self esteem

Cara Delevingne Reveals Struggle With ‘Self Hatred’

Cara Delevingne took a break from modeling, and while many speculated she was quitting the business entirely so she could focus on her acting career, the British model revealed on Twitter that it was actually due to a struggle with depression. Read more on Newser…More »


How To Tell If Your Body Image Is Negatively Affecting Your Sex Life

The two of you are there, in the middle of the most passionate and intimate act — sex — when your hideous and incorrect views of your body cause discomfort, displeasure, or sadness in the middle of the deed! Except here comes the worst part: you don’t even know that this is happening but your… More »


Watch How Different People React To Being Told They’re Beautiful

What happens when you tell someone they’re beautiful? As 18-year-old Shea Glover discovered, all kinds of different things. As a high school senior in Chicago, Glover was playing around with her new camera, taking photos of people she found beautiful, when she realized their reactions to being called beautiful were “actually pretty interesting,” she explains,… More »


Make It Stop: “I Used To Be Sex Positive, But I’ve Lost My Mojo”

Fresh out of a longterm relationship that killed her sexual confidence, will this once sex-positive woman ever get her mojo back? More »


True Story: Plastic Surgery Couldn’t Fix Me

And it can’t “fix” you either. More »


Check Your Vibes: So You’ve Got Abandonment Issues…

Girl, don’t we all? More »


What I’ve Learned About Size And Body Image By Dating A Fat Man

I thought I’d dealt with most of my body image issues before I started dating my current boyfriend. But during the three years we’ve been together, he’s taught me a lot about size, fatness and self-care. How? By being fat and unapologetic.

My boyfriend weighs over 300 pounds, and one of the things… More »


Girl Talk: How Dressing “Ugly” Helped Me Through A Breakup

For a period of time after I broke up with the man I’d been dating for four years, all I wore was black. I mourned the relationship by donning a widow’s wardrobe. Shapeless t-shirts, a wool sweater with a stretched out collar, an old pair of ballet slippers. I couldn’t imagine any other combination, besidesMore »


Mirror, Mirror: “Fat” And “Ugly” Aren’t The Only Body Issues Women Have

I have a friend who does bodywork — massage and chiropractic, basically — who is helping me to get through marathon training. This happens to be the same friend who’s training me in practical self-defense and who knows all about my traumas.
When he was working on my quads last week, I instinctively did… More »


Mirror, Mirror: Why You Should Really Look At Yourself

Here are all the things I know about my body: My angular face no longer gains weight at the same rate that the rest of my body does, so when I gain weight my head looks smaller even though everything else looks about right in ratio to each other. I have proportionately very large thighs,… More »


How Not To Hate Your Body

Maybe you are a lady and you hate your body because you don’t deserve to have control over it, according to the highest authority on law in the land. Or maybe you are a man and you hate your body because it doesn’t look like what you see on TV or in pornzz or whatever. More »


Read Amy Schumer’s Hilariously Moving & Powerful Speech About Confidence

Gabourey Sidibe wasn’t the only woman to deliver a beautiful speech at last week’s Gloria Awards and Gala, hosted by the Ms. Foundation for Women. Comedian Amy Schumer also took the stage and gave a speech on confidence that was as moving as it was funny, and no doubt relatable to any woman who has struggled… More »


The Soapbox: On The “Confidence Gap” & Women Undermining Other Women

Last week, ABC News reporter Claire Shipman and BBC World News American anchor Katty Kay published an essay in The Atlantic called “The Confidence Gap” about the divide in confidence between men and women. The piece is promoting their new book, The Confidence Code: The Science And Art Of Self-Assurance — What Women Should Know. More »


Mirror, Mirror: The Weight Loss Lies We Tell Ourselves

I blinked a couple times in disbelief, jiggling the sliding weight marker on the old school scale in the corner of the YMCA. An inch to the right or left, and it would clank down, but the weight it was balanced on couldn’t be right, could it? If I was doing the math correctly, I’d… More »


Kickass Woman Of The Day: Dr. Drew’s Daughter Paulina Pinsky Is A Body Positivity Activist

Dr. Drew Pinsky’s daughter, Paulina Pinsky, first came out about her seven-year struggle with anorexia and bulimia in a brave essay she penned for the Columbia Daily Spectator in November 2013. The 21-year-old junior at Barnard College described the moment she revealed her secret to her mom in her essay “Get Your Teeth Checked.” She wrote:
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Some Thoughts On “Biggest Loser” Winner Rachel Frederickson’s Major Weight Loss

This morning, a friend asked me what I thought about all “The Biggest Loser” finale drama. I hadn’t watched it yet, but I had a feeling.

“Can I guess?” I said. “Rachel lost too much weight, didn’t she?”

I was right. I didn’t want to spoil the outcome of finale as… More »


Mirror, Mirror: Why All Those Dumb Diet Headlines Are More Dangerous Than You Think

It wouldn’t be January without the media focusing on anything and everything having to do with weight loss. One of my favorite activities around this time of year is to hate-scroll through The Daily Mail, the website with what I find to be the most absurd/offensive/dumb diet and weight-related headlines. Why do I this? Because… More »


10 Better Body Commandments For The Holiday Season

When The Hairpin published a Guide To Eating Very Particular Feelings, we laughed, but it was a slightly bitter laugh, a nervous “Oh my God this is my life” chuckle. For those of us who eat our feelings or struggle with body image issues (so sadly, many of us), the holidays are especially treacherous times… More »


Mirror, Mirror: Letting Go Of Celebrity Body Comparisons

I think everyone who writes about body image has a blind spot or a subject that makes them feel a bit hypocritical. After all, most of us haven’t gotten the whole “Love your body exactly as it is 100 percent of the time no matter what” thing down yet, and although we might have a… More »


Mirror, Mirror: I Am Sexier As A Mom

I figured that after I had a baby my body would be like a soldier after war, with the proud, annoying battle scars that have a good story but don’t dress up well. A few things went differently than expected:

I had a real baby, which is sort of impossible to imagine beforehand… More »


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