It’s freshman year of college, and Janie and Dave are best friends. They do everything together – hang out in their dorm rooms, go to the dining hall, walk around campus. Their friendship is great, until one night, they decide to head to a “fraternity party.”
At the party, Janie and Dave drink alcohol. When they decide to leave, Dave walks Janie back to her dorm room – to be sure she gets there ok, of course. Once inside, Dave confesses that he loves Janie. He starts to kiss her and gets on top of her. Janie is confused, saying that she’s not sure about this…
I’m sure you can fill in the rest.
This is the plot of a play in which I once starred, called quite aptly “The Date Rape Play.” It was the summer before my junior year of college. I was cast in the play — and, crucially, paid $200 — in order to perform it for groups of incoming freshman, who Needed to Know About Date Rape. The play was written by an adult trying desperately to be “down” with the way the kids talked and acted. Sample lines included: “Have you heard about the date rape drug, Rohypnol?,” “I don’t know, I’m worried people will be drinking alcohol there,” and “You got the look girl, work it!” My fellow theater kid friends and I thought it was the best thing we’d ever seen. Keep reading »
When that one kid back in high school told us that he’d heard that you could get pregnant from blow jobs or that the chlorine in hot tubs means you can’t catch STDs, we were smart enough to call bullshit. But it turns out that we probably shouldn’t have been so quick to laugh and tell him what a virgin he was, because some of those ridiculous sex myths turned out to be terrifyingly close to the truth. Read all six on Cracked….
NPR recently reported that thirty years ago, Denmark, SC, had one of the state’s highest teen pregnancy rates. Due to comprehensive sex education starting in middle school, students in Denmark, SC now have the lowest pregnancy rates in South Carolina. For the United States as a whole, it is a tiny step; yet a step in the right direction because the United States has one of the highest teen pregnancy rates in the industrialized world despite easier access to birth control and sex education. Read more on Your Tango…
Earlier this week, teachers on Reddit revealed some of the craziest misconceptions students have about sex. We can’t blame them for thinking that Skittles are a perfectly acceptable form of birth control, we can only blame the adults who’ve left them woefully uniformed.
Well, according to a new survey, they’re not gonna find much reliable information from adults either. An email poll conducted by Vouchercloud.net to find out how knowledgable Americans are about tech-related terms discovered that, sadly, 11 percent of the more than 2,000 participants thought that HTML (the code used to build websites) was a sexually transmitted infection. That’s about one in ten Americans who thinks you can contract HTML from unprotected sex. Keep reading »
Today, Reddit asked sex ed teachers about the weirdest misconceptions they’ve had to clear up among their students. Uh oh, do we really want to know? Just as we suspected, lots of young people are really uninformed. Like, eating Skittles and doing sit-ups to prevent pregnancy uninformed. Abstinence-only policies can do that to a kid. Read it and weep (while falling over laughing). Keep reading »
Maybe you became sexually active a long time ago. Or sex doesn’t really interest you. Or you’ve done a couple sexual activities but are taking it slowly. No matter who you are or where you live, you will have thought about whether or not you are a “virgin” — and what exactly being a “virgin” means.
The 2013 documentary by Therese Shechter (above) called “How To Lose Your Virginity” spans purity balls, school hallways and the porn set of “Barely Legal” to explore our cultural fascination with virginity and the myths that surround it. American society has made it clear that even if we can’t exactly agree on what “virginity” means, we still hold it in reverence, particularly for women. We are, after all, the country that promotes abstinence-only education in far too many classrooms and allows eight-year-old girls to promise their fathers they will remain virgins until marriage. And did you know you could purchase a fake hymen for $30 on the Internet?
Lucky for you, “How To Lose Your Virginity” debuts on Saturday, February 8th at 8 p.m. EST on Fusion (check cable providers here) with other screenings after that. On a recent snowy day, I chatted with Therese over Skype about virginity (obviously), abstinence-only sex education, white panties, and “the magical penis”. Keep reading »
There never seems to be a moment where young parenthood isn’t in the spotlight. But it’s gotten a recent boost this week after the The New York Times reported on a recent study purporting that shows like MTV’s “16 and Pregnant” and “Teen Mom” have helped in the reduction of teen pregnancies. The study suggested as many as 20,000 teen pregnancies were prevented in 2010 because of young adults watching those shows.
Many outlets have been reporting on this study, but very few are including the thoughts or opinions from those they’re talking about. So, after the jump, here’s a roundtable discussion conducted over email with Gloria Malone and Natasha Vianna, who are both tireless advocates for teen moms and their families.
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In a first of its kind program, Chase High School in the UK is implementing a “life skills” mentorship program for their students, with the hope of boosting self-confidence, providing positive role models and teaching about sex ed through the lens of how to have healthy relationships. One of the important life skills that will be taught to the boys is how to appropriately talk to and treat a girl. Keep reading »
Considering how obsessed people are with their junk, it is amazing how long it took humanity to finally figure out what it was all used for. The clitoris wasn’t fully mapped until 2005, which you may recognize as being about 160 years after the general layout of the solar system had been mapped. To be fair, at least we don’t treat the clitoris like a campfire ghost story, or set people on fire for having an extra nipple, or assure women that the cause for all of their ailments was a powerful need to masturbate. If you’d been born in a different time, you’d have been 100 percent invested in all three of those ideas, plus a handful of other wacky beliefs about the human underwear zone. Read all six sex myths on Cracked…
By the time I entered my junior year of college, I was convinced that Binghamton University had only three kinds of guys. There were the players. There were the boys who were saving themselves for marriage. And there were the ones who learned about sex from my mother.
A biological anthropologist, my mom taught Intro to Sex and Evolution, which focused on everything from mating systems in the Animal Kingdom to why women go through menopause. Pretty much every student in the life sciences took it. Those who didn’t heard stories of the professor with the sign in her office that read: My biggest fear is that there is no PMS and this is my personality.
Thus, at the age of 19, I could flawlessly explain the mechanics of seahorse sex, but had only a vague notion of how it might work between two humans. I feared getting into an intimate situation only to have word of it get back to her, or worse, hearing her clinical scientific explanation of it in my head. And if a guy ever mentioned sex and my mother in the same sentence, forget about it. Keep reading »