British sexpert, Bettina Arndt, asked 100 couples to keep diaries about their sex lives for a year. In her experience, spicing things up can really solve any problems in the bedroom and that’s what she was hoping to prove. While she expected to read some salacious tales of romantic rendezvous, what she got really put the love in love life. People bared their souls and divulged their deepest, darkest feelings — wait, men have feelings?! Just kidding! Arndt has just published her findings in The Sex Diaries: Why Women Go Soft And Other Bedroom Battles based on what the couples wrote in their journals. It sounds like the perfect summer read, but if you’re like us circa high school, you’d rather skim the Cliff’s Notes. Here are eight reasons why couples stop having sex. [Daily Mail]

Looks like stores that carry red wine should stock up on condoms, too! An Italian study found that women who sipped vino rouge scored higher on the Female Sexual Function Index than those whose drink of choice was white wine or, well, anything else. Scientists don’t know why this is true, but some think it could be because red wine contains antioxidants that widen blood vessels, thus increasing blood flow to those special areas. Hm, we hope guys don’t use this knowledge to their advantage. [I feel like I learned so much more about myself in that last minute than I have in two years of therapy!—Editor] [Asylum.com]

Attention career women! Have you lost something? Your sex drive, perhaps? Esquire scribe Stephen Marche thinks you have and declared this a “disaster for men.” According to Marche, while feminism emancipated women sexually, the movement has resulted in making women so focused on career pursuits that they no longer have time for or interest in fornicating. The proof? “30 Rock” and “The City” are cited as concrete evidence of this epidemic.

While we enjoyed some of the films from summer movie blockbuster season (Sisterhood Of The Traveling Pants! Step Brothers! The Dark Knight!), we hated others (yuck, Hancock) and are looking forward to a new crops of flicks this Fall. Here are the ten we’re highly anticipating.

Twilight Release date: December 12

I really enjoy having sex once I’m having it, but I don’t think I have much sex drive in general—I never am the one to initiate sex with my husband, even though he’d like me too. It just never occurs to me. Once he puts the moves on though, I’m all for it. Is there any way I can ramp up my sex drive so that I can be more spontaneously horny for him?—Half-Heartedly Lazy, San Diego, CA

Lack of sex drive in women is way more common than you think. Doctors estimate almost 43% of women suffer from a low libido, with psychological and physical factors to blame. Before you figure out how to become hornier for your man, you need to figure out why you’re not in the mood. Physically, factors that can decrease your sexual desire are alcoholism, anemia, and hormone deficiencies. Psychologically, women who tend to have a lack of sex drive can be depressed, stressed, or suffering from past sexual issues (such as rape) or childhood hang-ups.

If you think you might be suffering from any of these factors, make an appointment with your doctor so he can give you his recommendations. In the meantime, start thinking of different fantasies when you’re away from your husband (work, running errands, etc.), and treat yourself to something lacy and naughty (and expensive!). Then, schedule a time in your mind when you want to get busy. A lot of times women get more turned on when they know when they’re going to have sex. Spontaneity can be just as hot when it’s planned!