Posts tagged "self esteem"

The Soapbox: Melissa McCarthy, Rex Reed & Hippo-Gate

I shook my head recently when I read about New York Observer film critic Rex Reed’s personal insult toward actress Melissa McCarthy. In a review of her latest offering, “Identity Thief,” he called her “tractor-sized” and as big as a “hippo.” Isn’t it interesting, I thought, that a man, who himself is part of a…

By: Elle Chase / February 11, 2013

Mirror, Mirror: The Girl I Wanted To Be

She was really beautiful. She was the coolest girl ever. She always knew what to say, and she said it casually, like she barely had to think first. I wanted to be just like her. I was 13, she was 15, and she was perfect to me.

My parents were very supportive. They…

By: Kate Fridkis / January 17, 2013

Mirror, Mirror: The Photo Is Lying

I was looking seriously cute. My hair was behaving commendably, my face did not have anything obviously wrong with it, my belt was making my waist look seductive, and my new boots gave me a taller, lither look than I’m accustom to. Even my little boobs were cheerful and holding form in my bra, rather…

By: Kate Fridkis / January 3, 2013

9 Sad Things That Happened When I Got Way Too Skinny

When I was in college studying in Italy, I got insanely, disgustingly skinny. My host mother fed us very little. I think she requested vegetarian students because she thought vegetarians ate less. Each night, she would stir a tablespoon of canned spaghetti sauce over a 1/2 portion of pasta, cigarette in hand, and when we…

By: Angela Cruise / January 3, 2013

Mirror, Mirror: You ARE Pretty Enough To Find Love

The other day, a girl emailed me:
“I’m worried that I’m not pretty enough to get a guy. I’m single, and want a serious relationship, but sometimes I think I can’t find one because I’m not prettier.”
I wanted to exclaim, “That’s ridiculous!” But instead I thought, Well, of course you’re worried.

By: Kate Fridkis / December 20, 2012

Girl Talk: Dear Dress, It’s Not Me, It’s You

This weekend I was wandering around one of my favorite stores when I spotted a sliver of blue plaid fabric peeking out from the crowded rack of dresses. Blue is my favorite color, and plaid is my favorite pattern, so I was immediately intrigued.

When I reached into the mass of hangers and…

By: Winona Dimeo-Ediger / December 12, 2012

Mirror, Mirror: On Looking Jewish

I liked being Jewish. I just hated my face. I wanted desperately to like my face better. I’d spent too many years laughing with my hand over my nose because I thought it looked even bigger when my face was happy. Stupid, right? It’s amazing, in retrospect, the things we are tormented by.

By: Kate Fridkis / December 6, 2012

Girl Talk: I Put Myself On Mute For A Guy — And I’ll Never Do It Again

I like to consider myself a strong and independent woman. I live alone; I take care of myself and never waiver in my beliefs. I’ve managed to convince myself that I’m fearless; I look confrontation in the eye and am without regret in my behavior – even when it isn’t the most flattering or well…

By: Amanda Chatel / November 9, 2012

Mirror Mirror: On High Heels

Fairest shmairest! Let’s get real about beauty and body image. Mirror, Mirror is a column running every other week on The Frisky. It is written by Brooklyn-based columnist, freelance writer, and bagel enthusiast, Kate Fridkis who also writes the blog Eat the Damn Cake. You can follow her on Twitter at @eatthedamncake.

