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Let’s All Move To Sweden, Where There’s A Vagina Mural At A Middle School

God bless the Swedes and their sensible, sex positive outlook! A middle school principal in Nykoping, Sweden has thrown his support behind a mural inside the school depicting a modern art-style vagina.

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The Soapbox: Feminism Deserves Better Than “Sex-Negative Vs. Sex-Positive”

Anti Sex-Positive Feminism
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Tales Of A Kinky Feminist
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The Soapbox: Feminism Deserves Better than “Sex-Negative vs. Sex-Positive”

As a feminist, kinky person and sex commentator, I am the target audience for Jillian Horowitz’s xoJane essay “I’m a Sex-Negative Feminist” — and that’s exactly the point. Part of the site’s “Unpopular Opinion” series, I can only surmise that the essay, like others before it, was written largely with the intention of riling up its supposed targets rather than fostering a nuanced debate.

I’d also quibble with her quickie history lesson—yes, sex-positive feminism in part emerged as a response to anti-porn feminist activism, but it also sprang from the anti-BDSM and anti-lesbian bent of much of mainstream 1970’s and ’80’s feminism. My understanding is that sex-positive feminism was about embracing feminist ideals and furthering sexual freedom—for everyone, not just women. Keep reading »

8 Ways To Be Positive You’re Sex Positive

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Here in the land of lady blogs, most of us believe that sex and exploring your sexuality is a great thing. “Sex positive” is the go-to term for this, which is the philosophy that all consensual expressions of sexuality are good and healthy. Sex positivity also includes advocating for sex education and safer sex. Sounds good, right?

But simply labeling yourself “sex-positive” doesn’t necessarily mean you are. After hanging around the sex blogosphere for the last couple of years, I’ve been schooled in the way I think about sex. After the jump, some things to keep in mind if you want to be truly positive you’re sex positive. Keep reading »

Sex Positive Feminism Is Killing My Girl Boner

Amanda Hess at the Washington City Paper has a bone to pick with feminism. “If I have to endure another essay on the mysteries of the female orgasm in the name of feminism, I may never have an orgasm again,” she writes in “Why Sex Positivity Is Bad For Feminism.” She writes in reference to the Visions in Feminism conference, an annual feminist symposium held at American University, having picked PhD’d porn star Annie Sprinkle as their keynote speaker. While the conference aims to address a wealth of issues — domestic violence, queer feminism, etc. — it ends on a “sex positive” note. “A sex positive polyamorous pansexual bi-gendered individual who enjoys nothing more than talking about and/or having sex” is doing a workshop, followed by Sprinkle’s presentation. I’m gonna give this a resounding “eww.” Why does sex positivity always sound so ickily intellectual? Way to kill my girl boner. Keep reading »

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