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Sex With Steph: I’m Married And My Sex Life Sucks

“I met my husband when I was 20 (he was 25). We dated for eight years, and then got married last year. I was totally insecure when we met. I stayed pretty insecure through most of my 20s. We went through some pretty rough times together (family deaths, job losses, etc). He’s a wonderful person and I could not have survived the tough times without him. But, I know I stayed in the relationship because I was afraid to leave. I was also a virgin when we started dating. We finally hit a smooth patch and decided to get married. Now, I’m regretting it.”

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Sex With Steph: It Hurts When I Have Sex

I’ll get right to it: I seem to be hymenally/orgasmically challenged, and I’m wondering if you can shed any enlightenment on what goes on for me. I enjoy all the sexy activities and play time, but I rarely am able to achieve orgasm. I don’t receive any stimulation from my clitoris being touched or vibrated against, there’s a little sensation when firm pressure is applied, but that’s about it. So masturbation and oral sex are sort of a dud for me. Intercourse seems to be the only way I receive pleasure, and from what I’ve deduced it’s my G-spot that’s liking the attention. However, the more intense the stimulation tends to be, it also feels oddly painful at the same time internally (sort of like cramps or a tummy ache) so most of the time I can’t climax because of the discomfort. My gynecologist has always assured me she doesn’t see anything wrong “down there” so I’m not worried about that. I’m pretty open about my sex life with my friends. None of them have ever experienced anything like this, and I’ve never read about anything like this before. Is this a common problem for some women? Am I alone here? Would love some feedback if you have it.

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Sex With Steph: How Do I Use Sex Toys With My Boyfriend?

Hi Steph! I just started dating a guy like a month ago. One night in bed he mentioned that he would be open to using sex toys. I love my toys as much as the next girl, but I’m afraid my rabbit would be intimidating since it is bigger than he is. I have never been with a guy who was open to using sex toys during sex…so I am in uncharted territory here. Any thoughts or advice? – SexToyClueless

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Sex With Steph: My Boyfriend Has A Low Sex Drive

My boyfriend of over a year has lost almost all of his sex drive. I’ve tried the typical methods (lingerie, porn, alcohol, sexy messages/talk, etc.) to get him interested in sex and have had less than a 20 percent success rate (which results in a 35 percent erection, at best). He insists that there’s no unresolved issues or problems and that the interest is there but physical desire is not. In spite of his lack of interest in sex, my libido is through the roof and out of control. The question isn’t whether or not to cheat or leave — it’s how can I get my guy’s battery recharged??? — Female with blue balls

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Introducing Our New Sex Column: Sex With Steph

Got sex questions you just can’t ask anyone else? Not sure who to turn to for your bedroom issues? Longing to get help with your intimate sex problems? We here at The Frisky are super happy to introduce our new sex column: “Sex with Steph.” Sex columnist Steph Auteri will be answering reader questions on all things sex-related, from safe sex to self-pleasuring, relationship sex to married sex, and all things vagina and penis related. We like to think of her as our sexpert next door. You may have read her already in Time Out New York or Playgirl or on Lemondrop or here. She’s an assistant editor at one of our favorite sites, YourTango, where she focuses on relationships and love. When it comes to sex, you can talk to Steph about anything. Chances are her sex life is way more embarrassing. Email her your sex questions at steph@thefrisky.com. Keep reading »

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