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By: Kate Fridkis / November 7, 2012

Emergency Compliments, For When You’re Feeling Really Crappy

Sometimes you’re just having what Judith Viorst might call a terrible, horrible, no good, very bad day. And despite your best attempts to self-soothe and console yourself, you just can’t deal. That’s where the smart and lovely folks at Emergency Compliment come in. Head there on a particularly shitty day, and be showered in kind…

By: Julie Gerstein / October 26, 2012

Watch This: Three Minutes Of Beautiful Inspiration

Feeling down? Struggling with body image issues? Stuck in a cycle of self criticism? Just generally in need of a potent dose of inspiration? Check out this video, “On Real Beauty,” a collection of gorgeous portraits paired with 10 simple, powerful pieces of advice for the beautiful, unique woman you are. [YouTube via Upworthy]…

By: Winona Dimeo-Ediger / October 19, 2012

Mirror, Mirror: The Costumes We Wear

Fairest shmairest! Let’s get real about beauty and body image. Mirror, Mirror is a column running every other Thursday on The Frisky. It is written by Brooklyn-based columnist, freelance writer, and bagel enthusiast, Kate Fridkis who also writes the blog Eat the Damn Cake. You can follow her on Twitter at @eatthedamncake.

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By: Kate Fridkis / October 18, 2012

An Open Letter To The Fat Girl

Dear Fat Girl,

Last week, I saw an overweight news anchor respond to a bully with such power and confidence that it made me cry. It also made me want to write about my own experience of being a fat girl. I almost wrote this letter to my younger self: a deeply sad,…

By: Winona Dimeo-Ediger / October 9, 2012

Mirror, Mirror: How I Want To Be At 65

Fairest shmairest! Let’s get real about beauty and body image. Mirror, Mirror is a column running every other Thursday on The Frisky. It is written by Brooklyn-based columnist, freelance writer, and bagel enthusiast, Kate Fridkis who also writes the blog Eat the Damn Cake. You can follow her on Twitter at @eatthedamncake.

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By: Kate Fridkis / October 4, 2012

Girl Talk: Stop Waiting To Be Prettier

You know that moment, where you’re gripping some of your side fat in the bath, and you just ate all of the leftover spaghetti at once, with pesto and tomato sauce and grated cheese and, weirdly, liverwurst, and you’re thinking, Tomorrow I will go to the gym. And then I’ll go every day after that, for

By: Kate Fridkis / September 27, 2012

Mirror, Mirror: On Femininity And Body Hair

Fairest shmairest! Let’s get real about beauty and body image. Mirror, Mirror is a column running every other Thursday on The Frisky. It is written by Brooklyn-based columnist, freelance writer, and bagel enthusiast, Kate Fridkis who also writes the blog Eat the Damn Cake. You can follow her on Twitter at @eatthedamncake.

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By: Kate Fridkis / September 20, 2012

Mirror, Mirror: In Praise Of Awkward Beauty

Fairest shmairest! Let’s get real about beauty and body image. Mirror, Mirror is a column running every other Thursday on The Frisky. It is written by Brooklyn-based columnist, freelance writer, and bagel enthusiast, Kate Fridkis who also writes the blog Eat the Damn Cake. You can follow her on Twitter at @eatthedamncake.

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By: Kate Fridkis / September 6, 2012

Girl Talk: On Hearing Men Talk About Women’s Bodies

I was on the train, heading back to NYC from New Jersey and there were three guys sitting behind me. They were talking about life. Which meant that they were mostly talking about girls.

“Sometimes some girls ask me if I have an ideal woman,” said the guy with the deep, commanding baritone,…

By: Kate Fridkis / August 31, 2012

Mirror, Mirror: 11 Better Beauty Rules

Fairest shmairest! Let’s get real about beauty and body image. Mirror, Mirror is a column running every other Thursday on The Frisky. It is written by Brooklyn-based columnist, freelance writer, and bagel enthusiast, Kate Fridkis who also writes the blog Eat the Damn Cake. You can follow her on Twitter at @eatthedamncake.

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By: Kate Fridkis / August 16, 2012

Mirror, Mirror: I’m Always Checking Out Other Women

Fairest shmairest! Let’s get real about beauty and body image. Mirror, Mirror is a column running every other Thursday on The Frisky. It is written by Brooklyn-based columnist, freelance writer, and bagel enthusiast, Kate Fridkis who also writes the blog Eat the Damn Cake. You can follow her on Twitter at @eatthedamncake.

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By: Kate Fridkis / August 2, 2012