It’s time again for “Shortcuts.” For every question, I’ll give my advice in three sentences or less, because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great, being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go. Today we discuss dating a sex addict, signs it’s time to MOA, and how to tell a friend she stinks. Keep reading »
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Tyra Banks was not “smeyesing” when she heard about a possible lawsuit headed her way. Beverly McClendon, mother of self-proclaimed teen sex addict Jewel Ciera Washington has filed a complaint that “The Tyra Show” broke Georgia state labor laws by neglecting to notify her of her 15-year-old daughter Jewel’s appearance on the show. Keep reading »
When people think of sex addiction, they think of men like Tiger Woods and David Duchovny who got caught barreling headfirst down the hedonistic rabbit hole.
But I am a female sex addict in the truest sense of the term. Thanks to sketchy DNA (I’ve also struggled with alcoholism and cocaine addiction) and sexually traumatic experiences in early adolescence, I learned to self-medicate painful emotions with sex. Keep reading »
Please exercise extreme caution while getting fit lest you should become a sex addict. Let this be a warning to all you Wii Fit users out there. A 24-year-old UK woman is claiming that an injury caused by her Wii Fit has turned her into a raging nymphomaniac. Amanda Flowers (of course that’s her name) was playing with her Wii Fit one day when she fell off of her board. The fall pinched a nerve that triggered a disorder that doctor’s call “persistent sexual arousal syndrome.” You may know it as extreme horniness. Keep reading »
With the recent onslaught of celeb infidelity, we’ve seen the term “sex rehab” slinking into headlines with alarming frequency. David Duchovny kicked off the trend last year — the “X Files” star spent two months in treatment for his self-proclaimed sex addiction. Duchovny and wife Tea Leoni separated briefly but appear to be going strong months after their reconciliation.
Of course, the two gentlemen keeping sex rehab in the news right now are Tiger Woods and Jesse James; only time will tell if their efforts have paid off in the public eye (or in their blemished relationships). Because both men moved so quickly from scandal to treatment facility, we have to wonder — is checking into rehab simply a gesture of remorse, or does the program really work? Read more … Keep reading »
There’s always that one guy. You know, the one who undoes our progress as human beings. The man who claims we are powerless victims to our biological urges. Enter T. Byram Karasu, a professor of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences, who in a piece on The Daily Beast argues that Tiger Woods’ sexcapades were a completely “innate and natural phenomenon.” In fact, he says sex addiction is “a new name for the old evolutionary concept—the innate urge to impregnate as many females as possible … in this sense, every man is a sex addict or was one at some point in his life.” He thinks this only becomes a problem within the context of the institution of marriage. He doesn’t believe sex addiction is a real problem and advocates viewing the addiction as “a time-limited condition” and “accept[ing] the man for who he is, and wait[ing] until his desires extinguish.” He writes, “Let’s stop pathologizing every human behavior, like male libido.” [The Daily Beast]
Hold the phone, dude. I have a few issues here. Keep reading »
“Jennifer” is a recovering sex addict. She’s not addict to drugs or alcohol, but she is addicted to having sex. While the stereotype of a sex addict is a) male and b) someone who engages in random sex, that wasn’t Jennifer’s MO. Instead, she was a chronic cheater, who couldn’t stop herself, carrying on a series of affairs while in relationships or, worse yet, married. “My husband was really good-looking, nice, smart, funny — everybody says he’s such a great guy,” she writes, “but because he was so familiar I was tired of him.” So, she set about finding other men. Keep reading »
For the last month and a half, I have been utterly glued to “Sex Rehab With Dr. Drew” on VH1, in which the salt-and-pepper-haired Dr. Drew Pinsky counsels semi-famous entertainers who are battling sex addiction. We’ve written a bit about the topic on The Frisky, sometimes expressing dubiousness that it’s even that common, but the show has definitely taught me — oh, the power of television! — that sex addiction is extremely complicated. In fact, in the show’s voice-over, Pinsky says that sex addiction is as harmful as drug or alcohol addiction.
All of the patients being treated on the show are dealing with sex addiction that has manifested itself in different ways, but I’ve found Jennie Ketcham’s story to be the most compelling. Ketcham arrived on the show as Penny Flame, her porn alter ego. As anyone who has watched Pinsky’s previous treatment shows knows, he insists on calling his patients by their given names and not the personas they’ve crafted, often to shield their demons. And so Penny Flame became “Jennie” again and almost immediately, it seemed, at least to me as a viewer, that Ketcham’s recovery from sex addiction began. Since the show wrapped, Ketcham has left porn and Penny Flame behind and has started a blog, Becoming Jennie, which chronicles her recovery. In her first entry she wrote, “My name is Jennie Ketcham, and I am a recovering porn star. And addict. This day, as every day, is the first day of the rest of my life, and I intend to live it to the fullest.”
After the jump, Jennie talks with The Frisky about being a sex addict, how “Sex Rehab” changed her life, how she feels about porn now, and what her plans are for the future. Keep reading »
My boyfriend of two years has an addiction to porn. We’ve never watched together, and I actually just found out about it three months ago. He was viewing it on my computer and I confronted him about it. I had previously mentioned that porn is not something to ever be viewed on my computer (I have two young girls at home). He was actually replacing our sex life with satisfying his own needs. Things got better … for awhile, but the last two weeks I’ve noticed it on the computer again. Different sites, but still tons of pics of naked girls. I finally confronted him, again. I’m hurt and confused, and seriously sick of living like a nun. This addiction stems from years of being alone. As much as I understand, what’s left for me to do? Can we make it better or is this a lost cause? — Getting Nun