I was lying in the bed of my current lover. I don’t know if I would call him a lover, maybe just an intimate friend. Or a spiritual hookup. I’ve stopped labeling these things since I turned 30. They are too nuanced and complicated to put a name to. Keep reading »
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Sure, Valentine’s Day has passed and the Hallmark cards and heart-shaped balloons are now in the half-off bin, but if you’re in a relationship, there’s no reason to slack off on showing you care the other 364 days of the year. Still, saying “I love you” doesn’t always come easy or convey the depth of feeling as much as simple actions do. After the jump, 34 ways to tell her “I love you” without actually saying it. (And gals, plenty of these can apply in reverse!) Keep reading »
I think there are two schools of thought when it comes to saying the words “I love you.”
- Say it sparingly, saving it for those moments when you truly want to communicate the depth of your caring for another person.
- Say it as often as you’d like, because if you feel it, no amount of times could possibly cheapen or properly convey the sentiment.
I must admit, I subscribe to the latter, though I didn’t put much thought into it until recently. My ex and I said “I love you,” oh, 10 times a day, easily. He said it and I said it back. I said it and he said it back. We both said it and we both said it back, up until, oh, an hour before we broke up. Hence, I’ve thought about what it means to say “I love you” a lot or a little. I still think I am the type to say it a lot, but I’ve definitely learned that others are not like me, particularly many men, but as I don’t want to generalize, I went to the guys on my IM to find out what their ILU philosophy is. Keep reading »
Our homeys at Asylum recently referenced a study revealing it takes the average guy seven months to say the three magic words: “Let’s eat acid.” Kidding, it’s “I love you,” of course, and the average woman takes eight months to say the same phrase. Keep reading »
My boyfriend Curtis and I have been going out for six months now. Just last Tuesday we celebrated our six month anniversary. So I asked a friend what I should get him. This is my first real relationship ever lasting 6 months. She said get him a card, so I found one that pretty much described how I feel about him. But he didn’t get me a card or anything. We went out to dinner at a pizza restaurant, and when we were leaving he asked “Do you have tip money”? Am I going crazy? Cause this sounds wrong to me. So we get in the car to leave and he’s like “What’s wrong”? He doesn’t know!!! Could he be this dense, seriously? I said, “I took the time to find a card on how I feel about you, and you don’t get me anything.” You know what his reply was to that?! He said: “I said ‘Happy Anniversary’! He just “didn’t realize,” he says. I was so angry. I need to know If I was over-reacting or not. I just felt I needed a card at least. Please tell me what you think. – Cardless
Saying “I love you” can be just as confusing as figuring out whether you’re in love or lust. Do you say it first? Do you wait for him to say it first? And when you’re ready, how exactly do you say it? See, I told you it’s confusing. Anyway, we’ve obviously got your back. Here are the moments when saying “I love you” to your significant other is inappropriate: Keep reading »
On Monday night’s “Gossip Girl” season finale, Chuck told Blair he loves her. While the gesture was nice, the words missed the mark. He didn’t say, “I love you.” He said, “I love you, too.”
Adding the “too” is fine every once in a while, but it’s definitely not cool the first time someone says it. The “too” takes the emphasis off how they feel about you, and it reinforces how you feel about them. Keep reading for other no-nos when you’re saying those three words. Keep reading »
It’s never easy — or emotionally healthy — to try to make a guy fall in love with you, but that’s not what this article is about. This is about the guy who already loves you, and how you can encourage him to finally say it already. I’ve expressed my feelings about women saying “I love you” first. In my opinion, it’s important for men take the lead in uttering those words, but the truth is that most of them could use our help. Luckily, there are plenty of ways to encourage a man to say “I love you” without making the mistake of saying it first yourself. Keep reading »