People who are into kinky sex may be psychologically healthier than those who are not, says a new study. Researchers found that people who were involved in BDSM – bondage, discipline, sadism and masochism – scored better on certain indicators of mental health than those who did not bring kink into the bedroom, reported LiveScience.
The study, which was published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine in May, surveyed902 people who practice BDSM and 434 people who prefer so-called “vanilla” (non-kinky) sex. Each person filled out questionnaires regarding their personalities, general well-being, sensitivity to rejection and style of attachment in relationships. The participants were not aware of the purpose of the study. Read more on Huffington Post…
We’ll always remember Amber Hartnell as the woman who claimed to have experienced an orgasm while giving birth.
“All of a sudden the orgasm just started rolling through and rolling through, and it just kept coming, and my whole body was spiraling and rolling, and I was laughing and crying [and] purring,” Amber said in the documentary “Orgasmic Birth,” directed by Debra Pascali-Bonaro.
Since the film’s release in 2008, pregnant (and non-pregnant) women have been hearing about labor orgasms, and laughing or eye rolling, or both. Don’t try to fool us, Amber! We know that squeezing a baby out of your vagina hurts worse than any inhumane kind of torture we could envision in our worst nightmares. But we could be wrong. Keep reading »
Do you like having covert sex in public, love to play with sex toys or relish in having another couple in the bedroom to help stoke the fires of passion? (You wouldn’t be the only one.) Here are 11 signs your sex life is totally normal. And if you don’t relate to these, don’t despair. This is not an inclusive list. The best way to determining whether or not your sex life is normal is if you both enjoy it and no one is being harmed.
1. You make love infrequently. People’s sex drive and sex needs are different — different libidos. If you make love once a week, once every two weeks or once a month, and you are both happy with this and both enjoy it when you do make love, that’s great! No problem! Read more on Your Tango…