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Think positively.  Say affirmations.  Be still in the moment. Journal!!!!
We are told to find gratitude when we feel deficient. To pray for serenity when anxious thoughts get the best of us.  To chase our wildest dreams. If we want a Jacuzzi, we are told to make a vision board with pictures of said… READ MORE »


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Ever hear that saying that humans think thousands of thoughts every day, but that the vast majority of them are the same exact thoughts they had the day before? Life is built on habits, and it’s easy to end up chugging along down the same mental grooves we created years earlier. How many of our… READ MORE »


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Raise your hand if you’ve experienced this scenario once or twice: you wake up one morning eager to take on the day, to make positive choices, and to spend your evening after work at the gym or going to a social event you might otherwise ditch out on. But when five o’clock rolls around, your body… READ MORE »


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One of my clients, who just recently retired, is trying to find a new life direction. Now a multimillionaire, from the sale of her company, she’s now bored and feeling emotionally paralyzed regarding her perspective future. After crossing her own “financial finish line,” as millions of us aspire to — instead of booking a… READ MORE »


Love & Sex

Most of the time, I’d rather I was a less emotionally raw person. I would be so much less exhausted at the end of the day. READ MORE »


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When T.J. Maxx reached out to me about meeting with a life coach and photographer, their pitch seemed so in tune with the current season of my life – my obsession with building happier routines, my renewed focus on the tiny joyful moments of each day as the bigger picture of my life took a frazzled turn — I had to give it… READ MORE »


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A path toward bravery sounds like some abstract “journey” accompanied by stock photos of women atop mountains in yoga pants and heroes sparring with dragons, but in real life, it usually plays out on a much smaller scale. Bravery’s what you need when you’re nervous to ask for a raise or sign up for a new activity… READ MORE »


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I’m in a strange emotional rut these days. The past few months have been some of the most eventful I’ve ever had. They’ve been full of revelations, confusions, major changes, and new conclusions about what life means to me — but instead of making me wiser, all these new thoughts and the baggage surrounding them have… READ MORE »


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There’s a time in your mid to late twenties that feels something like what I imagine Armageddon to feel like (or Y2K, because the world was basically ending). We lose direction, become unsure of our life’s “purpose,” feel like our hopes and dreams are suddenly unachievable, and lay in bed every Saturday watching “Everybody Loves… READ MORE »


Love & Sex

Chaotic and ever-changing as life is, it’s no wonder that we look to external factors to define who we are and how we’re doing. It’s easy to lose sight of how our success in life shows up in intangible stuff, like the way we treat people, how we handle tough stuff, and how much love… READ MORE »


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Of all the ugly emotions out there, jealousy has to be one of the worst. It can feel childish, petty and almost like a primal rage. But it’s also inescapable; jealousy is almost like an epic equalizer, because everybody feels it now and then. On the path toward emotional growth, jealousy is one of the hardest… READ MORE »


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This month, LinkedIn rounded up over 80 influential business leaders and asked them what they would say to their 22-year-old selves about their working lives. The participants were asked what traits they found to be most important for 22-year-olds, and adaptability and resilience came out on top. What I find kind of sad and weird… READ MORE »


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loooove the holidays. But that doesn’t make the lead-up any less of a bitch. The older I get, the more I find how unforgiving this season can be. When I was a little girl, I never understood why some of the grown-ups in my life seemed to dread it so much.

An English… READ MORE »


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Warning: if you are literally stuck in a paper bag and can’t figure out how to get out, please stop reading right now and call for help. If you are stuck in a paper bag as in you “don’t know your ass from your elbow,” are having an “existential crisis” or are “stuck in a… READ MORE »


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We recently discovered that one of the many things we have in common is a deep love of new age bookstores. Ami actually used to work in one in LA, while Winona has spent countless hours wandering the aisles of Portland’s many alternative book shops, sniffing incense and wondering if she could ever make a… READ MORE »


Love & Sex

In the movie “Singles,” -—and this sticks with Ami because she first saw it at the age of 14, so it made a big impression — Janet Livermore (played by Bridget Fonda) gives a monologue about where she thought she’d be by the age of 23. She laments:
“I’m 23. Remember how old 23… READ MORE »


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Amazon describes the little-known (thank God!) 1999 self-help book, The Rules For Getting Laid: Get The Sex You Want as an “outrageous, hilarious, politically incorrect book shows men the boneheaded mistakes they make in seducing women” and tells “readers the secrets no one else will have the guts to speak!” Well, that was putting it… READ MORE »


News

We all want to be successful, but things like tyrannical bosses, stapler-stealing co-workers and the statistical impossibility of every single person being a CEO keep bringing us down. So we try to balance the scales by following the advice of self-help books or motivational guides — sure, a lot of those things are probably bullshit,… READ MORE »


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